no, she's not a great person. she's a transphobe, a homophobe, somebody who is okay with mentally, physically and emotionally abusing their partner, and a straight up bitch. if she really loved you, she wouldn't do ANY of these things. at all. for any reason. she's threatened by fucking very hot chocolate? come on. do you want to eventually be legally stuck to this person who doesn't respect you at all? if you want kids, you want her to be a parent to them? teach your guys' little kids how to, what, say slurs and hit people when she could just go get therapy?
leave. never look back. your girlfriend is pathetic and terrible.
She's still hung up on him apologizing, but that doesn't matter. Her pain being vindicated right now doesn't matter because she's in physical danger.
He's a bad husband and he's going to kill OP. We know this because he threatens it constantly, and she still lets him drive her car, knowing how uncomfortable she is every time they're in a car together. I cannot believe they're taking day trips/dates to places while he's spent two hours threatening her. OP is living in cognitive dissonance. There is no coming back from a partner who threatens to kill you.
Jesus Christ. To be clear: This is about him saying he was somewhat upset or bothered about something (at a time when you were overwhelmed by your own concerns) and you listened and then told him you would like to help but you didn't know what to say. Right?
And this has led to hours and hours of you feeling like garbage and being told that every instinct you have is wrong and you can't do anything right. And somehow in all of this education from This Man Who Is Qualified To Judge Your Failure, he hasn't ever been able to tell you exactly what he wants you to do instead.
This is absolutely insane. He is being emotionally abusive. What you did is normal. Everything you describe afterward is not normal.
As someone who tends to be like your BF, I have to ask, what is it that you want to hear? I have this issue with someonen in my life. I try “I'm sorry” and “it'll be OK” and that's never enough, but I don't understand what more I'm supposed to say. If I offer suggestions I'm not being empathetic enough. I also don't want to encourage the constant complaining. Its so frustrating, so I'd be interested to hear what it is that you need to feel supported without being enabled in the negativity
Sounds more like a job than a girlfriend.
no, she's not a great person. she's a transphobe, a homophobe, somebody who is okay with mentally, physically and emotionally abusing their partner, and a straight up bitch. if she really loved you, she wouldn't do ANY of these things. at all. for any reason. she's threatened by fucking very hot chocolate? come on. do you want to eventually be legally stuck to this person who doesn't respect you at all? if you want kids, you want her to be a parent to them? teach your guys' little kids how to, what, say slurs and hit people when she could just go get therapy?
leave. never look back. your girlfriend is pathetic and terrible.
She's still hung up on him apologizing, but that doesn't matter. Her pain being vindicated right now doesn't matter because she's in physical danger.
He's a bad husband and he's going to kill OP. We know this because he threatens it constantly, and she still lets him drive her car, knowing how uncomfortable she is every time they're in a car together. I cannot believe they're taking day trips/dates to places while he's spent two hours threatening her. OP is living in cognitive dissonance. There is no coming back from a partner who threatens to kill you.
Jesus Christ. To be clear: This is about him saying he was somewhat upset or bothered about something (at a time when you were overwhelmed by your own concerns) and you listened and then told him you would like to help but you didn't know what to say. Right?
And this has led to hours and hours of you feeling like garbage and being told that every instinct you have is wrong and you can't do anything right. And somehow in all of this education from This Man Who Is Qualified To Judge Your Failure, he hasn't ever been able to tell you exactly what he wants you to do instead.
This is absolutely insane. He is being emotionally abusive. What you did is normal. Everything you describe afterward is not normal.
People who genuinely care about you don't berate and threaten you
As someone who tends to be like your BF, I have to ask, what is it that you want to hear? I have this issue with someonen in my life. I try “I'm sorry” and “it'll be OK” and that's never enough, but I don't understand what more I'm supposed to say. If I offer suggestions I'm not being empathetic enough. I also don't want to encourage the constant complaining. Its so frustrating, so I'd be interested to hear what it is that you need to feel supported without being enabled in the negativity