And he also abused and stole from him for years. He doesn't deserve the label of father. Let's stop rewarding people for doing the bare minimum. And the only reason his mother couldn't be there for him was because of the sperm donor abusing her and threatening her.
I'm gonna go against the grain here. If you haven't seen him in 3 weeks, he probably has a lot of pent up sexual energy and lust. I'd also feel very bad if my girl rejected me like that.
When you normally walk, how different are your strides and walking speeds?
And was this a walk, like couples walking along the beach (but with snow) or was this a walk, like a hike/ exercise?
Cause if you are normally slower, and have shorter strides than him, and this was an exercise/hike situation, then he didn’t do anything wrong, he didn’t do anything right either, and you should talk to him about it, and how it made you feel.
Now if your walking speed and strides are similar, and this was a couples walk, then break up is a possibility.
Your bf sounds like a bit of an ass. If he makes 70% of the household income, he should be paying 70% of the household expenses. Insert whatever % is accurate, I'm bad at maths.
She cheated you need to leave. Even if her threatening suicide isn’t a manipulation to you to stay you don’t need to sacrifice your happiness for someone who clearly doesn’t give a shit about yours. What she does after you are no longer a couple isn’t your problem.
Your husband is disgusting. If I tried that with my wife she would quite rightly use my head as a plunger.
You don't leave atomic turds to marinate and stink out the house unless you are an idiot. I'm a normal bloke and I can take 30 mins and make a pile an ant colony would be proud of but if it blocks I damn well fix it there and then.
thats literally called “crazymaking” its part of the abuse. you need to get away from this guy for your own safety. /u/ebbie45 has resources in their profile which might help you
Once I put a package in the room of her friend, because my room is at the top floor and his room at the ground floor ,the floor where I got the package and I also had to go out, so I put it in his room to get it later. When I came back he was on the phone with someone, but the moment he saw me he went, 'Oh, hello [Her name]! [Her name], how are you doing?!' All the while grinning at me
TBH at that age they are stubborn and they think they are the sh1t , there is little way to proceed except to dump her and make her someone elses problem
he is going through something you can't handle, can't deal with and honestly should not be expected to deal with his crippling mental health.
this needs to be about him getting help, not about you feeling slighted. He needs help.
He isn't ready to be with you, and you know that.
and for gods sake, don't go in to his house or his friends and start talking about how he made you feel, and how upset you are over this, and how you don't feel comfy about his ex anymore. He needs help, not you. you can survive this, you aren't shutting down, you aren't locking everyone out of your life.
For the most part, yes. Even if who keeps the home in a breakup is sorted, it sounds like neither of you can afford the home on your own. Youve only been together for 1.5 years so you at least want a commitment like marriage to come prior to buying a home together.
Ma’am. He is a predator. Your brain isn’t even fully developed and his was when you STARTED dating. That’s grooming at its finest. Run now while you’re still young. Run now while you have many people telling you you should run.
Ok, don't really hook up with the sister, that's playing with fire…
Leave her!! You deserve better than this
And he also abused and stole from him for years. He doesn't deserve the label of father. Let's stop rewarding people for doing the bare minimum. And the only reason his mother couldn't be there for him was because of the sperm donor abusing her and threatening her.
I'm gonna go against the grain here. If you haven't seen him in 3 weeks, he probably has a lot of pent up sexual energy and lust. I'd also feel very bad if my girl rejected me like that.
She’s financially abusive and controlling. This will not get better.
So questions
When you normally walk, how different are your strides and walking speeds?
And was this a walk, like couples walking along the beach (but with snow) or was this a walk, like a hike/ exercise?
Cause if you are normally slower, and have shorter strides than him, and this was an exercise/hike situation, then he didn’t do anything wrong, he didn’t do anything right either, and you should talk to him about it, and how it made you feel.
Now if your walking speed and strides are similar, and this was a couples walk, then break up is a possibility.
Your bf sounds like a bit of an ass. If he makes 70% of the household income, he should be paying 70% of the household expenses. Insert whatever % is accurate, I'm bad at maths.
She cheated you need to leave. Even if her threatening suicide isn’t a manipulation to you to stay you don’t need to sacrifice your happiness for someone who clearly doesn’t give a shit about yours. What she does after you are no longer a couple isn’t your problem.
It’s either mutual reciprocation or mutual understanding you aren’t obligated to give but not receive.
Are you really this naive?
Your husband is disgusting. If I tried that with my wife she would quite rightly use my head as a plunger.
You don't leave atomic turds to marinate and stink out the house unless you are an idiot. I'm a normal bloke and I can take 30 mins and make a pile an ant colony would be proud of but if it blocks I damn well fix it there and then.
thats literally called “crazymaking” its part of the abuse. you need to get away from this guy for your own safety. /u/ebbie45 has resources in their profile which might help you
That's rape…
Once I put a package in the room of her friend, because my room is at the top floor and his room at the ground floor ,the floor where I got the package and I also had to go out, so I put it in his room to get it later. When I came back he was on the phone with someone, but the moment he saw me he went, 'Oh, hello [Her name]! [Her name], how are you doing?!' All the while grinning at me
TBH at that age they are stubborn and they think they are the sh1t , there is little way to proceed except to dump her and make her someone elses problem
this is absolutely not about you.
he is going through something you can't handle, can't deal with and honestly should not be expected to deal with his crippling mental health.
this needs to be about him getting help, not about you feeling slighted. He needs help.
He isn't ready to be with you, and you know that.
and for gods sake, don't go in to his house or his friends and start talking about how he made you feel, and how upset you are over this, and how you don't feel comfy about his ex anymore. He needs help, not you. you can survive this, you aren't shutting down, you aren't locking everyone out of your life.
So dress up as Voldemort and get busy with her
For the most part, yes. Even if who keeps the home in a breakup is sorted, it sounds like neither of you can afford the home on your own. Youve only been together for 1.5 years so you at least want a commitment like marriage to come prior to buying a home together.
Your comment isn't helpful in the slightest. You don't need to be so rude. Curb the insults while you're at it
My brother's wife tried to delete photos my parents had of brother's ex-wife even ones that included the kids… So weird…
Ma’am. He is a predator. Your brain isn’t even fully developed and his was when you STARTED dating. That’s grooming at its finest. Run now while you’re still young. Run now while you have many people telling you you should run.