Yeah you’re right. he just thinks that just because i am not fond of the location he is choosing, i should not choose to go on a girls trip instead of going with him and his family. In a different scenario of course I would go with his family they’re amazing but I just do not understand why he had to choose the same hotel he told me he lost his virginity at with the same girl 5 years ago, who went with him to that same spot multiple times. and now he expects me to go? I will speak to him about this when i see him in person not letting this slide honestly.
You got a FOURTH chance and got angry at her, leave her alone.
Also giving up and giving her space is the same thing, they are both equal to: don't talk to her. If she wants to reach she will. But if I were here I wouldn't, given what you described.
You kept starting drama and conflict with her, that's the reason she was short and dry. You were an asshole.
I'd like to redirect your negative thoughts to that's the best sex she had before you and that ended, for whatever reason, and now you have the opportunity to give her the best sexual experiences of her life. Keep communicating, keep experimenting, just keep it going.
I'd like to give you some food for thought. Sometimes the best sex isn't the 20-30 mins of the act itself, but all of that prior built up sexual tension from the day. Casual little touches in the morning, incospicuous comments along the day and then all of that met at then end of the day with some serious sensuous sex.
I love the original meaning of this saying so much and I love to see more people pointing it out. “The bonds we forge willingly are stronger than the bonds formed from obligation” is a much better lesson than, “Always support people who share genetics with you, no matter how stupid they act.”
It's the drinking that is going to take your relationship down. That should be the focus of your concern and I would consider leaving based on that alone. Expect something like this to happen again unless changes are made.
No. Wrong. His Masturbation is private and doesn’t need to involve your feelings. If he’s jerking off so much that he can’t/won’t have sex with you that’s a different story.
I’ve been married for 10 years and have two kids. Jerk daily and have sex with my wife 3-5 times a week.
Get over your crazy boundary, or get a dog and die alone.
“A couple more surgeries…”
You have body image issues. See a therapist.
Yeah you’re right. he just thinks that just because i am not fond of the location he is choosing, i should not choose to go on a girls trip instead of going with him and his family. In a different scenario of course I would go with his family they’re amazing but I just do not understand why he had to choose the same hotel he told me he lost his virginity at with the same girl 5 years ago, who went with him to that same spot multiple times. and now he expects me to go? I will speak to him about this when i see him in person not letting this slide honestly.
Are you in an open relationship?
You got a FOURTH chance and got angry at her, leave her alone.
Also giving up and giving her space is the same thing, they are both equal to: don't talk to her. If she wants to reach she will. But if I were here I wouldn't, given what you described.
You kept starting drama and conflict with her, that's the reason she was short and dry. You were an asshole.
my fucking god, the guy in the comments citing the bible ??♂️
I'd like to redirect your negative thoughts to that's the best sex she had before you and that ended, for whatever reason, and now you have the opportunity to give her the best sexual experiences of her life. Keep communicating, keep experimenting, just keep it going.
I'd like to give you some food for thought. Sometimes the best sex isn't the 20-30 mins of the act itself, but all of that prior built up sexual tension from the day. Casual little touches in the morning, incospicuous comments along the day and then all of that met at then end of the day with some serious sensuous sex.
It literally matters because he's ready for a baby and she isn't ffs
It's like you don't understand that context matters
I love the original meaning of this saying so much and I love to see more people pointing it out. “The bonds we forge willingly are stronger than the bonds formed from obligation” is a much better lesson than, “Always support people who share genetics with you, no matter how stupid they act.”
It's the drinking that is going to take your relationship down. That should be the focus of your concern and I would consider leaving based on that alone. Expect something like this to happen again unless changes are made.
I agree, I don’t want to have my child in a toxic environment and relationship. That’s unfair for them. I would think being alone would be healthier
No. Wrong. His Masturbation is private and doesn’t need to involve your feelings. If he’s jerking off so much that he can’t/won’t have sex with you that’s a different story.
I’ve been married for 10 years and have two kids. Jerk daily and have sex with my wife 3-5 times a week.
Get over your crazy boundary, or get a dog and die alone.
If you can't look at the evidence, then it didn't happen. You have no leg to stand on.
Do you know for a fact that he hasn't cheated on you before at university
Did they come clean about their cheating because they were remorseful or because they were worried they'd get sprung
As for not planned. Rubbish. They arranged for her to go to his house to discuss 'feelings'. That was planned
Unplanned is when someone goes to a bar, gets drunk and hooks up with a stranger. This is the complete opposite
Have you asked to see his phone and the messages they have sent each other?
I think you're clinging onto to this relationship when you know this goes deeper and are refusing to see it
Rip the band aid off