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Being single and free to be yourself, and make your own choices is WAY better than being stuck with a controlling groomer the rest of your life. You’re still young! Go to therapy, find yourself, and life your life to the fullest!
Which makes even that much worse that your inconsiderate boyfriend has left you alone to deal with a life threatening health emergency in a foreign country. You deserve better.
I'm going to take his age out of the equation. Even if this guy was 25 or 30, he is messy as hell and not worth your time. I'm going to take a guess is he is one that will always cheat. Doesn't matter who he's with he needs something on the side. And then add in his age, he's never going to change.
I get the urge to confront him but what do you hope to gain? You can leave and text him to tell him off if that is what you want. But if you are expecting honesty or a good explanation or him to be even remotely sorry. It ain't gonna happen.
I think she’s stuck on the “we should have to” idea. As while we could afford the car, it would delay our saving for a down payment. Thank you for the reassurance, I definitely feel guilty but don’t want to sacrifice my job happiness.
Fair point, but given the circumstances of her life irl, i'm not so sure. Without going into too much detail, she has, in her words “0 friends irl” and all her friends are live!. Shes said multiple times that she just wants the physical feeling of someone, which makes me think she is just using me for that and doesn't want to pursue a relationship.
Yeah bro my husband would be out the door if I did this shit without his consent ??
Like come on. You mentioned that he knew you did nude shoots not that you touch other men intimately while you’re naked. Most men are not okay with this at all and the ones that are would like to know beforehand. Why would you send this to him? What was your thought process?
Run like your ass is on fire! Seriously the guy you were dating had a job and place to live!. Everything is great. This is totally a different person who is not responsible for his life. He hasn’t landed another job so he spent savings and is in debt? Still no income and now he has to move? I don’t understand why he didn’t take another position just to be employed he could still interview with more companies and then decide the best decision if offered a job.
He could move in with his family or friends until he works and can afford to move out in his own. Why would you allow him to move in with you and not be responsible for something? Hold people accountable.
You need to decide if he lives with you that he has to pay some bills rent/utilities and groceries as well as responsible for his chores. I don’t think it’s going to work out well like you think it will for the future. He’s not a little kid that you take home. He’s 35 and sure he didn’t quit his job but he still doesn’t have income and he’s spiraling down. You can’t save him. Please save yourself. You probably didn’t plan to financially take care of 2people on your own income, so why are you going to allow him to tell you what to do? Do you think he’s making wise decisions? Again sometimes you have to adjust and take a lower position just to be employed and paying your bills. He’s not doing that. He’s out of income and ideas so now you can take care of his living expenses? If you were already living together would you be willing to continue or do you think it might cause resentment?
Tbh, being pregnant I’ve cried over burnt toast. I feel out of control emotionally. Him asking for space or to be left alone feels like a personal attack right now. I think it’s half pregnancy hormones and emotions and half trauma rooted for me.
I feel like a nag because I can see he is exhausted, I am too. But I do need to ask him for things! This new change is just from this new tough era we’re going through together. It’s nude. But I don’t feel like I can avoid asking him for things. I do empathise that when his mood is already low and he feels like he’s not recovered from his day, anything I ask can feel irritating because he’s just wanting to be left alone and to relax.
I feel very unattractive to him right now because he’s not giving me the attention I recovered before I was pregnant. I am trying to be fair and understanding but he just doesn’t look at me the same way anymore. That smile when he sees me is gone and has turned into a sigh. The way he even gets annoyed for bringing jars to him to open now. He barely ever compliments me anymore. It’s not like he ever insults me or degrades me, but he used to compliment me and now he doesn’t so that change/contrast is upsetting me.
It’s like I’m chasing him all the time. I make the first move ALOT. There’s been times he’s attempted to initiate sex, they’re not often and I admit sometimes I am just too tired or in pain (pregnancy) to want to do it so I reject him. I think this causes him to withdraw. Again understandable.
I’m not trying to complain about him. I’m really trying to be fair and see from his perspective. But I am just wanting a way to make this time easier for our relationship and bring back at least off of how we were before. Everything is feeling so negative and never ending right now 🙁
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Being single and free to be yourself, and make your own choices is WAY better than being stuck with a controlling groomer the rest of your life. You’re still young! Go to therapy, find yourself, and life your life to the fullest!
He isn't a creep at all. I fell in love first
Which makes even that much worse that your inconsiderate boyfriend has left you alone to deal with a life threatening health emergency in a foreign country. You deserve better.
I'm going to take his age out of the equation. Even if this guy was 25 or 30, he is messy as hell and not worth your time. I'm going to take a guess is he is one that will always cheat. Doesn't matter who he's with he needs something on the side. And then add in his age, he's never going to change.
I get the urge to confront him but what do you hope to gain? You can leave and text him to tell him off if that is what you want. But if you are expecting honesty or a good explanation or him to be even remotely sorry. It ain't gonna happen.
For men, yes.
Forsure in that context it can be many things goodluck
Start peeing in bed lol
I think she’s stuck on the “we should have to” idea. As while we could afford the car, it would delay our saving for a down payment. Thank you for the reassurance, I definitely feel guilty but don’t want to sacrifice my job happiness.
Fair point, but given the circumstances of her life irl, i'm not so sure. Without going into too much detail, she has, in her words “0 friends irl” and all her friends are live!. Shes said multiple times that she just wants the physical feeling of someone, which makes me think she is just using me for that and doesn't want to pursue a relationship.
It really isn’t. I had a nicer car as a first year law associate than I go now as a partner.
Yeah bro my husband would be out the door if I did this shit without his consent ??
Like come on. You mentioned that he knew you did nude shoots not that you touch other men intimately while you’re naked. Most men are not okay with this at all and the ones that are would like to know beforehand. Why would you send this to him? What was your thought process?
Run like your ass is on fire! Seriously the guy you were dating had a job and place to live!. Everything is great. This is totally a different person who is not responsible for his life. He hasn’t landed another job so he spent savings and is in debt? Still no income and now he has to move? I don’t understand why he didn’t take another position just to be employed he could still interview with more companies and then decide the best decision if offered a job.
He could move in with his family or friends until he works and can afford to move out in his own. Why would you allow him to move in with you and not be responsible for something? Hold people accountable.
You need to decide if he lives with you that he has to pay some bills rent/utilities and groceries as well as responsible for his chores. I don’t think it’s going to work out well like you think it will for the future. He’s not a little kid that you take home. He’s 35 and sure he didn’t quit his job but he still doesn’t have income and he’s spiraling down. You can’t save him. Please save yourself. You probably didn’t plan to financially take care of 2people on your own income, so why are you going to allow him to tell you what to do? Do you think he’s making wise decisions? Again sometimes you have to adjust and take a lower position just to be employed and paying your bills. He’s not doing that. He’s out of income and ideas so now you can take care of his living expenses? If you were already living together would you be willing to continue or do you think it might cause resentment?
Wish you all the best!
They don’t. She wants to but he doesn’t talk to her. He feels really bad about everything
Tbh, being pregnant I’ve cried over burnt toast. I feel out of control emotionally. Him asking for space or to be left alone feels like a personal attack right now. I think it’s half pregnancy hormones and emotions and half trauma rooted for me.
I feel like a nag because I can see he is exhausted, I am too. But I do need to ask him for things! This new change is just from this new tough era we’re going through together. It’s nude. But I don’t feel like I can avoid asking him for things. I do empathise that when his mood is already low and he feels like he’s not recovered from his day, anything I ask can feel irritating because he’s just wanting to be left alone and to relax.
I feel very unattractive to him right now because he’s not giving me the attention I recovered before I was pregnant. I am trying to be fair and understanding but he just doesn’t look at me the same way anymore. That smile when he sees me is gone and has turned into a sigh. The way he even gets annoyed for bringing jars to him to open now. He barely ever compliments me anymore. It’s not like he ever insults me or degrades me, but he used to compliment me and now he doesn’t so that change/contrast is upsetting me.
It’s like I’m chasing him all the time. I make the first move ALOT. There’s been times he’s attempted to initiate sex, they’re not often and I admit sometimes I am just too tired or in pain (pregnancy) to want to do it so I reject him. I think this causes him to withdraw. Again understandable.
I’m not trying to complain about him. I’m really trying to be fair and see from his perspective. But I am just wanting a way to make this time easier for our relationship and bring back at least off of how we were before. Everything is feeling so negative and never ending right now 🙁
To clarify, she's not LETTING his cheating happen. She can't control or change what HE does. She CAN control what she does about it.
So he gaslights you and acts like a preteen douchebag. You should tell him to fuck all the way off.
thank you for this, I don't wanna start anything anymore, I'm sure I'm better off without them