Honestly I might do that anyway. My moms trying to invite her friends (who would definitely not go see the sensual Australians) too and it’s like… no thank you.
You’re not telling your friends because you know it’s not in your best interest and you don’t want to hear it. You don’t want to put your friends through emotionally supporting you again. You recognise that they want you to be emotionally healthy and they would choose that for you, but you’re not able to choose that for yourself right now.
Not saying stop or keep going that’s a decision you have to make.
Yeah it would suck if you chose not to and it would be painful but I (and obviously your friends) think you are strong enough to get through it.
I mean it's possible she's met up with him once or twice during that time and not told me, he's definitely the type to meet up for one particular thing as he knows it's there if he wants it. I try to talk about it when she brings it up, which was last yesterday and she either 1) Understands and says she'll make changes and then never does or 2) get defensive and make excuses for him and for why she's giving him so much time.
I’m pretty sure he has social anxiety and has always tricked us into joining him when he’s social. Like we’ll make plans to go somewhere and he’ll say once we’re almost there that “we’re actually going to hang out at .” Or this type of situation when his friends just show up. They left to stay at his house, I think he didn’t want to be alone with them.
Not frequently, I’d say. I knew he was was already annoyed that they weren’t leaving and that he was asleep before the friend went in. He swung our door open and yelled at him so I knew he’d be upset.
I think I'd pay attention. Take note of any other suspicious behavior. Is she cancelling plans? Is she protective of her phone when you're around? If you asked her to see her phone for some innocent reason, like asking to see a picture, does she hesitate or say no? Is she constantly on her phone texting when you're together? Does she go to another room to take phone calls? Things like that.
it’s not exactly “i’m taller so we’re the same age” it’s just that with how i don’t act stupid or immature like most other boys we see, both in person and on-line, we feel like we’re around the same maturity level. i don’t really know how to explain the height thing though, when i was typing this it made sense to me but now? idk tbh ?♂️
as for her sounding toxic and manipulative… honestly i agree sometimes, she often doesn’t like what i do but she’ll do it and gets offended if i get upset.
and for stopping contact between us, i have thought about it before, but i’ve got a lot of emotional attachment with her now because i’ve always been a loner in my life, and with her i felt things i have never felt for anyone before. thank you for replying to this post btw, i appreciate any and all feedback and advice even if it’s negative towards me, i want to be a better person so i can start making more friends
Excellent question. Would love to hear more about this diamond in the rough that she has learned how to handle, yet the world just doesn't understand him.
You are not unreasonable and this was the societal expectation for most of time and still is in most countries. Its one of those situations where you basically just tell him that this is how it is and it has no bearing on what you think of him, he could be a literal prince and your answer would be the same. If he cares for a future with you, he will accept that, if he doesnt accept it, that is kind of telling.
lol ya because you have to actually parent your child? You reject literally everything everyone says. No one is going to give you anything new.
Honestly I might do that anyway. My moms trying to invite her friends (who would definitely not go see the sensual Australians) too and it’s like… no thank you.
Looking at your post history, this isn't the only manipulative thing she does. She will never be happy, you will never be happy with her.
End this relationship.
Thank you.
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You’re not telling your friends because you know it’s not in your best interest and you don’t want to hear it. You don’t want to put your friends through emotionally supporting you again. You recognise that they want you to be emotionally healthy and they would choose that for you, but you’re not able to choose that for yourself right now.
Not saying stop or keep going that’s a decision you have to make.
Yeah it would suck if you chose not to and it would be painful but I (and obviously your friends) think you are strong enough to get through it.
okay thank you for your help 🙂
I mean it's possible she's met up with him once or twice during that time and not told me, he's definitely the type to meet up for one particular thing as he knows it's there if he wants it. I try to talk about it when she brings it up, which was last yesterday and she either 1) Understands and says she'll make changes and then never does or 2) get defensive and make excuses for him and for why she's giving him so much time.
Not that weird. I've always dated younger. You're not like robbing the cradle or anything lol
I’m pretty sure he has social anxiety and has always tricked us into joining him when he’s social. Like we’ll make plans to go somewhere and he’ll say once we’re almost there that “we’re actually going to hang out at .” Or this type of situation when his friends just show up. They left to stay at his house, I think he didn’t want to be alone with them.
Not frequently, I’d say. I knew he was was already annoyed that they weren’t leaving and that he was asleep before the friend went in. He swung our door open and yelled at him so I knew he’d be upset.
Cheating is lying and lying is a deal breaker for me. (Obviously, I’m not talking about white lies) Trust is precious and necessary.
I think I'd pay attention. Take note of any other suspicious behavior. Is she cancelling plans? Is she protective of her phone when you're around? If you asked her to see her phone for some innocent reason, like asking to see a picture, does she hesitate or say no? Is she constantly on her phone texting when you're together? Does she go to another room to take phone calls? Things like that.
it’s not exactly “i’m taller so we’re the same age” it’s just that with how i don’t act stupid or immature like most other boys we see, both in person and on-line, we feel like we’re around the same maturity level. i don’t really know how to explain the height thing though, when i was typing this it made sense to me but now? idk tbh ?♂️
as for her sounding toxic and manipulative… honestly i agree sometimes, she often doesn’t like what i do but she’ll do it and gets offended if i get upset.
and for stopping contact between us, i have thought about it before, but i’ve got a lot of emotional attachment with her now because i’ve always been a loner in my life, and with her i felt things i have never felt for anyone before. thank you for replying to this post btw, i appreciate any and all feedback and advice even if it’s negative towards me, i want to be a better person so i can start making more friends
Excellent question. Would love to hear more about this diamond in the rough that she has learned how to handle, yet the world just doesn't understand him.
You are not unreasonable and this was the societal expectation for most of time and still is in most countries. Its one of those situations where you basically just tell him that this is how it is and it has no bearing on what you think of him, he could be a literal prince and your answer would be the same. If he cares for a future with you, he will accept that, if he doesnt accept it, that is kind of telling.