Don’t contact him again. He knows he’s c0cked up here. You don’t say how long you’ve been together. Maybe the pressure of meeting your family was too much.
Buy a copy of The Rules. Don’t treat it as gospel but it’s worth a read.
I would tell your brother. Uncle has reoffended “that they know of “. Alot of these things are swept under the rug. Your brothers safety is more important than their discomfort. Also I'm sorry that happened to you. It's awful.
Yes I bring it up and try to talk about it but she kind of likes to just brush it off. Example this morning I wake up at 5:20 am and blood is flowing and I’m aroused so I try to initiate with her and she gets grumpy and pushes me off 2 or 3 times. So of course I got a little upset rolled over and said I guess I’ll just please myself, I didn’t but i got up and started getting ready for work so she says come back to bed. And then she tries to initiate but at this point I’m turned off from being shoved away a few times so I’m no longer turned on. Other things have changed as well like when I touch her breasts or try to play with her nipples she now tells me she doesn’t like it and just never said anything before
Drying out your phone when you get it wet. Better than rice—that’s what desiccant is for—keeping things dry. I keep the packets in my “battery” drawer and they keep the batteries from freaking out due to the humidity. I also take a baggie hiking for when someone inevitably drops their phone in a water crossing trying to get that perfect selfie. ?
That’s just being human. Most of us want to feel desired- ESPECIALLY by our spouse. My husband has wanted me regardless of when I was big and pregnant, or thin, or needing to lose some pounds. It meant everything to me. Same with me with him, I like his dad bod better actually lmao.
I think it sounds like she broke your trust……a little bit of weight (which it sounds like that was all it was) shouldn’t make her lose all attraction to you. Weight and health fluctuate during a marriage, knowing your spouse loves and desires you even when you aren’t at your peak is important. I would be really hurt too.
Hmmm this lack a bit of context but I hear you. My ex gf also wasn't really supportive of my feelings and she would only take the things I said for the worst. She used to state things like “I'm sorry YOU feel bad” instead of I'm sorry I made you feel bad. The truth is that being over sensitive can be frustrated if your partner is not equipped to deal with it and the other truth is that some SOs are not ready to deal with any sort of external emotion. It's not really a am I too needy or he's an asshole dilema. It's more a compatibility issue, a high in conscious person usually can't work it out with a person who is not high in the consciousness department. Of course I would recommend you to talk with him about it but seems like you already tried. Couples therapy maybe?
Right. It's not like science is a field that is constantly being updated with new information and theories. Besides, you've gotten far enough in life with your 3rd grade understanding
Hey /u/Lost-Sleep1017, how did telling him overly go?
Hopefully she keeps working on it so you don't have to break up.
And thank you.
The signs are there
Don’t contact him again. He knows he’s c0cked up here. You don’t say how long you’ve been together. Maybe the pressure of meeting your family was too much.
Buy a copy of The Rules. Don’t treat it as gospel but it’s worth a read.
I would tell your brother. Uncle has reoffended “that they know of “. Alot of these things are swept under the rug. Your brothers safety is more important than their discomfort. Also I'm sorry that happened to you. It's awful.
Yes I bring it up and try to talk about it but she kind of likes to just brush it off. Example this morning I wake up at 5:20 am and blood is flowing and I’m aroused so I try to initiate with her and she gets grumpy and pushes me off 2 or 3 times. So of course I got a little upset rolled over and said I guess I’ll just please myself, I didn’t but i got up and started getting ready for work so she says come back to bed. And then she tries to initiate but at this point I’m turned off from being shoved away a few times so I’m no longer turned on. Other things have changed as well like when I touch her breasts or try to play with her nipples she now tells me she doesn’t like it and just never said anything before
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So OP should just be fine with dudes hitting on his girl and her allowing it?
Drying out your phone when you get it wet. Better than rice—that’s what desiccant is for—keeping things dry. I keep the packets in my “battery” drawer and they keep the batteries from freaking out due to the humidity. I also take a baggie hiking for when someone inevitably drops their phone in a water crossing trying to get that perfect selfie. ?
Tell him these words.
“When you checked on the toy first, I felt like you cared about a broken toy more than you did about the fact that I was injured.”
He turns to me and KISSES ME (again, first time thing with us), hugs my waist and goes
Awwww cute!!!
“Our 1 year anniversary, idiot. I’m making reservations.”
Wait what
That’s just being human. Most of us want to feel desired- ESPECIALLY by our spouse. My husband has wanted me regardless of when I was big and pregnant, or thin, or needing to lose some pounds. It meant everything to me. Same with me with him, I like his dad bod better actually lmao.
I think it sounds like she broke your trust……a little bit of weight (which it sounds like that was all it was) shouldn’t make her lose all attraction to you. Weight and health fluctuate during a marriage, knowing your spouse loves and desires you even when you aren’t at your peak is important. I would be really hurt too.
Hmmm this lack a bit of context but I hear you. My ex gf also wasn't really supportive of my feelings and she would only take the things I said for the worst. She used to state things like “I'm sorry YOU feel bad” instead of I'm sorry I made you feel bad. The truth is that being over sensitive can be frustrated if your partner is not equipped to deal with it and the other truth is that some SOs are not ready to deal with any sort of external emotion. It's not really a am I too needy or he's an asshole dilema. It's more a compatibility issue, a high in conscious person usually can't work it out with a person who is not high in the consciousness department. Of course I would recommend you to talk with him about it but seems like you already tried. Couples therapy maybe?
Please take care of yourself and get away, get out.
Right. It's not like science is a field that is constantly being updated with new information and theories. Besides, you've gotten far enough in life with your 3rd grade understanding
I’m so sorry. This isn’t okay. It really sounds as if he needs professional help.
When did marriage become part of this? Insanity rules
Ya, do you have children? Because kids need to be taken care of before “diffusing” anything.