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Thank you, unfortunately I don’t have any local friends to go out with ? but I’m making my cats to spend time with me by putting their favourite blanket on my bed. And don’t worry, I’m definitely letting myself feel the feelings, I haven’t stopped crying for about 5 hours and my eyes are so swollen they’re basically shut ? maybe I’ll try comfort food tomorrow, right now I can’t eat. I feel so sick.
OP, this is a tough one and I feel your pain. From what little you shared, it seems like your Mom may be on the brink of an emotional affair which may or may not progress to something physical. Or, there’s even the possibility that once they talk she will tell him that she will remain faithful to her husband.
This is the danger of trying to act on limited information.
Does your dad deserve to know what you found out? Can you tell it to him straight, without adding your speculations and concerns. Because based on this post alone, you know only that they are texting and may talk via phone in the future.
My general advice is to stay out of other people’s business, unless you know something concrete about harmful consequences.
My advice to you is to talk first with your mom. Share your concerns, especially about your dad. Ask her straight out what her intentions are. She may shut you down, saying it’s none of your business. Or she may trust you enough to talk about her own challenges with the situation.
And from there decide if it is the right time to talk to your dad.
It sounds like you are dangerously close to following for the horrible cliche: “If you love someone, set them free; if they come back to you, it was meant to be.”
Don't believe this, you cannot force someone to be with you and you should never take someone back who puts their pleasure above you.
He has made his choice very clear and he is not thinking about your feelings in the slightest. Will he regret this choice? probably but that is not your problem now and you should never give him a chance to make it your problem anytime in the future.
Find a new place to online ASAP block him on everything and DO NOT check any of his social media EVER. Time for healing and moving on.
My point is: I haven’t displayed any immature behaviour because I never acted on any of these thoughts, which you agreed about. I had already acknowledged in my original post that I’m willing to be wrong and that I may not be correct in my thinking. I’m not saying you can’t be honest, but you can’t expect me not to reply either when you put that out into the open. Leaping to “immaturity” just because you don’t resonate with my viewpoint is a little extreme, don’t you think? I listed many of the positives and the strengths of this family member and I weighed why I was possibly wrong. We all have moments where our mind & emotions fool us, that doesn’t mean we lack maturity, it just means we’re human. I feel better knowing my own in the moment analysis makes no logical sense and if I don’t interrupt this thought pattern, I’ll end up hurting myself and the people around me. I hope you learn something through this conversation as well, just like I learned a lot today, too. Also isn’t this just a sub to get advice?
What I learned later through years of therapy, self improvement, and anger management
i love this part. because its so important to point out that it took a long time for you to unravel this stuff. it won't happen right away. if it appears to, it's a trap. it's a lie. it's a manipulation.
Nice!!! It sounds like you guys have a great system. Not all age gap relationships are doomed (there's a minor age gap in my nine year relationship of five years) but they seem to have a lot of predictable pitfalls for people who don't know their worth/have healthy expectations for themselves and others. You guys both being willing to support each other is so cool.
On a different note, I totally get the “feeling bad for not noticing the trends/being had” thing (but it's not because I don't consistently visit, it's because I can be pretty oblivious in general.) I get really excited when I can actually read the subtext in an online post/recognize fakes/recognize the outside influences on the writing (like, say, those repost subs/YouTube and TikTok channels.)
I just don't like the fake stuff because people get emotionally and financially invested in these stories. I can usually tell when a post is a money grab, but I learned what a money grab looks like through people pointing out how scams and shams work. I sometimes feel bad about pointing out fakes (in a “if you don't believe the posts, why bother reading here?” type way) but, if I can save one person from sending money that would help them to keep, I think it's worth it.
I don't know why bride and groom are so stressed out about this pregnant lady.
I'm going to guess you have a chill family. I still get shit 6 years later because at my wedding it wasn't how my mother wanted it.
I chose to have a small wedding, and had invited a single friend to be my witness, and then invited my parents and grandmother to come for the meal afterwards. My friend was ill on the day so my wife's Brother dropped everything and came to witness, and then attended the meal. She has brought it up roughly every 4 months since it happened, that she can't believe my wife had two more guests than me…
I can appreciate peoples desire to avoid this kind of drama. (My advice is to do what you want. You'll get the drama anyway.)
This was a very deliberate tactic an ex of mine used to keep me (and the other women he dated) constantly feeling insecure and seeking his validation/approval.
Let’s give your boyfriend the benefit of the doubt and say his behavior isn’t intentionally manipulative, at best he is being inconsiderate and emotionally neglectful. It doesn’t really matter if you did or didn’t do anything at this point. What matters is your partner is showing you his true colors, and it is now up to you to decide if you want to be with this person and accept being treated this way.
Also, you should ask yourself why a 27yo man is dating someone who is still technically a teenager and not a woman his own age. Usually it’s because they fetishize young girls/teens (ick) or have toxic behaviors that women their age will not tolerate (also ick).
Please know this is also in no way saying YOU aren’t mature enough or are naive/dumb! This is about a grown ass man being immature and/or seeking out someone he thinks he will be able to keep under his thumb more easily.
Irrespective of any age gap, there are TONS of men out there who wouldn’t treat you like this or make you feel this way. Life is too short to waste it on a guy like this!
Wow, so many hate comments from people who can´t even relate… As far as I can understand he isn´t being pushy towards having sex with you while you can´t take the pill. I had partners who also rather not have sex than having to wear a condom. And I kid you not, those are usually the men with larger sizes. There seems to be a correlation.
The point here is that he will not take the effort and have sex with you while using a condom even though you went through all what you described in your post. It would only be an excuse if he can´t maintain an erection with condom.. so sex would litereally be impossible with a floppy snake.
I can understand that you´re tired of this. There are great alternatives for women though, and even he can participate for as how long you guys are searching for an alternative.
if a problem already in the relationship is insecurity and trust issues, opening it is the worst thing you can do. if YOU aren't actually in for opening the relationship and just saying yes for him, this is going to go really badly. sacrificing your happiness and mental health during an already stressful time just so your boyfriend can have sex with other people instead of jacking off like a normal person is going to make you hate him.
Thank you, unfortunately I don’t have any local friends to go out with ? but I’m making my cats to spend time with me by putting their favourite blanket on my bed. And don’t worry, I’m definitely letting myself feel the feelings, I haven’t stopped crying for about 5 hours and my eyes are so swollen they’re basically shut ? maybe I’ll try comfort food tomorrow, right now I can’t eat. I feel so sick.
He doesn't do it in front of me he lies about doing it and trying to be sneaky about doing it he knows I consider it cheating.
OP, this is a tough one and I feel your pain. From what little you shared, it seems like your Mom may be on the brink of an emotional affair which may or may not progress to something physical. Or, there’s even the possibility that once they talk she will tell him that she will remain faithful to her husband.
This is the danger of trying to act on limited information.
Does your dad deserve to know what you found out? Can you tell it to him straight, without adding your speculations and concerns. Because based on this post alone, you know only that they are texting and may talk via phone in the future.
My general advice is to stay out of other people’s business, unless you know something concrete about harmful consequences.
My advice to you is to talk first with your mom. Share your concerns, especially about your dad. Ask her straight out what her intentions are. She may shut you down, saying it’s none of your business. Or she may trust you enough to talk about her own challenges with the situation.
And from there decide if it is the right time to talk to your dad.
It sounds like you are dangerously close to following for the horrible cliche: “If you love someone, set them free; if they come back to you, it was meant to be.”
Don't believe this, you cannot force someone to be with you and you should never take someone back who puts their pleasure above you.
He has made his choice very clear and he is not thinking about your feelings in the slightest. Will he regret this choice? probably but that is not your problem now and you should never give him a chance to make it your problem anytime in the future.
Find a new place to online ASAP block him on everything and DO NOT check any of his social media EVER. Time for healing and moving on.
My point is: I haven’t displayed any immature behaviour because I never acted on any of these thoughts, which you agreed about. I had already acknowledged in my original post that I’m willing to be wrong and that I may not be correct in my thinking. I’m not saying you can’t be honest, but you can’t expect me not to reply either when you put that out into the open. Leaping to “immaturity” just because you don’t resonate with my viewpoint is a little extreme, don’t you think? I listed many of the positives and the strengths of this family member and I weighed why I was possibly wrong. We all have moments where our mind & emotions fool us, that doesn’t mean we lack maturity, it just means we’re human. I feel better knowing my own in the moment analysis makes no logical sense and if I don’t interrupt this thought pattern, I’ll end up hurting myself and the people around me. I hope you learn something through this conversation as well, just like I learned a lot today, too. Also isn’t this just a sub to get advice?
What I learned later through years of therapy, self improvement, and anger management
i love this part. because its so important to point out that it took a long time for you to unravel this stuff. it won't happen right away. if it appears to, it's a trap. it's a lie. it's a manipulation.
Nice!!! It sounds like you guys have a great system. Not all age gap relationships are doomed (there's a minor age gap in my nine year relationship of five years) but they seem to have a lot of predictable pitfalls for people who don't know their worth/have healthy expectations for themselves and others. You guys both being willing to support each other is so cool.
On a different note, I totally get the “feeling bad for not noticing the trends/being had” thing (but it's not because I don't consistently visit, it's because I can be pretty oblivious in general.) I get really excited when I can actually read the subtext in an online post/recognize fakes/recognize the outside influences on the writing (like, say, those repost subs/YouTube and TikTok channels.)
I just don't like the fake stuff because people get emotionally and financially invested in these stories. I can usually tell when a post is a money grab, but I learned what a money grab looks like through people pointing out how scams and shams work. I sometimes feel bad about pointing out fakes (in a “if you don't believe the posts, why bother reading here?” type way) but, if I can save one person from sending money that would help them to keep, I think it's worth it.
Thanks for the kind words thats kind of advice im looking for . Well it’s been few weeks but yeah idk Long story short i changed my department
I don't know why bride and groom are so stressed out about this pregnant lady.
I'm going to guess you have a chill family. I still get shit 6 years later because at my wedding it wasn't how my mother wanted it.
I chose to have a small wedding, and had invited a single friend to be my witness, and then invited my parents and grandmother to come for the meal afterwards. My friend was ill on the day so my wife's Brother dropped everything and came to witness, and then attended the meal. She has brought it up roughly every 4 months since it happened, that she can't believe my wife had two more guests than me…
I can appreciate peoples desire to avoid this kind of drama. (My advice is to do what you want. You'll get the drama anyway.)
This was a very deliberate tactic an ex of mine used to keep me (and the other women he dated) constantly feeling insecure and seeking his validation/approval.
Let’s give your boyfriend the benefit of the doubt and say his behavior isn’t intentionally manipulative, at best he is being inconsiderate and emotionally neglectful. It doesn’t really matter if you did or didn’t do anything at this point. What matters is your partner is showing you his true colors, and it is now up to you to decide if you want to be with this person and accept being treated this way.
Also, you should ask yourself why a 27yo man is dating someone who is still technically a teenager and not a woman his own age. Usually it’s because they fetishize young girls/teens (ick) or have toxic behaviors that women their age will not tolerate (also ick).
Please know this is also in no way saying YOU aren’t mature enough or are naive/dumb! This is about a grown ass man being immature and/or seeking out someone he thinks he will be able to keep under his thumb more easily.
Irrespective of any age gap, there are TONS of men out there who wouldn’t treat you like this or make you feel this way. Life is too short to waste it on a guy like this!
Wow, so many hate comments from people who can´t even relate… As far as I can understand he isn´t being pushy towards having sex with you while you can´t take the pill. I had partners who also rather not have sex than having to wear a condom. And I kid you not, those are usually the men with larger sizes. There seems to be a correlation.
The point here is that he will not take the effort and have sex with you while using a condom even though you went through all what you described in your post. It would only be an excuse if he can´t maintain an erection with condom.. so sex would litereally be impossible with a floppy snake.
I can understand that you´re tired of this. There are great alternatives for women though, and even he can participate for as how long you guys are searching for an alternative.
if a problem already in the relationship is insecurity and trust issues, opening it is the worst thing you can do. if YOU aren't actually in for opening the relationship and just saying yes for him, this is going to go really badly. sacrificing your happiness and mental health during an already stressful time just so your boyfriend can have sex with other people instead of jacking off like a normal person is going to make you hate him.