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Totally valid question. We on-line together, and in weeks where I have my 6 day break, we see eachother whenever he isn’t working (he works anywhere from 5-8 hour shifts). On weeks I am working, I usually see him every other day from maybe 4 pm until he falls asleep around 8/9. So it’s naked to give a rough estimate
Yes, my friend is aware. She's the one that told me. I'm assuming she'll dump him, because she doesn't tend to put up with bullshit, and I'll stand by her choice
Yeah, I really love my parents but it doesn't seems they are very competent are helping me with this. Knowing I cannot rely on them really makes me sad
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i took it the wrong way bc your jump on calling her a bad person, i’ve been taken your advice i’ve been listening but i’d rather you had sent this message in the beginning, this is sure advice and guidance and i thank you for it, maybe it is passion and not love maybe it is love and not passion i’m sure i will find out the hot way, i thank you for the warning and trying to give me a clearer understanding , she’s basically my best friend so i get defensive over her, i do apologize and appreciate your efforts they are noted
I think it wouldn't hurt to try couples counseling. I think he majorly fucked up by doing what he did, but what has his actions shown you since then? I understand how heartbreaking it is but I think there's a lot of internal negative self talk maybe going on for you. And maybe, for a trial run try the couples counseling to at least with a professional mediator get some answers and perspective. If a separation is what you need then he will have to respect that. But, it sounds like your husband is genuinely remorseful and desperate to make things right. I don't think someone would do that for someone they felt was their second choice. This is heartbreaking all over and I'm wishing healing for you and your family.
I will say this, be careful making your kids everything. They will eventually grow and leave. You have to on-line for yourself before anything. You may have a ways to go for healing because this has totally knocked your reality out of the window.
What’s going on with your self esteem that someone was able to treat you like shit, ignore you for weeks at a time, and THEY still had to break up with YOU? Why were you still clinging to her after the millionth red flag?
She is a bad person. That’s the only thing that makes sense on her end.
But what was going on with you that you allows this poor treatment? And what kind of stir reflection have you been doing since?
Based on how she treated you, this end result wasn’t surprising.
I just looked up narcissism traits. Would she be a narcissist if she does good things with the intention of being called a good person by other people, and once they don't agree with her, she tells them how good she's been to them and how terrible they are instead? She constantly tells everyone she's an angel, and goes out of her way to do things so people will compliment her.
I just think that it’s also odd that he’s liking certain pictures on-line especially women that falls in his type. He did cheated on his previous ex. So it’s making me question things.
Omg don't try some joint ownership. That's stressful on the people and the cats. Decide on the cats and be done. If you notice in the future that the cats aren't happy, then maybe talk about it again but really you need to make a decision now. You already know that pair is bonded and this is best for them, so take them. Stop acting like you need to compromise your morals just to make him happy.
But you're open to having more kids with a hypothetical new spouse? Seems odd to me. If you're don't want more kids, then you don't want more kids. Why would you finding someone new change that?
Well if the car is in his name, not paying it won’t affect you. Is your name on the lease? If so how many months left? Can you maybe switch to meeting your friends during lunch? I’m assuming you’re working because you’re paying the car. Keep up those connections. How close are your friends? I’d work on getting my valuables wither with reliable friends or a safe deposit box. Start saving as much money as you can. And start working on your exit.
Obviously, your DIL does not want her husband cosying up to the cousin (eeewww) he used to sleep with.
What gives HER the right you ask? Your son is HER husband; he is accountable to her now, NOT YOU. And she has the right to ask for respect; she deserves it. She can set her boundaries and your son will step up IF he wants to save HIS family (emphasis on HIS, which does not include you).
You are extremely disrespectful. You will reap what you sow and then will go all pikachu-faced in surprise when you get your just desserts!
Let me tell you this as the 19 year old who was in your place: He’ll tell you what he needs to get you back. He’ll love bomb you (as he did), saying all the right things and doing all the right things. And then sloooooowly, carefully, he’ll start again. And this time he’ll be sneakier. Maybe even go for your self-esteem so you feel uncomfortable dressing the way you do.
He has already shown you what path he’s on, one where he’s possessive and jealous, and will make you feel bad about yourself, even threaten you with ultimatums, try to break you with breaking up and blocking when you don’t bend to his will, only to come crawling back. That’s who he is right now. Maybe one day maaaaaaaaaany years from now he’ll grow up, maybe he won’t. Do you really want to be around during the time he’ll be who he is right now, hoping that one day far in the future he might be a person you can be happy with?
This could have been a reality check for him, who knows. If you choose to stay with him to find out, keep your eyes wide and be prepared to be disappointed. Therapy is a good idea, and noting down any and every time your bf says or does something that rubs you the wrong way, no matter how tiny, even just an off comment or tone, even a “joke”, is a good idea so you don’t forget.
But really, you’re 19. Your life is ahead of you, and you will forever regret not letting yourself be who you are and dress how you want if you let someone else, or yourself, curb you. You should be with someone who makes you happy and excited, someone who builds you up, not someone who will make you second-guess wearing that dress you love.
No, this isn’t worth continuing. Not that she’s doing anything “wrong” per se, (other than being crap in bed) but because you want different things in a relationship. She clearly likes being alone and only wants a part time boyfriend. You obviously need more. You two should break up and go find those other people.
Have you ever talked to your friend about boundaries and crossing the line into inappropriate behavior? If not then that’s the only road to follow. On another note I’d like to applaud you in accepting a partner with a disability. I will say with 35+ years experience with a learning disabled love of my life that you will be challenged. I’m talking almost daily. Back to your friend you need to at least have ‘the’ talk and gauge her reaction. Her failed attempts could be due to her dark side and poor choices in selection. Hoping you have resolution and protect your partner from people that will take advantage of him.
I had a similar thought in mind and would say that you're making it a low barrier to cross. The first step is to pay the amount due with interest and tag on another 50% for pain and suffering. Once this is paid, then contact can be resumed. Once contact is resumed, OP can then make the judgement on whether the invitation is warranted.
Of course he's not going to be willing (or able) to cough up the money. If he did, give that to the mom so that she can take it easy for a bit.
Is it ok for you to talk about things in your relationship with your girlfriends, you know, “Girl Talk”? I’m 65 years old and every woman I’ve ever known has spoken to her girl friends about our relationship. These women knew about everything from my pen is size and angle to my “O” noises and face.
Why is what he doing any different? If you don’t like it, leave.
Totally valid question. We on-line together, and in weeks where I have my 6 day break, we see eachother whenever he isn’t working (he works anywhere from 5-8 hour shifts). On weeks I am working, I usually see him every other day from maybe 4 pm until he falls asleep around 8/9. So it’s naked to give a rough estimate
Yes, my friend is aware. She's the one that told me. I'm assuming she'll dump him, because she doesn't tend to put up with bullshit, and I'll stand by her choice
If that embarrassed your bf then you need a new bf. Do not apologize and donl not proceed with the relationship. This is a huge red flag
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Yeah, I really love my parents but it doesn't seems they are very competent are helping me with this. Knowing I cannot rely on them really makes me sad
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i took it the wrong way bc your jump on calling her a bad person, i’ve been taken your advice i’ve been listening but i’d rather you had sent this message in the beginning, this is sure advice and guidance and i thank you for it, maybe it is passion and not love maybe it is love and not passion i’m sure i will find out the hot way, i thank you for the warning and trying to give me a clearer understanding , she’s basically my best friend so i get defensive over her, i do apologize and appreciate your efforts they are noted
Ah friday night, time for the pervert trolls to come out i guess
I think it wouldn't hurt to try couples counseling. I think he majorly fucked up by doing what he did, but what has his actions shown you since then? I understand how heartbreaking it is but I think there's a lot of internal negative self talk maybe going on for you. And maybe, for a trial run try the couples counseling to at least with a professional mediator get some answers and perspective. If a separation is what you need then he will have to respect that. But, it sounds like your husband is genuinely remorseful and desperate to make things right. I don't think someone would do that for someone they felt was their second choice. This is heartbreaking all over and I'm wishing healing for you and your family.
I will say this, be careful making your kids everything. They will eventually grow and leave. You have to on-line for yourself before anything. You may have a ways to go for healing because this has totally knocked your reality out of the window.
You forgave him the first time. Why would he stay faithful when there are no consequences for cheating?
they all have the same mother.they on-line with me on weekends and her weekends
What’s going on with your self esteem that someone was able to treat you like shit, ignore you for weeks at a time, and THEY still had to break up with YOU? Why were you still clinging to her after the millionth red flag?
She is a bad person. That’s the only thing that makes sense on her end.
But what was going on with you that you allows this poor treatment? And what kind of stir reflection have you been doing since?
Based on how she treated you, this end result wasn’t surprising.
Is this the first time she's reacted like this, or does she always blow up when things don't go her way?
I just looked up narcissism traits. Would she be a narcissist if she does good things with the intention of being called a good person by other people, and once they don't agree with her, she tells them how good she's been to them and how terrible they are instead? She constantly tells everyone she's an angel, and goes out of her way to do things so people will compliment her.
I just think that it’s also odd that he’s liking certain pictures on-line especially women that falls in his type. He did cheated on his previous ex. So it’s making me question things.
I don’t see why your friend would make that up? People usually only say that when they’re really concerned.
Omg don't try some joint ownership. That's stressful on the people and the cats. Decide on the cats and be done. If you notice in the future that the cats aren't happy, then maybe talk about it again but really you need to make a decision now. You already know that pair is bonded and this is best for them, so take them. Stop acting like you need to compromise your morals just to make him happy.
But you're open to having more kids with a hypothetical new spouse? Seems odd to me. If you're don't want more kids, then you don't want more kids. Why would you finding someone new change that?
Well if the car is in his name, not paying it won’t affect you. Is your name on the lease? If so how many months left? Can you maybe switch to meeting your friends during lunch? I’m assuming you’re working because you’re paying the car. Keep up those connections. How close are your friends? I’d work on getting my valuables wither with reliable friends or a safe deposit box. Start saving as much money as you can. And start working on your exit.
who within my family my son can or cannot see
OMG, you are so dense..!
Obviously, your DIL does not want her husband cosying up to the cousin (eeewww) he used to sleep with.
What gives HER the right you ask? Your son is HER husband; he is accountable to her now, NOT YOU. And she has the right to ask for respect; she deserves it. She can set her boundaries and your son will step up IF he wants to save HIS family (emphasis on HIS, which does not include you).
You are extremely disrespectful. You will reap what you sow and then will go all pikachu-faced in surprise when you get your just desserts!
Let me tell you this as the 19 year old who was in your place: He’ll tell you what he needs to get you back. He’ll love bomb you (as he did), saying all the right things and doing all the right things. And then sloooooowly, carefully, he’ll start again. And this time he’ll be sneakier. Maybe even go for your self-esteem so you feel uncomfortable dressing the way you do.
He has already shown you what path he’s on, one where he’s possessive and jealous, and will make you feel bad about yourself, even threaten you with ultimatums, try to break you with breaking up and blocking when you don’t bend to his will, only to come crawling back. That’s who he is right now. Maybe one day maaaaaaaaaany years from now he’ll grow up, maybe he won’t. Do you really want to be around during the time he’ll be who he is right now, hoping that one day far in the future he might be a person you can be happy with?
This could have been a reality check for him, who knows. If you choose to stay with him to find out, keep your eyes wide and be prepared to be disappointed. Therapy is a good idea, and noting down any and every time your bf says or does something that rubs you the wrong way, no matter how tiny, even just an off comment or tone, even a “joke”, is a good idea so you don’t forget.
But really, you’re 19. Your life is ahead of you, and you will forever regret not letting yourself be who you are and dress how you want if you let someone else, or yourself, curb you. You should be with someone who makes you happy and excited, someone who builds you up, not someone who will make you second-guess wearing that dress you love.
Dude call him.
You’re right. Thanks for being a voice of reason
Who has your sister been dating? Chances are she's in the same boat.
You did nothing wrong. You're just not compatible. You want to wait until marriage and he doesn't.
No, this isn’t worth continuing. Not that she’s doing anything “wrong” per se, (other than being crap in bed) but because you want different things in a relationship. She clearly likes being alone and only wants a part time boyfriend. You obviously need more. You two should break up and go find those other people.
Have you ever talked to your friend about boundaries and crossing the line into inappropriate behavior? If not then that’s the only road to follow. On another note I’d like to applaud you in accepting a partner with a disability. I will say with 35+ years experience with a learning disabled love of my life that you will be challenged. I’m talking almost daily. Back to your friend you need to at least have ‘the’ talk and gauge her reaction. Her failed attempts could be due to her dark side and poor choices in selection. Hoping you have resolution and protect your partner from people that will take advantage of him.
One of two things is happening:
She's actually suicidal, in that case you should block her on everything, call her family and call 911 to report it.
She's emotionally manipulating you, in that case you should block her on everything, call her family and call 911 report it.
After that none of this is your responsibility.
And I don't want to look like my mother's rapist.
I had a similar thought in mind and would say that you're making it a low barrier to cross. The first step is to pay the amount due with interest and tag on another 50% for pain and suffering. Once this is paid, then contact can be resumed. Once contact is resumed, OP can then make the judgement on whether the invitation is warranted.
Of course he's not going to be willing (or able) to cough up the money. If he did, give that to the mom so that she can take it easy for a bit.
Is it ok for you to talk about things in your relationship with your girlfriends, you know, “Girl Talk”? I’m 65 years old and every woman I’ve ever known has spoken to her girl friends about our relationship. These women knew about everything from my pen is size and angle to my “O” noises and face.
Why is what he doing any different? If you don’t like it, leave.