And then you'll find out about another, and another. Trickle truthing doesn't ever seem to fucking end. Not worth dealing with someone who doesn't tell you the whole truth the first time.
She's coming home tomorrow, we haven't seen eachother for 3 months because she was working abroad. I was supposed to pick her up tomorrow at the airport. She apologized via text for this but I still don't mnos how to feel.
100% this. You have to know and understand that her actions make it abundantly clear that she does not value your feelings. I’ve dated a really sweet attractive girl like that and you start to realise that they pathologically make bad decisions and then routine apologises to talk their way out of it.
Well then he didn't want a swinging situation then did he? Wake up OP! If this isn't fake, you need to tell him this was his mess and he was just looking to cheat if you weren't supposed to enjoy yourself in a situation you weren't even comfortable in to begin with! He wanted to have his cake and eat it. Divorce him. There's no going back.
Did you just call my parents but because my dad has psychosis and my mum austism/adhd? And then said because of these difficulties I shouldn't celebrate my wedding with them? And called them nuts?
If my fiance heard someone say this even he would be offended.
A yeast infection isn't sexually transmitted. It can be sexually transmitted in rare cases but usually isn't and people who have never had sex xan get one ..Tbey can be caused by antibiotic use, diabetes, taking hormones like birth control, erc.
What your wife's friend did was of very poor taste and he was wrong for doing it. What I find strange in your story is that you didn't once mention your wife in all that mess. Did you tell her anything about your doubts in that period when you believed your wife was a cheater? If just someone else's words can make you doubt with such profundity, you might be having trust issues independently of this particular incident. That's probably why it impacted you so greatly that you cannot let it go even after a year.
Ignoring the violation of privacy, there are a few questions in here.
First, you ask why is she still wanting to have sex with you. Many people (though not all), get horny and desire to have sex. Usually, if they are in a monogamous long term relationship, that entails having sex with the person they are allowed to have sex with, that being you. Perhaps she's hoping it'll improve. Perhaps she's just horny and needs a baseline outlet and she still enjoys it more than masturbating. Or perhaps she thinks you really enjoy it regardless of whether or not she does. Only she knows for certain.
Which means you'll need to open up to the snooping. Because the way you deal with this is to have a frank discussion about sexual wants/needs. It could be the case that she's just not feeling particularly sexual and its not your fault (this can just happen or it could be from depression or other external stressors). It could be that she's realizing she wants you to do something in bed that you aren't doing (but is doing a shitty job of communicating it to you). Who knows? The point is, there are a lot of unanswered questions here. Strangers live! won't be able to answer them for you, the only person who can is your GF.
He’s not your boyfriend. He clearly doesn’t want to be your boyfriend. I say forget about him, move on to someone else.
Divorce her. Go be single. You both act like you are. Make it official.
And then you'll find out about another, and another. Trickle truthing doesn't ever seem to fucking end. Not worth dealing with someone who doesn't tell you the whole truth the first time.
She's coming home tomorrow, we haven't seen eachother for 3 months because she was working abroad. I was supposed to pick her up tomorrow at the airport. She apologized via text for this but I still don't mnos how to feel.
100% this. You have to know and understand that her actions make it abundantly clear that she does not value your feelings. I’ve dated a really sweet attractive girl like that and you start to realise that they pathologically make bad decisions and then routine apologises to talk their way out of it.
sounds like he is using you as a place to stay free.
He has other bills, isn't paying rent, but decides to go play instead.
DON'T GET PREGNANT!
Well then he didn't want a swinging situation then did he? Wake up OP! If this isn't fake, you need to tell him this was his mess and he was just looking to cheat if you weren't supposed to enjoy yourself in a situation you weren't even comfortable in to begin with! He wanted to have his cake and eat it. Divorce him. There's no going back.
Did you just call my parents but because my dad has psychosis and my mum austism/adhd? And then said because of these difficulties I shouldn't celebrate my wedding with them? And called them nuts?
If my fiance heard someone say this even he would be offended.
Nicely said u/cuntpunt2000 ?
A yeast infection isn't sexually transmitted. It can be sexually transmitted in rare cases but usually isn't and people who have never had sex xan get one ..Tbey can be caused by antibiotic use, diabetes, taking hormones like birth control, erc.
What your wife's friend did was of very poor taste and he was wrong for doing it. What I find strange in your story is that you didn't once mention your wife in all that mess. Did you tell her anything about your doubts in that period when you believed your wife was a cheater? If just someone else's words can make you doubt with such profundity, you might be having trust issues independently of this particular incident. That's probably why it impacted you so greatly that you cannot let it go even after a year.
Ignoring the violation of privacy, there are a few questions in here.
First, you ask why is she still wanting to have sex with you. Many people (though not all), get horny and desire to have sex. Usually, if they are in a monogamous long term relationship, that entails having sex with the person they are allowed to have sex with, that being you. Perhaps she's hoping it'll improve. Perhaps she's just horny and needs a baseline outlet and she still enjoys it more than masturbating. Or perhaps she thinks you really enjoy it regardless of whether or not she does. Only she knows for certain.
Which means you'll need to open up to the snooping. Because the way you deal with this is to have a frank discussion about sexual wants/needs. It could be the case that she's just not feeling particularly sexual and its not your fault (this can just happen or it could be from depression or other external stressors). It could be that she's realizing she wants you to do something in bed that you aren't doing (but is doing a shitty job of communicating it to you). Who knows? The point is, there are a lot of unanswered questions here. Strangers live! won't be able to answer them for you, the only person who can is your GF.
rejecting you before you can reject him to preserve his fragile male ego. forget about him. he's a creep.