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my brotha she spoon feeding it to u!!! i’m a more forward guy personally, i wouldn’t try to get to know her over text. text her like “hey if ur free let’s get coffee” or “meet me at (this place)” and be ur self man. seems like she’s into to u already, hot part over lol if the lil date goes good she’ll be texting u instead of u having to start the convo every time
I use to think anything involving playing with my butt as gay too. Its not. After being with my now wife for going on 7 years we have tried all kinds of butt stuff. I use to get uncomfortable about her fingering my butt but now I take plugs and if she really wanted to Id let her peg me.
It’s completely fine to not want to be pegged but I wouldn’t label it as gay.
Personally I wouldn't be able to sleep at night if I didn't say anything. It's kind of up to you what you can on-line with. My guess is that this guy is a serial cheater and she's already aware and has made peace with that, but the only thing you have control over is what you say or don't say.
I'd contact her however you contacted her before, let her know the bare facts of what happened and explain that you're telling her now because you felt she deserved to know before marrying him, and leave it there. If you still have the messages he sent about keeping it quiet, send those as screenshots. Beyond that, it's her decision whether or not she marries him.
I’m heavy but short. I look a little chubby but I’m quite muscular so I’m way heavier than people expect. It scares the crap out of me when people suddenly pick me up because I think I’m going to get dropped or they’re going to injure themselves. I used to travel with a large, heavy backpack and I had two guy do long term injury to their shoulders by trying to sling my bag while making assumptions about what kind of weight I was carrying and not bracing themselves. So to me, a guy assuming he’s strong enough without doing the work looks foolish. If a guy was going to pick me up and throw me around I’d want him to do it with good form and a realistic evaluation of my weight.
I think you should be honest. It’s incredibly cute that you put in the effort. She’s probably well aware of her size and weight. Lots of people like to “feel small” in intimacy but that doesn’t mean they want a complex scheme to try and fool them into thinking they’re literally smaller. It’s like a reverse of those realistic foam boulders they used to have actors pick up in superhero movies, it’s silly lol. And the other half of dynamic, the one she doesn’t want to say to hurt your feelings, is she wants you to feel big and strong COMPARED to you. It’s about a dynamic, it’s a cousin of the dom/sub dynamic people find erotic but usually in a way that has clear boundaries beyond the bedroom.
So maybe tread lightly on how you say it but be honest. Don’t be like “I had to get buff because you’re so tall and heavy.” And more “I know you like being tossed around so I worked out to get better at it for you.” Trust me, that’s hot.
Browsing the comments so far it seems like the people saying not to tell her are dudes and it’s honestly insulting. It’s true that body-image stuff is very common and cuts really deep for so many women that it must seem unapproachable to a lot of men. But that doesn’t mean every woman with an issue with her body (almost all of us) are fragile and delusional.
Question: What would you LIKE to happen to your mother? Do you want to see her humiliated, beaten in the streets, stoned? What do you think is a fair punishment and WHO should mete out that punishment? Do YOU want to be judge, jury and executioner? Then by all means have at it but I can guarantee you this and that is that you will regret being all of those things in the end..Your mother is a flawed human being as we all are but how she has chosen to handle her life is HER business and not yours, it's not up to you to decide what happens next in her life..Your best path to pursue is to sit down and have a rational talk with your mom and then do your best to move past this.
Yea, I have. Like my wife, in our happy marriage, where we don't defend insecurities and build a relationship on a foundation of lying to each other. Because neither lying to each other or trying to protect our insecurities from being confronted and dealt with are good strategies for a healthy relationship.
You're just another person suggesting making your own lives worse in the long run because in the short run fixing issues is uncomfortable.
He asked point blank. If you can't have a relationship without lying, you don't have a healthy relationship and should probably climb on down off that high horse about “BRO, U DONT LIE 2 UR WIFE? DO U EVEN TALK 2 HUMANZ?” like that's the moral highground here.
He needs to figure out a system to get himself out of bed. I'm older than him and I still struggle but it's 100% on me to be at work on time.
Things he can do
use an alarm clock that is either loud, uses light, or makes him get up to turn it off use a smart watch that vibrates or chimes go to bed earlier drink a lot of water before bed so he has to get up in the morning set a routine of getting up at x time and he can get a “reward” for doing so (extra coffee or treat) until the routine becomes the norm stop blaming you fir his shortfallings take responsible for himself since he's a grown ass man
Oof, this is a tough one for both of you for sure.
Ideally, she would have had a conversation with you beforehand knowing that this is something that does affect both of you, even if it's for a good reason, but seemingly unavoidable interruptions where you sleep every night is significant. But when approaching the conversation, don't focus on that, maybe just ask that in the future big things like this that actively affects your life, she talk to you and ask first.
As for the rest of the conversation, tell her it's great she wants to be helpful to her friend, but ask what the plan is long term for this. You both cannot be responsible for her health, and this level of care for her is coming at the cost of both you and your gfs health.
Emphasize that you want to be supportive and help but it can't come at the cost of literally never getting a full night sleep. If she responds well what if something happens, perhaps she needs more clarity from her friends' doctor about what exactly the risks are and how necessary constant hourly notifications in blood sugar fluctuations are.
I'm no doctor, but having several people in my family with type 1 and type 2 without constant monitors, if nightly blood sugar fluctuations were that dangerous that it needs hourly micromanaging while someone is asleep, their doctor would be recommending hospitalization, not phone notifications.
He's sending revenge porn. There is absolutely no way you can continue this relationship with him. Access his phone to delete all photos and videos with you, from the deleted folder too. Check his cloud folder too. Check his messages with these friends to ensure you've not been sent in any of them. Access any other devices you know he has. Check private folders on iPhone and android, Google these If you don't know how.
You're not ruining his day in the least, you offered several very simple alternatives and he shut them down. Block his fiance, block his mom, and (since you can't exactly block a coparent) just be a broken record with him. “My decision is no”. He says you're ruining his wedding? Fine, whatever, “my decision is still no”. Be boring. Give nothing to engage with. You are a rock in a stream, no one can move you.
None of us is surprised. We know John is really taken aback and was not expecting to have family financial problems to this extent. But it is definitely what he signed up for when he began the relationship.
If he doesn't want to see you, that's not much of a relationship, is it? I'd just break up cuz there's nothing there anyway except manipulation which will probably lead to abuse.
If lube and foreplay aren't helping this is a medical/psychosomatic issue. She needs to see a gynecologist.
Some discomfort or soreness afterwards (for both of you) wouldn't be that abnormal if your gf is tiny. That you're unable to have sex at all due to pain is abnormal.
my brotha she spoon feeding it to u!!! i’m a more forward guy personally, i wouldn’t try to get to know her over text. text her like “hey if ur free let’s get coffee” or “meet me at (this place)” and be ur self man. seems like she’s into to u already, hot part over lol if the lil date goes good she’ll be texting u instead of u having to start the convo every time
I use to think anything involving playing with my butt as gay too. Its not. After being with my now wife for going on 7 years we have tried all kinds of butt stuff. I use to get uncomfortable about her fingering my butt but now I take plugs and if she really wanted to Id let her peg me.
It’s completely fine to not want to be pegged but I wouldn’t label it as gay.
Absolutely not.
I'm in the same boat. I understand you.
Personally I wouldn't be able to sleep at night if I didn't say anything. It's kind of up to you what you can on-line with. My guess is that this guy is a serial cheater and she's already aware and has made peace with that, but the only thing you have control over is what you say or don't say.
I'd contact her however you contacted her before, let her know the bare facts of what happened and explain that you're telling her now because you felt she deserved to know before marrying him, and leave it there. If you still have the messages he sent about keeping it quiet, send those as screenshots. Beyond that, it's her decision whether or not she marries him.
This is why you don’t move in with somebody after dating for only five months
I’m heavy but short. I look a little chubby but I’m quite muscular so I’m way heavier than people expect. It scares the crap out of me when people suddenly pick me up because I think I’m going to get dropped or they’re going to injure themselves. I used to travel with a large, heavy backpack and I had two guy do long term injury to their shoulders by trying to sling my bag while making assumptions about what kind of weight I was carrying and not bracing themselves. So to me, a guy assuming he’s strong enough without doing the work looks foolish. If a guy was going to pick me up and throw me around I’d want him to do it with good form and a realistic evaluation of my weight.
I think you should be honest. It’s incredibly cute that you put in the effort. She’s probably well aware of her size and weight. Lots of people like to “feel small” in intimacy but that doesn’t mean they want a complex scheme to try and fool them into thinking they’re literally smaller. It’s like a reverse of those realistic foam boulders they used to have actors pick up in superhero movies, it’s silly lol. And the other half of dynamic, the one she doesn’t want to say to hurt your feelings, is she wants you to feel big and strong COMPARED to you. It’s about a dynamic, it’s a cousin of the dom/sub dynamic people find erotic but usually in a way that has clear boundaries beyond the bedroom.
So maybe tread lightly on how you say it but be honest. Don’t be like “I had to get buff because you’re so tall and heavy.” And more “I know you like being tossed around so I worked out to get better at it for you.” Trust me, that’s hot.
Browsing the comments so far it seems like the people saying not to tell her are dudes and it’s honestly insulting. It’s true that body-image stuff is very common and cuts really deep for so many women that it must seem unapproachable to a lot of men. But that doesn’t mean every woman with an issue with her body (almost all of us) are fragile and delusional.
Question: What would you LIKE to happen to your mother? Do you want to see her humiliated, beaten in the streets, stoned? What do you think is a fair punishment and WHO should mete out that punishment? Do YOU want to be judge, jury and executioner? Then by all means have at it but I can guarantee you this and that is that you will regret being all of those things in the end..Your mother is a flawed human being as we all are but how she has chosen to handle her life is HER business and not yours, it's not up to you to decide what happens next in her life..Your best path to pursue is to sit down and have a rational talk with your mom and then do your best to move past this.
How many times are you going to repost this wierd shit?
She could be monkey branching……
Yea, I have. Like my wife, in our happy marriage, where we don't defend insecurities and build a relationship on a foundation of lying to each other. Because neither lying to each other or trying to protect our insecurities from being confronted and dealt with are good strategies for a healthy relationship.
You're just another person suggesting making your own lives worse in the long run because in the short run fixing issues is uncomfortable.
He asked point blank. If you can't have a relationship without lying, you don't have a healthy relationship and should probably climb on down off that high horse about “BRO, U DONT LIE 2 UR WIFE? DO U EVEN TALK 2 HUMANZ?” like that's the moral highground here.
we have spoken to each other, she is very shy.
He needs to figure out a system to get himself out of bed. I'm older than him and I still struggle but it's 100% on me to be at work on time.
Things he can do
use an alarm clock that is either loud, uses light, or makes him get up to turn it off use a smart watch that vibrates or chimes go to bed earlier drink a lot of water before bed so he has to get up in the morning set a routine of getting up at x time and he can get a “reward” for doing so (extra coffee or treat) until the routine becomes the norm stop blaming you fir his shortfallings take responsible for himself since he's a grown ass man
I'm wondering about this exactly for this fact, but as long as this other girl is ignoring me i should not tell and advise as the situation goes.
Oof, this is a tough one for both of you for sure.
Ideally, she would have had a conversation with you beforehand knowing that this is something that does affect both of you, even if it's for a good reason, but seemingly unavoidable interruptions where you sleep every night is significant. But when approaching the conversation, don't focus on that, maybe just ask that in the future big things like this that actively affects your life, she talk to you and ask first.
As for the rest of the conversation, tell her it's great she wants to be helpful to her friend, but ask what the plan is long term for this. You both cannot be responsible for her health, and this level of care for her is coming at the cost of both you and your gfs health.
Emphasize that you want to be supportive and help but it can't come at the cost of literally never getting a full night sleep. If she responds well what if something happens, perhaps she needs more clarity from her friends' doctor about what exactly the risks are and how necessary constant hourly notifications in blood sugar fluctuations are.
I'm no doctor, but having several people in my family with type 1 and type 2 without constant monitors, if nightly blood sugar fluctuations were that dangerous that it needs hourly micromanaging while someone is asleep, their doctor would be recommending hospitalization, not phone notifications.
I can only imagine how the chirping goes.
Lol she is the one dealing with shame.
She’s mooching off you
He's sending revenge porn. There is absolutely no way you can continue this relationship with him. Access his phone to delete all photos and videos with you, from the deleted folder too. Check his cloud folder too. Check his messages with these friends to ensure you've not been sent in any of them. Access any other devices you know he has. Check private folders on iPhone and android, Google these If you don't know how.
You're not ruining his day in the least, you offered several very simple alternatives and he shut them down. Block his fiance, block his mom, and (since you can't exactly block a coparent) just be a broken record with him. “My decision is no”. He says you're ruining his wedding? Fine, whatever, “my decision is still no”. Be boring. Give nothing to engage with. You are a rock in a stream, no one can move you.
Wait, so you were together while he was still with his ex? Of 9 years? Why would you think he would be faithful?
Either way, dinner with an ex and the ex doesn’t know about you? Very weird.
Makes sense.
None of us is surprised. We know John is really taken aback and was not expecting to have family financial problems to this extent. But it is definitely what he signed up for when he began the relationship.
You need to decide what you want, personally, career wise, and in your relationship.
Then you talk to him about what he sees your relationship going forward.
And then if the 2 mesh, then you work towards a future together.
If they don’t, then you end it.
Relationships don’t just magically work, it takes work, effort, and communication.
This is obviously incredibly stressful to her dealing with her family. He should give her cover.
There you go infantilizing her again. A common theme in all your comments is you treating it likes she's a child with no autonomy.
Reasons she should be the one to talk to her family:
1.) It's her family
2.) She's getting married
3.) She's an adult
4.) The rent is taking the majority of her income
5.) Continuing to pay this rent would negatively impact her marriage
You can keep acting like it's OP's job. But you're wrong. It's his fiancee's family. It's his fiancee's money.
He should step up and take the hit for both of them.
At the very least, they should present as a unified front. But there is zero reason for OP to be the one to “take the hit.”
I know. He said he stopped the porn and he hasto my knowledge, this just adds on to it and my problem with trusting him ☹️
Why isn't he coming over to you more often?
If he doesn't want to see you, that's not much of a relationship, is it? I'd just break up cuz there's nothing there anyway except manipulation which will probably lead to abuse.
You deserve better ?
It's your boyfriend of nine months.
You two are extremely different people. Imagine the next 50 years of trying to on-line like this.
I'm around your size.
If lube and foreplay aren't helping this is a medical/psychosomatic issue. She needs to see a gynecologist.
Some discomfort or soreness afterwards (for both of you) wouldn't be that abnormal if your gf is tiny. That you're unable to have sex at all due to pain is abnormal.
End the relationship, he will be dating her within 2 weeks max.
You deserve better.