Ehhhh… I would be incredibly uncomfortable if my boyfriend spent a day at home watching movies, taking selfies with, and hanging out with another girl. You don’t do that when you’re in a relationship because it’s just not smart. Clearing up that he’s gay would have helped him process it better. I think you didn’t really want to be in a relationship with him though because of how easily you let him go. You’re putting pride over the relationship
I lost my brother 4 years ago suddenly. It was an awful, horrendous shock for the whole family. He was only in his 40's.
Those pancakes were probably his love language kicking in. He probably felt awkward and embarrassed so it was the first thing that popped in his head. I just wanted to say in the kindest way possible…. please … please… don't take this out on him. We all grieve differently, even the pace. You need him more then anyone and yes, I do understand where you're coming from because I'd be annoyed too. But I'd use that day to grieve in my own way, alone. I'd turn my phone off and go somewhere peaceful. Then I'd come back and talk about it with him. If after that he acted like a fool then I'd just walk out and never return. Some people are not as switched on as others are.
My mum will NEVER forget or be able to move forward properly. Of course, he was her baby. Me, my sister and other family members are probably wired more differently. We move on but we won't forget. We still remember every birthday etc but those feelings aren't as strong as we are more at peace. That's how it feels for me. I know now he's ok and I will see him again. My mum never really had closure or mentally tried. She will hold this strongly in her heart forever.
I think that's where you might be. You are on a different level and of course you will be. Your mum is your whole world and I can't begin to imagine what it's like losing her ?
I just want you to breath. Have a good think about this and go and calmly talk to him. If he's a tw@t afterwards then I will fly over to wherever you are and smack him up for you with pleasure ?
You're going to be ok ? Sending you love and hugs ? My sincere condolences ❤️
Way too young to get married dude. Rip up the letter and get her a real present. Yall are still children. She just got legal. Go online a little first.
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Honestly this probably has nothing to Do with any feelings for him whatsoever. It’s probably her questioning why in the world she wasn’t good enough to marry but this girl was. I totally get it. Just give her some time.
So, I want you to stop and think about what sort of twenty one year old man pursues a seventeen year old romantically.
What you're experiencing is extremely unhealthy but not surprising. He wants total control over your movements and to isolate you from any potential friends.
One unsent message could be innocent (although it would be hot to believe with the seen messages). But that’s too many; it seems like he was trying to find a way out of the hole he’s dug himself, and kept making it worse.
You know your mother. Would she like to be there for you, one last time? I'd bet yes, but every relationship is different, perhaps she'd prefer the “knowledge” that your future is secure without her. Don't feel obligated to continue the relationship though, what you do and what you let her know are two different things at this point. The most devastating thing for your mother would be if you set yourself down a path of misery for her sake.
I wasn’t late I arrives on time with a few other teachers
Ehhhh… I would be incredibly uncomfortable if my boyfriend spent a day at home watching movies, taking selfies with, and hanging out with another girl. You don’t do that when you’re in a relationship because it’s just not smart. Clearing up that he’s gay would have helped him process it better. I think you didn’t really want to be in a relationship with him though because of how easily you let him go. You’re putting pride over the relationship
He can't trust because if his issues, it's not really fair of him to be in a relationship until he can sort out his issues and all that involves
I lost my brother 4 years ago suddenly. It was an awful, horrendous shock for the whole family. He was only in his 40's.
Those pancakes were probably his love language kicking in. He probably felt awkward and embarrassed so it was the first thing that popped in his head. I just wanted to say in the kindest way possible…. please … please… don't take this out on him. We all grieve differently, even the pace. You need him more then anyone and yes, I do understand where you're coming from because I'd be annoyed too. But I'd use that day to grieve in my own way, alone. I'd turn my phone off and go somewhere peaceful. Then I'd come back and talk about it with him. If after that he acted like a fool then I'd just walk out and never return. Some people are not as switched on as others are.
My mum will NEVER forget or be able to move forward properly. Of course, he was her baby. Me, my sister and other family members are probably wired more differently. We move on but we won't forget. We still remember every birthday etc but those feelings aren't as strong as we are more at peace. That's how it feels for me. I know now he's ok and I will see him again. My mum never really had closure or mentally tried. She will hold this strongly in her heart forever.
I think that's where you might be. You are on a different level and of course you will be. Your mum is your whole world and I can't begin to imagine what it's like losing her ?
I just want you to breath. Have a good think about this and go and calmly talk to him. If he's a tw@t afterwards then I will fly over to wherever you are and smack him up for you with pleasure ?
You're going to be ok ? Sending you love and hugs ? My sincere condolences ❤️
Way too young to get married dude. Rip up the letter and get her a real present. Yall are still children. She just got legal. Go online a little first.
Seconding this.
When the world stops spinning, read this. It will give you strength, make you laugh, and help you heal.
Wishing for your strength on the journey ahead.
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You'll be pleased to know that 7″ places you firmly in the “Big Penis” camp. What you won't be so pleased to know is that there is a reason people say a big penis isn't everything. It can hurt. Every person's body is different and different combinations fit together in different ways.
Try avoiding thrusting so deeply. Make sure she is very aroused and you are using lube.
Don't subscribe to the idea that more penetrative sex is better. Try more of that foreplay at the start, maybe let her orgasm and reduce the amount of intercourse. The average guy in the average session only lasts about 3-4 minutes from penetration to orgasm anyway. You might be drying her out, taking too long or creating too much friction. Ouchies.
Lastly, you can get “penis bumpers”. They're basically a donut that goes around your dick to stop you penetrating so deeply.
Good luck.
Paternity test bro
Honestly this probably has nothing to Do with any feelings for him whatsoever. It’s probably her questioning why in the world she wasn’t good enough to marry but this girl was. I totally get it. Just give her some time.
ah – ok got it
So, I want you to stop and think about what sort of twenty one year old man pursues a seventeen year old romantically.
What you're experiencing is extremely unhealthy but not surprising. He wants total control over your movements and to isolate you from any potential friends.
Your job doesn't make you an arbiter of comedy.
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Bail
One unsent message could be innocent (although it would be hot to believe with the seen messages). But that’s too many; it seems like he was trying to find a way out of the hole he’s dug himself, and kept making it worse.
guess he forgot the “in sickness and in health” part of the vows?
You know your mother. Would she like to be there for you, one last time? I'd bet yes, but every relationship is different, perhaps she'd prefer the “knowledge” that your future is secure without her. Don't feel obligated to continue the relationship though, what you do and what you let her know are two different things at this point. The most devastating thing for your mother would be if you set yourself down a path of misery for her sake.