Splitting is quite reasonable esp if she initiated the date. Personally, once I'm exclusive I do prefer the man to pick up most if not all tabs regardless of my personal finances. That's just my personal preference and that's only after exclusivity has been established.
She's probably going to expect you to continue to foot the bill for each date. Potentially you may not be compatible, but it's nothing a conversation can't sort.
I used to feel a bit disappointed that now I’m in my 30s I don’t game as much as my early 20s/teenage years. I still might get an hour in at night or a few on the weekend but nothing like I used to. I’m starting to think though that it’s not the worst thing in the world that I don’t play as much as I did when I was 20
At minimum he should have offered to compensate you for the PTO equivalent AND a ‘thank you’ gift.
My best friend has a small business and EVERY SINGLE TIME I’ve helped her run/work an event she offers me full compensation. I decline because I know she cannot afford a full ‘employee’ or she wouldn’t be asking me, and she responds by giving me a lovely gift or treating me to some sort of pampering/fun experience.
Your partner should do no less.
If his business was ‘shared income’ (in a joint account) it might make sense that he didn’t think to offer outside wage, but it’s not.
Dude doesn’t even care if you get heatstroke…that’s not a good partner.
Hell, that’s not even a good stranger.
I’ve bought bottles of water and handheld fans for panhandlers or security guards stuck in the sun, (not because I love or deeply care for all people, I’m not that nice) but because it’s genuinely upsetting to see another human in distress and overheating.
He cares less for you than the average person on the street probably would.
Surprise surprise, another poster arguing with everyone in the comments
Everyone in the comments is apparently illiterate or insane. How did you mutants read this post where her boyfriend groveled for this other girl to fuck him and come to the conclusion OP is the problem?
You are right to feel that he is comparing you to her. You offered proof of that. Only you can determine if this is worth ending the relationship over. You do not know for sure whether he has feelings for her or not. Here is a test. Next time he recommends that you dress like her, do it. Hair style, makeup, etc. You will see the look in his eyes and know.
I had a bad first relationship and got cheated on. So I think that’s where my fears come from. Any tips?
Splitting is quite reasonable esp if she initiated the date. Personally, once I'm exclusive I do prefer the man to pick up most if not all tabs regardless of my personal finances. That's just my personal preference and that's only after exclusivity has been established.
She's probably going to expect you to continue to foot the bill for each date. Potentially you may not be compatible, but it's nothing a conversation can't sort.
Well you're being pretty irrational about it and your husband isn't being very kind about it
It is selfish -he is choosing to be ignorant.
Because you think they're having orgies?
Come. On.
So, knowing she wanted and values marriage, you got your partner pregnant despite having no desire for marriage yourself? After 3.5 years?
Poor girl.
Please dont entertain this girl, she just wants attention
Oh my…. nom nom nom
So? Do weddings instantly make you immune to manipulation?
He sounds like a sleaze It sounds like you’re dating a collection of red flags Coerced sex is assault
I used to feel a bit disappointed that now I’m in my 30s I don’t game as much as my early 20s/teenage years. I still might get an hour in at night or a few on the weekend but nothing like I used to. I’m starting to think though that it’s not the worst thing in the world that I don’t play as much as I did when I was 20
My thoughts exactly.
At minimum he should have offered to compensate you for the PTO equivalent AND a ‘thank you’ gift.
My best friend has a small business and EVERY SINGLE TIME I’ve helped her run/work an event she offers me full compensation. I decline because I know she cannot afford a full ‘employee’ or she wouldn’t be asking me, and she responds by giving me a lovely gift or treating me to some sort of pampering/fun experience.
Your partner should do no less.
If his business was ‘shared income’ (in a joint account) it might make sense that he didn’t think to offer outside wage, but it’s not.
Dude doesn’t even care if you get heatstroke…that’s not a good partner.
Hell, that’s not even a good stranger.
I’ve bought bottles of water and handheld fans for panhandlers or security guards stuck in the sun, (not because I love or deeply care for all people, I’m not that nice) but because it’s genuinely upsetting to see another human in distress and overheating.
He cares less for you than the average person on the street probably would.
Surprise surprise, another poster arguing with everyone in the comments
Everyone in the comments is apparently illiterate or insane. How did you mutants read this post where her boyfriend groveled for this other girl to fuck him and come to the conclusion OP is the problem?
she seriously needs therapy
You are right to feel that he is comparing you to her. You offered proof of that. Only you can determine if this is worth ending the relationship over. You do not know for sure whether he has feelings for her or not. Here is a test. Next time he recommends that you dress like her, do it. Hair style, makeup, etc. You will see the look in his eyes and know.