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I tell my husband this all the time… the timing is never going to be perfect. If we wait for everything in our lives to line up near and nicely in a row it will never happen. We have the most important things for raising a child. We’re financially stable, have supportive family and friends, good health, and a loving healthy relationship.
Sounds like you two should try a couples trip, away from baby…. Where you can get some actual sleep, talk, and focus on being a couple for a few days.
However, I'd also have the conversation of “what do we both need to feel like a couple again?” Part of coming back from having a kid is talking about it and sleep. Sleep truly fixes a lot after the first few months of things.
Also until he steps up to your needs don't give BJ or hand jobs. Tell him as much, you need to do sex stuff for me first before I do the same for you. You aren't the only one who enjoys oral…. But hopefully the talking about it, can resolve this so you don't have to do this bit of conversation.
The first step in reconciliation, forgiveness? Free admission of wrongdoing, a sincere apology, asking how they can start working towards a better relationship /trust again AND understanding it might not be possible based on their actions.
I didn’t see in the OP that dad has apologized, has regrets, admitted he messed up, that he reached out.
Parents mess up too, they can apologize. They are not owed blind love and forgiveness just for their title. In fact, their wrongdoings are the hardest for their children because of that title, they have so much love and trust that breaks when something like this happens. Your dad chose to cut her out, to shame her for life choices, her wedding went by fatherless, and now he wants back in?
I know even mental health is a poor excuse to these behaviours He spent 2 years trying to “be nice” and “considerate” and get some sorta education and lose weight but jts all in vain
He does nothing but throw me off treat me badly sit and play all day and demand sleeping for atleast 10+ hour this has been his life for the past year no matter how very hot I tried
I would honestly leave. He likely was taught to be this way by his religious group/family and feels a lot of guilt for liking sexual acts like that, so he’s taking it out on you (which is not okay whatsoever). If you DO want to continue being with him, you have to put your foot down and let him know you’re not okay with being treated like that and that you are open to having a conversation about what he is and isn’t okay with in the bedroom to prevent something like this from happening again.
Words have meaning. You just told a child that you are not his dad, he didn’t hear anything you said after that. From now on he will treat you differently because you invalidated his feelings and he doesn’t have the emotional capacity yet to see the nuance of your statement.
Lmao. Sure do hope your sister is going to take care of you and your bad back in your old age, because you can bet your sweet asshole, your daughter sure isn’t. She burned that bridge and good for her.
Look man, I don’t want to scare you or upset you or whatnot, but psychosis is really serious. My brother died during a psychotic episode because of his delusions. I work with psych patients as an advocate not affiliated with the hospital and I have seen over and over how traumatic the hospital can be. That said, it can still be safer for someone to be evaluated in a hospital setting an stabilized on medication than not in certain situations. I don’t think anyone here did anything wrong, but I think you both need to get educated on her mental health and create safety plans to avoid this kind of thing from happening again while still taking seriously her possible illness.
I tell my husband this all the time… the timing is never going to be perfect. If we wait for everything in our lives to line up near and nicely in a row it will never happen. We have the most important things for raising a child. We’re financially stable, have supportive family and friends, good health, and a loving healthy relationship.
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Sounds like you two should try a couples trip, away from baby…. Where you can get some actual sleep, talk, and focus on being a couple for a few days.
However, I'd also have the conversation of “what do we both need to feel like a couple again?” Part of coming back from having a kid is talking about it and sleep. Sleep truly fixes a lot after the first few months of things.
Also until he steps up to your needs don't give BJ or hand jobs. Tell him as much, you need to do sex stuff for me first before I do the same for you. You aren't the only one who enjoys oral…. But hopefully the talking about it, can resolve this so you don't have to do this bit of conversation.
That sounds exhausting and immature. Why are you still with him? He likes the attention from his ex. I wouldn’t be surprised if they are still fucking
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Why are you with that A hole? He sounds abusive.
I can’t see it either.
The first step in reconciliation, forgiveness? Free admission of wrongdoing, a sincere apology, asking how they can start working towards a better relationship /trust again AND understanding it might not be possible based on their actions.
I didn’t see in the OP that dad has apologized, has regrets, admitted he messed up, that he reached out.
Parents mess up too, they can apologize. They are not owed blind love and forgiveness just for their title. In fact, their wrongdoings are the hardest for their children because of that title, they have so much love and trust that breaks when something like this happens. Your dad chose to cut her out, to shame her for life choices, her wedding went by fatherless, and now he wants back in?
Cut her loose you deserve better
No you can start taking care of it right now it will lessen the risk to literally inflame her skin
I know even mental health is a poor excuse to these behaviours He spent 2 years trying to “be nice” and “considerate” and get some sorta education and lose weight but jts all in vain
He does nothing but throw me off treat me badly sit and play all day and demand sleeping for atleast 10+ hour this has been his life for the past year no matter how very hot I tried
You won’t even have to think about this in like 3 years.
She either is doing this to hurt you or she just has no social awareness.
You all need to seek a qualified therapist.
Your brother is being a POS. You should slap him too for making that comment & tell him to mind his damn business. He's got a lot of growing up to do.
Don’t let her gaslight you into thinking you’re the bad guy here. She needs to take your feelings seriously. Let her be mad all she wants.
I would honestly leave. He likely was taught to be this way by his religious group/family and feels a lot of guilt for liking sexual acts like that, so he’s taking it out on you (which is not okay whatsoever). If you DO want to continue being with him, you have to put your foot down and let him know you’re not okay with being treated like that and that you are open to having a conversation about what he is and isn’t okay with in the bedroom to prevent something like this from happening again.
Words have meaning. You just told a child that you are not his dad, he didn’t hear anything you said after that. From now on he will treat you differently because you invalidated his feelings and he doesn’t have the emotional capacity yet to see the nuance of your statement.
Lmao. Sure do hope your sister is going to take care of you and your bad back in your old age, because you can bet your sweet asshole, your daughter sure isn’t. She burned that bridge and good for her.
I know just as many who inherit the squalorful habits, lol. Altho yes people adapt in a rainbow of ways.
Look man, I don’t want to scare you or upset you or whatnot, but psychosis is really serious. My brother died during a psychotic episode because of his delusions. I work with psych patients as an advocate not affiliated with the hospital and I have seen over and over how traumatic the hospital can be. That said, it can still be safer for someone to be evaluated in a hospital setting an stabilized on medication than not in certain situations. I don’t think anyone here did anything wrong, but I think you both need to get educated on her mental health and create safety plans to avoid this kind of thing from happening again while still taking seriously her possible illness.
It depends if you want kids. They might not want to start a family at 50, but it it’s possible