Buy this woman sexy lingerie. Take her shopping for it so she gets the right size and you say you like the style and that she's so sexy. Then go out for dinner.
This has to be a joke.. I mean you guys are married.. where does wanting to date or fuck other people comes in to the picture unless you guys signed up for that from the start?.. this is pretty messed up and twisted.Something like that would not be happening under my watch.. your wife needs help or she's some kind of nymphomaniac or something.. this is really messed up and a whole football field of red flags? ?????
I remember you. Thanks for the update, Im really glad you got away from that guy. I have a feeling youre going to be able to deal with things much better without him and his disrespect in your life.
“just trust me I will do everything in my power to take care of you”
“When someone shows you they are, believe them the first time.” –Maya Angelou
Your boyfriend has shown you who he is and there are some serious problems.
Even if you choose to believe what he said, you know that he will do everything in his power to take care of you, except be financially responsible and honest with you. If you can on-line without those things, go for it. If not, move on.
If you have a tendency to over think things and she has a tendency to over complicate things for her victim benefit then it just sounds like a recipe for a drama filled life. Trying to play mental chess with your lover is going to wear you out eventually, so it might just be a bad match. I feel like you should be looking for someone who is blunt and consistent to put yourself at ease for a more healthy life style.
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According to your post from four days ago, your girlfriend of three years accused you of sleeping with or talking to other women and you broke up with her. You've been busy.
Your new partner is correct. You do not have clear financial boundaries with your ex. You’re also too worried about your ex’s emotional feelings. Your kids are almost grown. I wouldn’t date someone in that financial situation either.
Throw the party and don't tell him when/where it is. He wants no part of it? Great, he gets no part of it, not even the fun parts.
He wants you to compromise but his definition of compromise is just bow to his demands. Its not compromising if only one person is sacrificing. When someone says you need to compromise, lay it out for them and make them suggest a compromise. “You want x. I want y. So what's your suggestion for a compromise?”
You shouldn’t be in the house with him after a violent outburst because you don’t know if he will escalate or not. You definitely shouldn’t let him near your kids again. You need to call up your family and tell them he has been violent. I’m sure they will understand you canceling the wedding. It’s still cheaper than a divorce.
So no stranger on the internet can tell you what you should do if it's true. A cheating partner varies across people on whether they will give them a 2nd chance or if they tell them to kick rocks. Me personally I don't give 2nd chances to cheaters, we are adults if you fuck someone else then you didnit intentionally there is no such thing as an accident. So you have to ask yourself what are you willing to do. I get it, being a single mom with 4 kids is not an ideal situation but at the same time can you see yourself being happy with a man who is/was cheating on you when he has you and 4 kids at home?
Definitely ask for proof, if he cheated then there's always proof and text messages are always solid. If she says she has none, that would be suspicious. I know snapchat is the cheating app but people slip and will text nudes or saying when they can go over so ask for message proof, pics, etc to see if she's really saying the truth
Yeah it was the straw that broke the camel’s back probably. Honestly if this were the AITA sub I’d say NAH because OP is just working but doesn’t seem to have time for a relationship and OP’s boyfriend just wants to spend time with her and is frustrated that it’s not happening. OP obviously shouldn’t drive with zero sleep, but if that’s the only time she can go on a date then OP should just be single.
I wanted to add… I have been there. It was at my small local gym (we were all close- worked out together daily) and we were already sleeping together. It isn’t easy to walk away. I had a couple slip ups… but in the end… I am so so glad I did. I honestly see him for who he is now and so glad he is out of my life. You can get there but you have to really have your goal ?? do you can get passed those feelings. You got this.
I see this as an absolute win. I was in this situation in my 20s. Recommended
AND he doesn’t give you oral. Insecurity or not (likely fuckin bullshit lol), he’s LAZY. Yuck.
Buy this woman sexy lingerie. Take her shopping for it so she gets the right size and you say you like the style and that she's so sexy. Then go out for dinner.
This has to be a joke.. I mean you guys are married.. where does wanting to date or fuck other people comes in to the picture unless you guys signed up for that from the start?.. this is pretty messed up and twisted.Something like that would not be happening under my watch.. your wife needs help or she's some kind of nymphomaniac or something.. this is really messed up and a whole football field of red flags? ?????
I remember you. Thanks for the update, Im really glad you got away from that guy. I have a feeling youre going to be able to deal with things much better without him and his disrespect in your life.
The dude should know so he can leave her
You also abandoned your dog. Lump yourself in that action plan you come up with. Dog was physically and emotionally abused.
Find a home where the dog will be loved.
This is the way. OP totally deserves better. Sarah is a leech and a user, her cancer just exposed that.
“just trust me I will do everything in my power to take care of you”
“When someone shows you they are, believe them the first time.” –Maya Angelou
Your boyfriend has shown you who he is and there are some serious problems.
Even if you choose to believe what he said, you know that he will do everything in his power to take care of you, except be financially responsible and honest with you. If you can on-line without those things, go for it. If not, move on.
If you have a tendency to over think things and she has a tendency to over complicate things for her victim benefit then it just sounds like a recipe for a drama filled life. Trying to play mental chess with your lover is going to wear you out eventually, so it might just be a bad match. I feel like you should be looking for someone who is blunt and consistent to put yourself at ease for a more healthy life style.
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According to your post from four days ago, your girlfriend of three years accused you of sleeping with or talking to other women and you broke up with her. You've been busy.
You’re welcome.
What sex? You very much misunderstand the situation. You don’t have to keep replying.
Divorce her my man.
If he didn't shit her down he's either enjoying the attention or more.
She probably dated you to try to feel connected to someone. It’s not on you. She might have been dumped by the love of her life.
In some states (texas) the mother has the legal right to chose the name.
Your new partner is correct. You do not have clear financial boundaries with your ex. You’re also too worried about your ex’s emotional feelings. Your kids are almost grown. I wouldn’t date someone in that financial situation either.
Look. The writing is on the wall that they are all avoiding you.
Just ask one of them straight up what the fuck is going on.
If you could give him more and ask less of him, he would take it without a second thought.
He’s looking for a mom, not to be a partner.
Did you read the OP? He sweats. It's twice a day: once for his colleagues, once for the person he shares a bed with.
GPS rarely ever lies. Time to start looking for a lawyer
Because she thought we were going to be married so mine is hers and hers is mine? Lol I'm trying to justify but maybe I was gaslighted.
Throw the party and don't tell him when/where it is. He wants no part of it? Great, he gets no part of it, not even the fun parts.
He wants you to compromise but his definition of compromise is just bow to his demands. Its not compromising if only one person is sacrificing. When someone says you need to compromise, lay it out for them and make them suggest a compromise. “You want x. I want y. So what's your suggestion for a compromise?”
What did the police say when you told them? And how did you get the medical tests back so fast? Did you give them to the police?
You shouldn’t be in the house with him after a violent outburst because you don’t know if he will escalate or not. You definitely shouldn’t let him near your kids again. You need to call up your family and tell them he has been violent. I’m sure they will understand you canceling the wedding. It’s still cheaper than a divorce.
And…. the new gf is defo pregnant. 1000% sure she's pregnant.
I wouldn’t have stayed with her to begin with. She cheated on you the whole time. Get tested for STIs
So no stranger on the internet can tell you what you should do if it's true. A cheating partner varies across people on whether they will give them a 2nd chance or if they tell them to kick rocks. Me personally I don't give 2nd chances to cheaters, we are adults if you fuck someone else then you didnit intentionally there is no such thing as an accident. So you have to ask yourself what are you willing to do. I get it, being a single mom with 4 kids is not an ideal situation but at the same time can you see yourself being happy with a man who is/was cheating on you when he has you and 4 kids at home?
Definitely ask for proof, if he cheated then there's always proof and text messages are always solid. If she says she has none, that would be suspicious. I know snapchat is the cheating app but people slip and will text nudes or saying when they can go over so ask for message proof, pics, etc to see if she's really saying the truth
At 22 I got paid sick leave
Yeah it was the straw that broke the camel’s back probably. Honestly if this were the AITA sub I’d say NAH because OP is just working but doesn’t seem to have time for a relationship and OP’s boyfriend just wants to spend time with her and is frustrated that it’s not happening. OP obviously shouldn’t drive with zero sleep, but if that’s the only time she can go on a date then OP should just be single.
I wanted to add… I have been there. It was at my small local gym (we were all close- worked out together daily) and we were already sleeping together. It isn’t easy to walk away. I had a couple slip ups… but in the end… I am so so glad I did. I honestly see him for who he is now and so glad he is out of my life. You can get there but you have to really have your goal ?? do you can get passed those feelings. You got this.
? Dump da boyfriend @ the easy way to lose 80 kilos. ?
We haven't broken up
She sounds insufferable. An absolute spoiled piss pants baby throwing a tantrum. Throw her in the trash already….
Yes, it just suck I approached her at the wrong time. And she had a chance to reject me sooner rather than made me wait forever.
It's worth adding that it's better if couples have compatible beliefs.
Chose her. Fullstop! She will never betray you nor let you down! Good luck!
Your mother has schizoprenia, get her to a psychiatrist.