That boyfriend is super creepy, but this is not grooming, this is simply a naiive woman getting in a bad, but legal and consensual, relationship.
Your friend was 18 and an adult. Grooming is a tactic used by pedophiles on minors involving behaviours and strategies that revolve around the victim being a child, that do not apply to adults.
An adult can be manipulated or taken advantage of, but it's not grooming, do not misuse the term.
is 8 yrs diference THAT bad??? cmon i mean i went out on date with a girl who was like 21 and am just terned 30 >___> she was rally immiture but i dident feel like creapy or anything i just randemly met her at a bar and hit it off but this thrad is makeing me feel like im a crimenel .-.
You shouldn't even have bothered trying to explain your feelings if you were just going to flat out admit you're a cheater. You had the chance to communicate this or ask for advice, instead you wait until AFTER you cheated to ask for help? Fuck off. Admit that you're a cheating, nasty individual and break up with him. As gross and annoying as you painted him out to be, he deserves far better than you.
Honestly based on your post and update here, you need to break up with her. If you don’t you’re going to end up being a dad before you’re ready and tbh a child deserves better than that.
It doesn’t matter what the purpose of his trips were, he allows himself to travel alone and forbids her to do the same. Your deliberate refusal to get the point doesn’t change it.
And, what makes me “desperate” about anything? We're having a casual discussion. Dint inject emotion into it.
My man, this is your 15th post on this subject. You have ranged about how “women today” don’t respect marriage, how you can’t trust women without their husband present, etc etc etc.
It's unrealistic to have a relationship without issues.
What you have to decide is whether or not you can cope with these type of relationship issues.
We as outsiders with unbiased opinions can tell you that what you are describing sounds unhealthy, but you have to decide for yourself what you are willing to put up with and work through.
The thing you need to be aware of is that you can not fix her issues. She has to do that for herself by herself, because she loves herself. Then, you have your separate relationship issues that have to be dealt with like the incompatibility, arguing, etc.
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Take the kid and file for full custody and divorce her before she does.
That’s a very personal choice.
That boyfriend is super creepy, but this is not grooming, this is simply a naiive woman getting in a bad, but legal and consensual, relationship.
Your friend was 18 and an adult. Grooming is a tactic used by pedophiles on minors involving behaviours and strategies that revolve around the victim being a child, that do not apply to adults.
An adult can be manipulated or taken advantage of, but it's not grooming, do not misuse the term.
Yes you should so your wife has a reason to divorce you because you sound like a shit husband
is 8 yrs diference THAT bad??? cmon i mean i went out on date with a girl who was like 21 and am just terned 30 >___> she was rally immiture but i dident feel like creapy or anything i just randemly met her at a bar and hit it off but this thrad is makeing me feel like im a crimenel .-.
You shouldn't even have bothered trying to explain your feelings if you were just going to flat out admit you're a cheater. You had the chance to communicate this or ask for advice, instead you wait until AFTER you cheated to ask for help? Fuck off. Admit that you're a cheating, nasty individual and break up with him. As gross and annoying as you painted him out to be, he deserves far better than you.
This is it, this is what I came here to say. They have zero executive function so how could they ever be the “boss” of their house?
Honestly based on your post and update here, you need to break up with her. If you don’t you’re going to end up being a dad before you’re ready and tbh a child deserves better than that.
She never said it was alone time he wanted.
It doesn’t matter what the purpose of his trips were, he allows himself to travel alone and forbids her to do the same. Your deliberate refusal to get the point doesn’t change it.
And, what makes me “desperate” about anything? We're having a casual discussion. Dint inject emotion into it.
My man, this is your 15th post on this subject. You have ranged about how “women today” don’t respect marriage, how you can’t trust women without their husband present, etc etc etc.
It does not just slip in
It's unrealistic to have a relationship without issues.
What you have to decide is whether or not you can cope with these type of relationship issues.
We as outsiders with unbiased opinions can tell you that what you are describing sounds unhealthy, but you have to decide for yourself what you are willing to put up with and work through.
The thing you need to be aware of is that you can not fix her issues. She has to do that for herself by herself, because she loves herself. Then, you have your separate relationship issues that have to be dealt with like the incompatibility, arguing, etc.