Every day, we go through the day masking a certain part of ourselves inside. That part we are not proud of, or just want to keep secret from others, for one reason or another. When we drink, or use certain substances, whether legally or illegally, not to mention get exposed to certain situations, traumas, conflicts, etc., that lower our will to control that inner self, it comes out. In a LOT of cases, we show the world who we really are, all aspects of who we are.
You just met his inner self, and his inner desires.
You know this isn't going to change, it's a part of who he is. And you have to ask yourself, truthfully…. do I REALLY believe he'll stick to his promises…. and do I really trust him?
so you grad early from HS and you grad early from your University. you must be an exemplary students. what is preventing you from landing a high paying job? this story has a weird plot hole. if you ask me, he is the one dragging you down from your potential. him and his parents. the parents obviously does not think you are good enough. more than likely, he probably have a woman lining up for him already. it is time for you to count your blessing of free lodging and free tuition, cut loose and run free. i would thank them anyway.
So he is an angry violent person who you knowing he was pissed at your grandma, got in a car with and drove 5 hrs. The one thing he said to you is he wanted to avoid your family…so you were part of a plan for a surprise birthday party at grandmas house with your family without the issue having been dealt with????? fail #1. You then tried to convince/force him to go in knowing that was the exact opposite of what he wanted to do! fail #2. You guilt tripped him into coming over the next evening he was feeling unwell and wanted to leave, your uncle decided he was going to teach your boyfriend somethings. You stood there knowing he was in pain and did not intervene even though you recognised his discomfort, only stepped in once you uncle had triple jumped all over the line. At this point you defended your uncle again while he was in pain and pissed off then decided to stay with the aggressor while he was in pain and pissed off because suddenly you were scared he would become violent, the person who had not up to that point been violent at all!!! He on the drive back had a moment of clarity about you not having his back or respecting how he feels or standing up for him. In fact you showed him that your family was no1 and he was a far distant whatever. Fail#3. What were you confused about? You took your grandma’s side and tried to make her feel better at his expense. You ignored and trampled over the on thing he asked of you, then guilt tripped him into coming. You defended your uncle! You left him alone in pain! you made multiple choices that weekend that benefited you and your family how many that put him first or showed you listened and supported him? I counted none. That is why he left that is why you can’t fix this. This is why you should not try. There is no way you are a caring loving girlfriend who just happened to repeatedly and consistently not have his back or care about his feelings the whole weekend!
At minimum. If you’re only getting me off once a month like fuck I’m giving you oral every day. Hell every week. Nu uh. You gotta put some orgasms in the machine to get some out.
You tell your husband and get yourself tested for STDs while you're at it. If he decides to divorce you then give him a smooth divorce and don't drag it out. If he decides to work through things then that's his decision
Doesn’t matter. He does not love you. And you’re better off saying good bye. The first year together should be the easiest. Instead you are here upset that he couldn’t set aside his feelings for one day. He does not love you.
This is wonderfull insight and advice, thank you very much.
I agree alot, and i think what i am thinking about right now the what i would consider Personal sacrafice in living without a partner basicly.
As for an exable, we were supposed to see each other this weekend. I was looking forward to it so much after a long hot working week. And sadly (but understandebly) She has to care for her brother who has been to the hospital.
Now i have no go home to a empty apartment for the weekend. which for me is not optimal for a happy life.
What are your thoughts on this ? have you had any long distance relationship?
This is why you talk about stuff instead of moving in after a week and getting married within a year. You don’t really know your wife and you are just getting to know her now.
Was your first child planned? You seem very negative about having kids for someone who had a child.
Question, did she know you had finished because you got too excited and that’s why you needed a bit lit longer ? If she didn’t, she might have taken you being soft as her not being attractive enough because she wasnt able to get you hot. I know that’s not fair, but sometimes our minds aren’t kind to us. Saying you needed longer can feel like a big rejection as someone with trauma like hers.
This is not a movie discussion subreddit, this is a real person asking for advice.
I guess it's comparable, i wouldn't know tho
Ikr
Certain places people have an expectation of privacy, even in a one-party recording state.
End it. He's proved himself to be untrustworthy not once but multiple times.
Don't pass up the chance for the girl of your dreams just because you're playing rebound for someone else.
Go for it, you're single.
I'd stop the FWB situation if you persue it though, this new girl might not appreciate you fucking someone else while pursuing her.
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Focus on yourself and leave him alone. He asked to be left alone so respect that.
Don’t stress – it was a day ago and he texted you and responded to insta! He’s into you.
Every day, we go through the day masking a certain part of ourselves inside. That part we are not proud of, or just want to keep secret from others, for one reason or another. When we drink, or use certain substances, whether legally or illegally, not to mention get exposed to certain situations, traumas, conflicts, etc., that lower our will to control that inner self, it comes out. In a LOT of cases, we show the world who we really are, all aspects of who we are.
You just met his inner self, and his inner desires.
You know this isn't going to change, it's a part of who he is. And you have to ask yourself, truthfully…. do I REALLY believe he'll stick to his promises…. and do I really trust him?
I’m truly sorry this is happening to you.
But…you got through your horrible ordeal by staying positive. Give yourself some time to adjust.
Is that the only thing that matters? Not that he is willing to laugh at your torment? You deserve better.
From OP himself: “The cheating happened once we were already officially dating”. That's definitely cheating.
so you grad early from HS and you grad early from your University. you must be an exemplary students. what is preventing you from landing a high paying job? this story has a weird plot hole. if you ask me, he is the one dragging you down from your potential. him and his parents. the parents obviously does not think you are good enough. more than likely, he probably have a woman lining up for him already. it is time for you to count your blessing of free lodging and free tuition, cut loose and run free. i would thank them anyway.
this relationship is great
Did you even read your own title? Or post? Perspective mate.
So he is an angry violent person who you knowing he was pissed at your grandma, got in a car with and drove 5 hrs. The one thing he said to you is he wanted to avoid your family…so you were part of a plan for a surprise birthday party at grandmas house with your family without the issue having been dealt with????? fail #1. You then tried to convince/force him to go in knowing that was the exact opposite of what he wanted to do! fail #2. You guilt tripped him into coming over the next evening he was feeling unwell and wanted to leave, your uncle decided he was going to teach your boyfriend somethings. You stood there knowing he was in pain and did not intervene even though you recognised his discomfort, only stepped in once you uncle had triple jumped all over the line. At this point you defended your uncle again while he was in pain and pissed off then decided to stay with the aggressor while he was in pain and pissed off because suddenly you were scared he would become violent, the person who had not up to that point been violent at all!!! He on the drive back had a moment of clarity about you not having his back or respecting how he feels or standing up for him. In fact you showed him that your family was no1 and he was a far distant whatever. Fail#3. What were you confused about? You took your grandma’s side and tried to make her feel better at his expense. You ignored and trampled over the on thing he asked of you, then guilt tripped him into coming. You defended your uncle! You left him alone in pain! you made multiple choices that weekend that benefited you and your family how many that put him first or showed you listened and supported him? I counted none. That is why he left that is why you can’t fix this. This is why you should not try. There is no way you are a caring loving girlfriend who just happened to repeatedly and consistently not have his back or care about his feelings the whole weekend!
At minimum. If you’re only getting me off once a month like fuck I’m giving you oral every day. Hell every week. Nu uh. You gotta put some orgasms in the machine to get some out.
This story is wildly American lol
Just tell her you don’t want to do it.
You tell your husband and get yourself tested for STDs while you're at it. If he decides to divorce you then give him a smooth divorce and don't drag it out. If he decides to work through things then that's his decision
Doesn’t matter. He does not love you. And you’re better off saying good bye. The first year together should be the easiest. Instead you are here upset that he couldn’t set aside his feelings for one day. He does not love you.
This is wonderfull insight and advice, thank you very much.
I agree alot, and i think what i am thinking about right now the what i would consider Personal sacrafice in living without a partner basicly.
As for an exable, we were supposed to see each other this weekend. I was looking forward to it so much after a long hot working week. And sadly (but understandebly) She has to care for her brother who has been to the hospital.
Now i have no go home to a empty apartment for the weekend. which for me is not optimal for a happy life.
What are your thoughts on this ? have you had any long distance relationship?
OP please clarify what exactly the flirting consists of?
You are saying that you are not his priority! Leave him to his first love. Find someone who appreciates being with you. Good luck!
I vote start being best friends with him ✨ cuz then if your bf is mad it shows his true intent.
Yup. I just did thst last month. No yelling, no giving her a heads up, just BLOCKED.
This is why you talk about stuff instead of moving in after a week and getting married within a year. You don’t really know your wife and you are just getting to know her now.
Was your first child planned? You seem very negative about having kids for someone who had a child.
This is a tough one.
Question, did she know you had finished because you got too excited and that’s why you needed a bit lit longer ? If she didn’t, she might have taken you being soft as her not being attractive enough because she wasnt able to get you hot. I know that’s not fair, but sometimes our minds aren’t kind to us. Saying you needed longer can feel like a big rejection as someone with trauma like hers.
Poorly written fiction.
Do you have text to prove he transferred(aka stole) the money? If so you can report him to authority, get the money back and then leave his ass obv.