And you still have a lot to make up for if and when he comes back. He’s not “your man,” and he’s probably making a mistake taking you back. Understand how fortunate you are here.
I said nothing about whether she is suffering from a brain abnormality or not. Whether she is abusing him because she has a undiagnosed condition or illness or not, she is abusing him. And sleep deprivation is part of that abuse.
Which is what you're facing now where you currently online. It sounds like you need to have a problem solving conversation where you collaborate on a plan that ensures that you're both happy.
Could you look at moving halfway between the two locations? Move to a totally separate city/state/country? Live apart but remain a couple? Could one of you work from home?
should i consider him still as one of my dearest friend or as a part of my family ?
Why not both?
I had a dear friend in high school whose father dated my mother briefly, and I was happy that my friend might wind up my step-sister (we daughters were both about 17 at the time). That relationship (between our mutual parents) didn't work out, unfortunately, but I would have been happy if it had.
I dunno either but now that i have reached ny last straw,i no longer view him with same rose colored glasses. i will try to seek therapy,thanks for the advice?.
No, you are glossing over the fact that a good portion of the population finds this to be really rude, especially when it's the diagnoses people almost insist on forcing on others (autism and ADHD).
“Hi friend, you seem intimidated by me and are apologizing a lot. Do you have ADHD? You should get evaluated” is an incredibly bizarre thing to say to someone.
Why are you tolerating this living field of red flags?
He has standards while you had none.
You made your bed. Lie in it.
And you still have a lot to make up for if and when he comes back. He’s not “your man,” and he’s probably making a mistake taking you back. Understand how fortunate you are here.
What is this post? Lol
I said nothing about whether she is suffering from a brain abnormality or not. Whether she is abusing him because she has a undiagnosed condition or illness or not, she is abusing him. And sleep deprivation is part of that abuse.
OMG. He’s abusive girl. No one should be treated like that. You deserve better.
Your realization of how he has been pressuring you is telling you all you need to know.
I suspect he views sex as a prize he will totally control of when married and you will have no agency.
Guess he couldn’t read your mom mind huh. I’m sorry man, please be there for your dad. Your mom is understandably upset, probably mostly at herself.
It sounds like if he moves then he will:
make less money have no family nearby be unhappy
Which is what you're facing now where you currently online. It sounds like you need to have a problem solving conversation where you collaborate on a plan that ensures that you're both happy.
Could you look at moving halfway between the two locations? Move to a totally separate city/state/country? Live apart but remain a couple? Could one of you work from home?
should i consider him still as one of my dearest friend or as a part of my family ?
Why not both?
I had a dear friend in high school whose father dated my mother briefly, and I was happy that my friend might wind up my step-sister (we daughters were both about 17 at the time). That relationship (between our mutual parents) didn't work out, unfortunately, but I would have been happy if it had.
I dunno either but now that i have reached ny last straw,i no longer view him with same rose colored glasses. i will try to seek therapy,thanks for the advice?.
No, you are glossing over the fact that a good portion of the population finds this to be really rude, especially when it's the diagnoses people almost insist on forcing on others (autism and ADHD).
“Hi friend, you seem intimidated by me and are apologizing a lot. Do you have ADHD? You should get evaluated” is an incredibly bizarre thing to say to someone.
Get a sitter for Sundays, then its equal.