Hearing that, it’s eye opening to think that like you said he’s agreeing in a detached conversation.
I had an expectation because after we had that talk the next time that I was in a mood he did show me love in the way that I needed (I told him just hold me and kiss me when I’m in a mood) but the past two times that I was in a mood and he didn’t I was puzzled because he knew what to do or atleast I thought he did.
Sadly I’m just now getting better at communicating my feelings these past 2 years, mainly because of therapy. So i though that was a good solution, but I can understand that just saying “show me love” is to vague of an idea and being more specific for what is needed in the moment is more helpful.
I felt that saying just show me love was good enough because you can’t really go wrong with anything you do involving love. But specifics helps the other party feel more at ease on what to do and not fearing messing up because they don’t know what to do specifically.
It's not about the allegations. You've already proven them false. He's just done. I'm sorry, but you can't keep around a friend like that and expect it to go well.
You married really young. If you marry young, you have to be especially careful about doing things right. Keeping a friend who puts down your marriage isn't doing things right.
And if nothing happens which is highly probable then what? She is not protecting her harasser, she is protecting herself and her livelihood. Sometimes women have to choose, and she's choosing survival. Her BF is also an ass because he's not interested in her well being, he's going crazy because of his own jealousy. None of the men in this post come off well.
Why so soon? I don’t see any benefits to getting married so young and I’m not surprised your fiancé is having second thoughts. Why can’t you just be together as is without having the whole marriage commitment looming over your heads?
Look, if she learns that trying stuff and ending up in the hospital means you visit her, she’ll keep doing it. If you DONT want her to do it again, you DONT visit her. You don’t call, you don’t respond, you don’t engage. At all. You leave it to her family and her medical professionals to get her the treatment she needs. Otherwise, she’ll just learn that if she hurts herself enough, you’ll come back.
This is why a high body count is gross.
He's salty she won't leave her boyfriend for him. So now he wants to “do the right thing and tell him”.
You're her backup, she doesn't want her backup taken away, time to throw her out with the trash
So this has already been an argument in the past? You acknowledge that she's gaslighting you.
Time to tell her it needs to stop, or move on
Hearing that, it’s eye opening to think that like you said he’s agreeing in a detached conversation.
I had an expectation because after we had that talk the next time that I was in a mood he did show me love in the way that I needed (I told him just hold me and kiss me when I’m in a mood) but the past two times that I was in a mood and he didn’t I was puzzled because he knew what to do or atleast I thought he did.
Sadly I’m just now getting better at communicating my feelings these past 2 years, mainly because of therapy. So i though that was a good solution, but I can understand that just saying “show me love” is to vague of an idea and being more specific for what is needed in the moment is more helpful.
I felt that saying just show me love was good enough because you can’t really go wrong with anything you do involving love. But specifics helps the other party feel more at ease on what to do and not fearing messing up because they don’t know what to do specifically.
You are definitely not crazy. People in healthy relationships don’t lie about where they are going and who they’re with.
It's not about the allegations. You've already proven them false. He's just done. I'm sorry, but you can't keep around a friend like that and expect it to go well.
You married really young. If you marry young, you have to be especially careful about doing things right. Keeping a friend who puts down your marriage isn't doing things right.
Nah if this was anybody else I’d be out and just as pissed as everyone on here is lol
Thanks, I rolled my eyes so hot reading this comment.
And if nothing happens which is highly probable then what? She is not protecting her harasser, she is protecting herself and her livelihood. Sometimes women have to choose, and she's choosing survival. Her BF is also an ass because he's not interested in her well being, he's going crazy because of his own jealousy. None of the men in this post come off well.
This is good advice. Ty
Why so soon? I don’t see any benefits to getting married so young and I’m not surprised your fiancé is having second thoughts. Why can’t you just be together as is without having the whole marriage commitment looming over your heads?
You can also cheat emotionally and thats what happened here. You can now decide if cheating is okay for you or not.
I tried looking up “Instagram GC” and got “group chat”
OP can you be more clear on what happened? Did he talk to escorts or buy her services? Those are vastly different things
But I mean did the distance change things or would he also leave out important things even when you lived in the same area
Look, if she learns that trying stuff and ending up in the hospital means you visit her, she’ll keep doing it. If you DONT want her to do it again, you DONT visit her. You don’t call, you don’t respond, you don’t engage. At all. You leave it to her family and her medical professionals to get her the treatment she needs. Otherwise, she’ll just learn that if she hurts herself enough, you’ll come back.