What are the indicators you’re using to assume? Are you using it to discount or reject your partners emotions?
Knowing your partners cycle, understanding their needs is not inherently rude. Did they tell you their cycle? If you’re using it to understand them better, no it’s not rude. If you’re assuming because it discounts their emotional reaction then yes. Context matters?
You asked a question that damages yourself because you had an issues or you felt insecure about the relationship. If he doesn’t guess the issue and give the right answer, you get to internally confirm a problem on insecurity you were not direct about and make the issue about him.
If it bothers you I challenge you to be honest.
Say you’ve been feeling like he only compliments on your looks. Admit it’s a little crazy after 2.5 years to wonder if there’s any difference between you and Rando bumble girl, but that you are feeling insecure and do.
At least that makes him recognize the issue and gives him an opportunity to connect with you. It also gives him a chance to realize he needs to give attention to the person you are, because complimenting your ass everyday should only go so far.
His answer was bad. Absolutely fair and true. But we can’t rig the game from the start here.
Maybe buy a pizza and put it on the counter with a postie saying “free to all?” Might smooth things over a bit. But seriously, your co-worker was an idiot for leaving their lunch in a place commonly designated for free food.
It's probably not good if it's only been around a year and your fights are “outrageous”. I think you guys need to find a better balance and learn how to communicate better.
Have your wife look into pelvic floor therapy, there could be issues happening she's not aware of…happened to a friend of mine, the therapy really helped.
Do you want to make him feel better or make yourself feel better? Because you seem like the type of person who really just wants to soothe her own conscious. You have every right to a satisfying sex life and you have the right to discuss it with your partner. But there is a time, place, a way to have those conversations. Getting drunk and going into “detail” sounds like the worst possible thing you could do to someone you love. If you can’t control your mouth when you drink, then you shouldn’t drink. I would be so ashamed of myself. You hurt him. I wouldn’t blame him if he didn’t forgive you. Your actions were cruel. There’s not much you can do but wait this out. I hope he has enough self respect to dump you
I’m considering divorce for the 2nd time and I’m only 30 so far worse than you to be honest ?. First relationship turned physically abusive. The second one he just missed my 30th birthday and has a drug problem. I think I shall be single for a while after this, maybe forever.
It is never a bad decision to choose yourself first my friend. It doesn’t sound like she respects you, choose yourself is my advice.
Just leave. Free yourself. Yes it hurts but aren't you hurting now?
What are the indicators you’re using to assume? Are you using it to discount or reject your partners emotions?
Knowing your partners cycle, understanding their needs is not inherently rude. Did they tell you their cycle? If you’re using it to understand them better, no it’s not rude. If you’re assuming because it discounts their emotional reaction then yes. Context matters?
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Back off and stop hanging out with him.
You are playing games and you don’t realize it.
You asked a question that damages yourself because you had an issues or you felt insecure about the relationship. If he doesn’t guess the issue and give the right answer, you get to internally confirm a problem on insecurity you were not direct about and make the issue about him.
If it bothers you I challenge you to be honest.
Say you’ve been feeling like he only compliments on your looks. Admit it’s a little crazy after 2.5 years to wonder if there’s any difference between you and Rando bumble girl, but that you are feeling insecure and do.
At least that makes him recognize the issue and gives him an opportunity to connect with you. It also gives him a chance to realize he needs to give attention to the person you are, because complimenting your ass everyday should only go so far.
His answer was bad. Absolutely fair and true. But we can’t rig the game from the start here.
It's not like i am not convinced, in fact I am but still afraid of this part.
She’s cheating. Getting rides to and from work from another man and hiding it from you is cheating. That’s why she lied. She knows it’s inappropriate.
No you're not making sense
He is contributing the same financially to this relationship as she is, he is just doing it in a more efficient manner than her
Maybe she should have applied herself more in college and gone into a field with more earning potential like he did
Maybe she should get a better job
She has no leg to stand on, she wants him to make more money than her and then buy her a home that she cannot afford
Maybe buy a pizza and put it on the counter with a postie saying “free to all?” Might smooth things over a bit. But seriously, your co-worker was an idiot for leaving their lunch in a place commonly designated for free food.
It's probably not good if it's only been around a year and your fights are “outrageous”. I think you guys need to find a better balance and learn how to communicate better.
What people say tells us who they would like to be. What they do tells us who they are.
Have your wife look into pelvic floor therapy, there could be issues happening she's not aware of…happened to a friend of mine, the therapy really helped.
Why can’t she be alone rn? If she asked for space maybe that’s exactly what she needs and wants
Do you want to make him feel better or make yourself feel better? Because you seem like the type of person who really just wants to soothe her own conscious. You have every right to a satisfying sex life and you have the right to discuss it with your partner. But there is a time, place, a way to have those conversations. Getting drunk and going into “detail” sounds like the worst possible thing you could do to someone you love. If you can’t control your mouth when you drink, then you shouldn’t drink. I would be so ashamed of myself. You hurt him. I wouldn’t blame him if he didn’t forgive you. Your actions were cruel. There’s not much you can do but wait this out. I hope he has enough self respect to dump you
He’s a good man. And thorough.
I’m considering divorce for the 2nd time and I’m only 30 so far worse than you to be honest ?. First relationship turned physically abusive. The second one he just missed my 30th birthday and has a drug problem. I think I shall be single for a while after this, maybe forever.
It is never a bad decision to choose yourself first my friend. It doesn’t sound like she respects you, choose yourself is my advice.