The best thing you can do is go no contact, get some distance and you'll get clarity in time. You definitely can't successfully greive and move on if you're still in contact with him.
Dude, what the hell? You agree to marry and stranger and you're surprised they aren't your perfect partner?? No shit! This is why most humans stopped doing the “arranged marriages” thing – it's blatantly stupid and a terrible idea if you're seeking real love.
Love comes from meeting someone you get along with then getting to know them slowly before making the decision to commit forever. What made you thing some random girl would automatically be your ideal life partner.
Just remind her that she unless she starts barking, she can't debate wih a dog. maybe if she brings her dog, he will be able to translate to yours.
I'm amazed by the need for validation… she needs your dog's approval and can't handle the rejection…
Well, this kind of delusional person should be avoided. If she can create this kind of drama with a dog, she will be ale to create much worse with/ for you.
The one that needs to snap out of it is you. Your husband put his hands on you and is okay with his mother putting her hands on your child. You don’t see the connection? You don’t think HE will hit your baby? Your child is endanger and so are you.
She lied through omission She implied she wasn't interested in random hookups, which she obviously was. She was banging some guy the same day he was taking her to dinner.
All 3 points are very hot to reconcile. I'm pretty possessive. Point 3 would be the most difficult and 100% a deal breaker for me. Idc if we were married with 3 kids. That's now an ingrained image of my wife being railed and then going on a date with me, knowing I want sex, and taking super slow. It's a mind fuck.
The lying is enough to breakup on the spot, especially since it was something that would have swayed OPs decision to date her from day 1.
Obviously talk to her about it, in the context that you want to know how she plans to heal from her past trauma and move forward. You have the right to want physical intimacy in your relationship, and she should understand that.
She has to recognize the problem and WANT to change, for her own sake. Just going along with it to appease you isn't good enough. Thats where this gets complicated, and it would be better if she sees a therapist.
If there's no plan or motivation to progress into a normal relationship, then its time for you to leave.
I didn’t think he was because I’m not entitled to his sexual history. But with my friend, I reached out to her and asked her what the deal was with my bf and didn’t give me the honest truth.
We have a bit of a history on Instagram. She was muting me for some time and only liking my bf’s posts (which isn’t usual) when it all went down. I called her out on it and she admitted to it. So I accused her passive aggressiveness and then did this. Stupid and immature for sure.
Does she have low self respect too? I mean she is also in the same boat as me. I mean she gave “consequences” but he called her a stalker and threatened to go to the police and she wants him back? When he’s in a relationship….
I’m a woman and I think she’s being ridiculous. Cold shoulder for a fucking week? Give me a break. Sorry I don’t understand her being upset about this and I would be actually angry if my partner got mad at me for masturbating. You’re human. She was asleep. You didn’t do anything wrong.
Eh there's still some wiggle room here with OP's situation. It's not good to always talk in absolutes with relationships since we sometimes have to make compromises.
I read somewhere about a bf asking his gf to wear something different from what she's used to during a themed occassion (i think it was a wedding?) of his boss. GF agreed but day of wedding gets upset and went with her normal attire. Obviously this created tense relationship at work for the bf.
That's an example of wiggle room I mentioned.
Still, not gonna say how you choose to live! your life. You do you if it works. For OP, I stick with my initial advice.
The best thing you can do is go no contact, get some distance and you'll get clarity in time. You definitely can't successfully greive and move on if you're still in contact with him.
Dude, what the hell? You agree to marry and stranger and you're surprised they aren't your perfect partner?? No shit! This is why most humans stopped doing the “arranged marriages” thing – it's blatantly stupid and a terrible idea if you're seeking real love.
Love comes from meeting someone you get along with then getting to know them slowly before making the decision to commit forever. What made you thing some random girl would automatically be your ideal life partner.
Stop being an idiot and break off the marriage
Lol who said you where correct, OPs reply to you doesn’t prove your point, you are just trying to white knight for her
Break up if you don't like her job.
I once datet someone and than found out they worked for a company I don't like. So I broke up.
Yop,
Just remind her that she unless she starts barking, she can't debate wih a dog. maybe if she brings her dog, he will be able to translate to yours.
I'm amazed by the need for validation… she needs your dog's approval and can't handle the rejection…
Well, this kind of delusional person should be avoided. If she can create this kind of drama with a dog, she will be ale to create much worse with/ for you.
Deshaun Watson??
The one that needs to snap out of it is you. Your husband put his hands on you and is okay with his mother putting her hands on your child. You don’t see the connection? You don’t think HE will hit your baby? Your child is endanger and so are you.
Are these people you’ve ever met in the real world? Are you sure they’re not bots?
It's a multipart problem
She lied through omission She implied she wasn't interested in random hookups, which she obviously was. She was banging some guy the same day he was taking her to dinner.
All 3 points are very hot to reconcile. I'm pretty possessive. Point 3 would be the most difficult and 100% a deal breaker for me. Idc if we were married with 3 kids. That's now an ingrained image of my wife being railed and then going on a date with me, knowing I want sex, and taking super slow. It's a mind fuck.
The lying is enough to breakup on the spot, especially since it was something that would have swayed OPs decision to date her from day 1.
Yeah you gotta be honest – what if this friend just does this again to another mutual friend?
Trying to explain this on the back foot whilst being accused of being “jealous” if that does happen would not be fun.
Best course is to be honest with everyone now, so they’re aware of the realities of their actions.
Obviously talk to her about it, in the context that you want to know how she plans to heal from her past trauma and move forward. You have the right to want physical intimacy in your relationship, and she should understand that.
She has to recognize the problem and WANT to change, for her own sake. Just going along with it to appease you isn't good enough. Thats where this gets complicated, and it would be better if she sees a therapist.
If there's no plan or motivation to progress into a normal relationship, then its time for you to leave.
I would take them to mean the same thing
I didn’t think he was because I’m not entitled to his sexual history. But with my friend, I reached out to her and asked her what the deal was with my bf and didn’t give me the honest truth.
We have a bit of a history on Instagram. She was muting me for some time and only liking my bf’s posts (which isn’t usual) when it all went down. I called her out on it and she admitted to it. So I accused her passive aggressiveness and then did this. Stupid and immature for sure.
More red flags than a Chinese military parade. The writing is on the wall
Tests aren't perfect, you should get retested as maybe yours is a false positive or his is a false negative.
The only other possibility is that he's lying about his results.
Does she have low self respect too? I mean she is also in the same boat as me. I mean she gave “consequences” but he called her a stalker and threatened to go to the police and she wants him back? When he’s in a relationship….
Troll in the dungeon.
I cast hunger of Hadar
He saw your message saying “I’m busy with stuff in my own life”? Yeah, I wouldn’t reach out to you either. You said you’re busy
Your gf is nuts. Only thing to do is to stop dating her.
I’m a woman and I think she’s being ridiculous. Cold shoulder for a fucking week? Give me a break. Sorry I don’t understand her being upset about this and I would be actually angry if my partner got mad at me for masturbating. You’re human. She was asleep. You didn’t do anything wrong.
r/notlikeothergirls
Eh there's still some wiggle room here with OP's situation. It's not good to always talk in absolutes with relationships since we sometimes have to make compromises.
I read somewhere about a bf asking his gf to wear something different from what she's used to during a themed occassion (i think it was a wedding?) of his boss. GF agreed but day of wedding gets upset and went with her normal attire. Obviously this created tense relationship at work for the bf.
That's an example of wiggle room I mentioned.
Still, not gonna say how you choose to live! your life. You do you if it works. For OP, I stick with my initial advice.
So after decades of jerking off you know better. Ok. Believe me I would have figured it out a long time ago if it were possible.