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A brilliant comment! I was thinking this exact thing in my head and then I saw it in writing! Ignore the downvotes! This makes perfect sense. People need to realise there are differences between men and women and that is just how it is.
Depends on the contract, what he needs to do is separate from her, and get his name off the lease. If she destroys the apartment he is liable. Is breaking up with your roommate a good enough reason, no, but he needs to either sublet and let his ex know she's going to have to pay half of the rent. We don't know if there month to month or what the contract entails. So yes he should break his lease.
Based on your comments, it looks like she's the one who dodged the bullet. You’re the only one paying for the wedding? Fine, it is your money, but it’s also not just your opinion that counts. It’s a partnership. You don’t want a partner, you want a doormat. You’re being controlling, because you think money lets you make all the decisions. You were overriding your fiancé’s feelings over your mother. It has nothing to do with being an entitled brat. But if that’s how you feel, then go date another teenager.
Lol ok good argument! /s I think it’s pathetic to not stand up to people who body shame women or are okay with people who do it. For someone who says they don’t judge people that’s a really black and white thought.
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We never go through each others' phones, and if I ask now she'll definitely be suspicious that I am thinking about my stepfather. Any texts that they have she'll delete. Getting my stepfather's phone is out of the question, too, for the same reason. I don't know the password, so I can't just take it when he's not paying attention.
Going beyond the age gap – you generally don’t want to put yourself in a position where you might jeopardize something that’s essential to you – like you’re job. I’m sure you have bills to pay and if you date someone you work with, especially when they’re your manager and it gets ugly it can turn into a nightmare very quickly for you.
and also we don’t know each other in person well at all so i feel like if we get to know each other things could change i would just have to talk to her at school, but we don’t share classes or frees or anything so it’s tough
If this porn book makes you rethink the relationship you need to leave. That’s the first thing.
Let me also say- go browse the web- you’ll find all those things many times over online for free. So I mean, kinda gross- yeah. But something that’s already been done- 100%.
He says he’s ashamed but frankly sex does sell. And he could have made disgusting amounts of money off that disgusting game. shrug
Have a private conversation with them in which you explain, that maybe they aren't aware, but you frequently see their genitals and you'd like that to stop in the common areas of the house.
Generally when people ask for advice, it’s in the form of a question. What exactly is the issue you want advice on? There are several things brought up here. Like do you wanna know what the ring shopping bit was about? Do you wanna know if you should try dating other people? Do you want advice on your or his behavior? What?
I am very tempted to do this actually… but I'm not formally trained in music, I only have a good ear, so when I sing for example, even though my voice isn't great, it's always on pitch, and I can tell when he sings out of tune. Basically I would have to become like a teacher, have him sing and correct him each time he gets a note wrong…
Your boyfriend needs to understand the difference between equal and fair. This doesn't sounds like someone you should be buying a house with. You buy a house and you become a family of 2 people or you essentially become his tennent where he is chasing you for bills and watching you be out of pocket – or 'very kindly' loaning you money…
I currently earn around three times the salary of my SO. We have a mortgage and two kids.
We have one joint account that all money goes into cos it is money that has been earned for the family. Why would I want my SO to have a worse lifestyle or unequal lifestyle to me? In the past when the earning ratios were the other way around the same thing happened.
I left my ex-girlfriend of 6 years a little over a year ago. We loved each other so much, at least at the beginning.
Her mental health challenges became a major factor in our relationship about a year into it: PTSD, depression, anxiety, all as a result of major childhood trauma (her mom has schizophrenia, and without getting into details, really fucked this girl’s childhood up).
Those conditions manifested in days where she couldn’t get out of bed, difficulty holding down jobs, erratic mood swings, anger outbursts, inability to meet social commitments, etc. Our relationship turned from two equal partners into me becoming a caretaker, financial provider, and mental health support provider.
Unfortunately, as much as you can love someone, that dynamic can severely impact the relationship. It is exhausting, and at least in my case, none of my emotional or physical needs were getting met, for years. I was 100% running myself into the ground in order to support a person who just couldn’t be there for me. Compound it with the fact that her mental health challenges often manifested in me getting treated like shit (screamed at, insulted, etc), it just destroyed the foundations of the romantic relationship. By the end, I don’t think either of us could remember what that early love looked or felt like.
I finally had to decide whether I was willing to spend the rest of my life taking care of someone else. I had pushed her to get therapy, treatment, etc but progress was slow to nonexistent. At the end of the day, I just couldn’t do it anymore.
I will always feel a little guilty about leaving her. Part of me feels like I abandoned someone who needed me. But I also realized I couldn’t fix someone else, could only destroy myself trying.
I’m much happier since I left. I met someone else soon thereafter, am with a wonderful woman (a mental health provider, go figure) and in the most healthy, healing, supportive and loving relationship of my life.
I have no idea how my ex is doing, we went no contact at her request after we broke up. I hear from mutual friends she’s doing alright, and I really hope that she’s ok. But that relationship was killing me.
OP, it’s hard to understand how challenging it is to be with someone who’s mental health is negatively impacting you. I have no idea what your girlfriend’s experience was like, but if it was anything like mine, she is probably relieved at the moment to be only be responsible for herself. Treating your mental health is your responsibility, not hers, and letting your treatment lapse might have affected her in ways you can’t see. All I can really say is I’m sorry you’re both going through this, and I only hope you get your treatment plan back on track and keep it on track for yourself. You can’t be in a mutually beneficial and healthy relationship without taking a proactive approach to your treatment.
Hope this long ass posts helps provide a little view through the looking glass. Best of luck to both of you.
Yeah I have to agree it was somewhat performative. It was a nice offer but wrong place wrong time so to speak. I can’t abort everything, change location and tell everyone last minute it’s somewhere else just for her. Very awkward and uneasy situation lol
I mean.. if she had permission to use the card and then accidently used it to pay for drinks but, settled the mistake right away when discovered. Thats not my definition of theft. Ive done things like that, and have had it happen to me. Its just an honest mistake.
Therapist. For you. Not marriage counseling. This is NOT about you. Please believe that. It’s a her issue. Consult with an attorney, you don’t have to make any decisions about life choices yet-but do it.
I’m a fan of telling the other person’s spouse-but it’s a crap shoot on how that will go. It’s just my feeling that everyone deserves to know what is going on to make their own choices. Some people do not cope well.
Again. This is not about you. Do not let your brain make it bout you. She chose this. Please go talk to someone. It really does help.
But then men bully and mistreat “natural” women who don't look like the standard settled by the over done ones. It's a shitty situation for people who were just born ugly
But then men bully and mistreat “natural” women who don't look like the standard settled by the over done ones. It's a shitty situation for people who were just born ugly
Half your age plus 7 is normally what's socially acceptable. You're not in that range so I'd be pretty serious with my questions about how it would work out. I'm not saying don't do it. Just go into it with both eyes wide open.
At 20 I dated a guy that was 36. He was too immature. Felt like I was with another 20 year old guy. Not what I was looking for.
It’s not a hard, but it’s the same idea. She’s sending pics to dudes so that they find her naked, and she gets attention and validation. And he saved it for.. reasons.
You can confront her, but I really don’t think there’s much there that can be explained. I have guy friends, and I’m not out here sending them pics of myself in bikinis. There’s no reason to, at all. Your partner liked that dude, or the attention he gave her, and purposefully went behind your back to send him ‘sexy pics’ that toe the line.
Invite your sister, but be clear that she is NOT allowed to have a “plus one” and that HE is NOT invited. If she doesn't want to come because of that then that's on her, not you.
A brilliant comment! I was thinking this exact thing in my head and then I saw it in writing! Ignore the downvotes! This makes perfect sense. People need to realise there are differences between men and women and that is just how it is.
Try giving him a Blow Job while he is playing. If he reacts negatively than your marriage is in trouble.
Depends on the contract, what he needs to do is separate from her, and get his name off the lease. If she destroys the apartment he is liable. Is breaking up with your roommate a good enough reason, no, but he needs to either sublet and let his ex know she's going to have to pay half of the rent. We don't know if there month to month or what the contract entails. So yes he should break his lease.
Bruhh please read what I just posted and understand please. Thanks
no excuse to be going out on a date. get a divorce first.
Based on your comments, it looks like she's the one who dodged the bullet. You’re the only one paying for the wedding? Fine, it is your money, but it’s also not just your opinion that counts. It’s a partnership. You don’t want a partner, you want a doormat. You’re being controlling, because you think money lets you make all the decisions. You were overriding your fiancé’s feelings over your mother. It has nothing to do with being an entitled brat. But if that’s how you feel, then go date another teenager.
Lol ok good argument! /s I think it’s pathetic to not stand up to people who body shame women or are okay with people who do it. For someone who says they don’t judge people that’s a really black and white thought.
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We never go through each others' phones, and if I ask now she'll definitely be suspicious that I am thinking about my stepfather. Any texts that they have she'll delete. Getting my stepfather's phone is out of the question, too, for the same reason. I don't know the password, so I can't just take it when he's not paying attention.
Going beyond the age gap – you generally don’t want to put yourself in a position where you might jeopardize something that’s essential to you – like you’re job. I’m sure you have bills to pay and if you date someone you work with, especially when they’re your manager and it gets ugly it can turn into a nightmare very quickly for you.
Explain what OP did that makes it out as if she's an object?
That's wonderful but that's not the reality of things these days. The fact that he's divorced should show you that.
and also we don’t know each other in person well at all so i feel like if we get to know each other things could change i would just have to talk to her at school, but we don’t share classes or frees or anything so it’s tough
If this porn book makes you rethink the relationship you need to leave. That’s the first thing.
Let me also say- go browse the web- you’ll find all those things many times over online for free. So I mean, kinda gross- yeah. But something that’s already been done- 100%.
He says he’s ashamed but frankly sex does sell. And he could have made disgusting amounts of money off that disgusting game. shrug
Have a private conversation with them in which you explain, that maybe they aren't aware, but you frequently see their genitals and you'd like that to stop in the common areas of the house.
Generally when people ask for advice, it’s in the form of a question. What exactly is the issue you want advice on? There are several things brought up here. Like do you wanna know what the ring shopping bit was about? Do you wanna know if you should try dating other people? Do you want advice on your or his behavior? What?
I am very tempted to do this actually… but I'm not formally trained in music, I only have a good ear, so when I sing for example, even though my voice isn't great, it's always on pitch, and I can tell when he sings out of tune. Basically I would have to become like a teacher, have him sing and correct him each time he gets a note wrong…
He doesn’t care. I have a feeling he shrieks and wails whenever consent comes up. Extremely creepy vibes.
Your boyfriend needs to understand the difference between equal and fair. This doesn't sounds like someone you should be buying a house with. You buy a house and you become a family of 2 people or you essentially become his tennent where he is chasing you for bills and watching you be out of pocket – or 'very kindly' loaning you money…
I currently earn around three times the salary of my SO. We have a mortgage and two kids.
We have one joint account that all money goes into cos it is money that has been earned for the family. Why would I want my SO to have a worse lifestyle or unequal lifestyle to me? In the past when the earning ratios were the other way around the same thing happened.
I left my ex-girlfriend of 6 years a little over a year ago. We loved each other so much, at least at the beginning.
Her mental health challenges became a major factor in our relationship about a year into it: PTSD, depression, anxiety, all as a result of major childhood trauma (her mom has schizophrenia, and without getting into details, really fucked this girl’s childhood up).
Those conditions manifested in days where she couldn’t get out of bed, difficulty holding down jobs, erratic mood swings, anger outbursts, inability to meet social commitments, etc. Our relationship turned from two equal partners into me becoming a caretaker, financial provider, and mental health support provider.
Unfortunately, as much as you can love someone, that dynamic can severely impact the relationship. It is exhausting, and at least in my case, none of my emotional or physical needs were getting met, for years. I was 100% running myself into the ground in order to support a person who just couldn’t be there for me. Compound it with the fact that her mental health challenges often manifested in me getting treated like shit (screamed at, insulted, etc), it just destroyed the foundations of the romantic relationship. By the end, I don’t think either of us could remember what that early love looked or felt like.
I finally had to decide whether I was willing to spend the rest of my life taking care of someone else. I had pushed her to get therapy, treatment, etc but progress was slow to nonexistent. At the end of the day, I just couldn’t do it anymore.
I will always feel a little guilty about leaving her. Part of me feels like I abandoned someone who needed me. But I also realized I couldn’t fix someone else, could only destroy myself trying.
I’m much happier since I left. I met someone else soon thereafter, am with a wonderful woman (a mental health provider, go figure) and in the most healthy, healing, supportive and loving relationship of my life.
I have no idea how my ex is doing, we went no contact at her request after we broke up. I hear from mutual friends she’s doing alright, and I really hope that she’s ok. But that relationship was killing me.
OP, it’s hard to understand how challenging it is to be with someone who’s mental health is negatively impacting you. I have no idea what your girlfriend’s experience was like, but if it was anything like mine, she is probably relieved at the moment to be only be responsible for herself. Treating your mental health is your responsibility, not hers, and letting your treatment lapse might have affected her in ways you can’t see. All I can really say is I’m sorry you’re both going through this, and I only hope you get your treatment plan back on track and keep it on track for yourself. You can’t be in a mutually beneficial and healthy relationship without taking a proactive approach to your treatment.
Hope this long ass posts helps provide a little view through the looking glass. Best of luck to both of you.
So he is ignorant, racist, sexist, rude, and insensitive to your feelings? Cool dude….
Is your question how low are the lowest reasonable standards? Higher than this.
U just need the right negligé…
Yeah I have to agree it was somewhat performative. It was a nice offer but wrong place wrong time so to speak. I can’t abort everything, change location and tell everyone last minute it’s somewhere else just for her. Very awkward and uneasy situation lol
I mean.. if she had permission to use the card and then accidently used it to pay for drinks but, settled the mistake right away when discovered. Thats not my definition of theft. Ive done things like that, and have had it happen to me. Its just an honest mistake.
Therapist. For you. Not marriage counseling. This is NOT about you. Please believe that. It’s a her issue. Consult with an attorney, you don’t have to make any decisions about life choices yet-but do it.
I’m a fan of telling the other person’s spouse-but it’s a crap shoot on how that will go. It’s just my feeling that everyone deserves to know what is going on to make their own choices. Some people do not cope well.
Again. This is not about you. Do not let your brain make it bout you. She chose this. Please go talk to someone. It really does help.
Teenagers have consensual sex with each other all the time. Have you been living under a rock?
But then men bully and mistreat “natural” women who don't look like the standard settled by the over done ones. It's a shitty situation for people who were just born ugly
But then men bully and mistreat “natural” women who don't look like the standard settled by the over done ones. It's a shitty situation for people who were just born ugly
How much are you putting towards? Did you save up the 300k? I hope he gets a prenup
Half your age plus 7 is normally what's socially acceptable. You're not in that range so I'd be pretty serious with my questions about how it would work out. I'm not saying don't do it. Just go into it with both eyes wide open.
At 20 I dated a guy that was 36. He was too immature. Felt like I was with another 20 year old guy. Not what I was looking for.
Could be certified cluster B. Let’s hope not
It’s not a hard, but it’s the same idea. She’s sending pics to dudes so that they find her naked, and she gets attention and validation. And he saved it for.. reasons.
You can confront her, but I really don’t think there’s much there that can be explained. I have guy friends, and I’m not out here sending them pics of myself in bikinis. There’s no reason to, at all. Your partner liked that dude, or the attention he gave her, and purposefully went behind your back to send him ‘sexy pics’ that toe the line.
Personality disorder severity vs. Personality vs. Traits.
When someone shows you who they really are, repeatedly, believe them.
Invite your sister, but be clear that she is NOT allowed to have a “plus one” and that HE is NOT invited. If she doesn't want to come because of that then that's on her, not you.
Miss girl you know this isn’t good. I would pull back from helping and focus on your partner unless you want to end it.