That’s what scares me.. we used to have a good foundation we were inseparable and I was seriously crazy about him and him for me. But now, it’s so weird it’s like we are just roommates who are intimate and friends which honestly is better than fighting all the time but it’s not the foundation a good relationship should have…
And He’s not even dirty or messy honestly, I am more disorganized and messy than him but it doesn’t bother him I am bothered by smaller things like not cooking for me (or himself and just ordering out)… napping so much. I know these are like nit picky things and just because I prefer one way doesn’t make it automatically right. I bring this up to him how I just prefer things done a certain way and he is so fine with anything and that’s just now how I am. I want him to do these things because it’s good for him like cooking for himself and learning to do that.. but he takes it as criticism and is only defensive and says I don’t love him or like him for who he is.
2) Knock off the stupid jokes with your next GF unless SHE jokes around like this first. Your “quite a big sense of humor” may be much more obnoxious than you think it is! You might ask some long-time friends for an honest appraisal of your “humor”. It seems pretty juvenile to me from the couple of examples you've given.
You are doing the right thing. Here is the catch: your mom will never believe you about Deb. She must find out for herself. You never loan Deb anything. Say your thought but no more.
The way you deal with it is to stop wrestling with her trying to force her to abide by terms she clearly doesn’t want to abide by, accept the fact that you are indeed single, and dump her ass officially to match her behavior.
I already have done so much of that. This guy worked SO VERY HOT to get me to trust him, and now I regret it.
Yes, or results on paper from a doctors office – official paperwork
That’s what scares me.. we used to have a good foundation we were inseparable and I was seriously crazy about him and him for me. But now, it’s so weird it’s like we are just roommates who are intimate and friends which honestly is better than fighting all the time but it’s not the foundation a good relationship should have…
And He’s not even dirty or messy honestly, I am more disorganized and messy than him but it doesn’t bother him I am bothered by smaller things like not cooking for me (or himself and just ordering out)… napping so much. I know these are like nit picky things and just because I prefer one way doesn’t make it automatically right. I bring this up to him how I just prefer things done a certain way and he is so fine with anything and that’s just now how I am. I want him to do these things because it’s good for him like cooking for himself and learning to do that.. but he takes it as criticism and is only defensive and says I don’t love him or like him for who he is.
I will. It’s just this one stung a certain way that I could couldn’t get past my own pov
is that all that happened ?
Yes she did.
What does he want closure about?
I mean it’s not really something that I think would have a set date, just what feels right to him and his family
It’s been 5 months, that’s not a very long time and neither is the length of time since the passing of his wife
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Have some self-respect.
1) There is way too much drama for only 8 months.
2) Knock off the stupid jokes with your next GF unless SHE jokes around like this first. Your “quite a big sense of humor” may be much more obnoxious than you think it is! You might ask some long-time friends for an honest appraisal of your “humor”. It seems pretty juvenile to me from the couple of examples you've given.
Why the fuck would you marry someone like that.
It's up to you if you want to forgive or not. At the end of the day, you have to look after yourself first.
You are doing the right thing. Here is the catch: your mom will never believe you about Deb. She must find out for herself. You never loan Deb anything. Say your thought but no more.
The way you deal with it is to stop wrestling with her trying to force her to abide by terms she clearly doesn’t want to abide by, accept the fact that you are indeed single, and dump her ass officially to match her behavior.