#@@#@!![36f 24f] My wife is bullying someone for simply no reason and it might finish our relationship

I’m 38. My wife is 36. A few years ago we hired “Gabby” (24) as a babysitter. She was great. She came in the mornings after the kids got out of school. She helped them with their own homework and did great science projects with them.

Then out of the blue my wife said she didn’t want Gabbie around anymore. She texted her “Thank you intended for everything, but we won’t be needing you anymore. ” She didn’t give her any notice, simply texted her at 9: 30 at night that the girl didn’t want her doing work for us anymore.

I found out weeks later the fact that reasoning was because the lady “knew” that Gabbie had a crush on me plus didn’t want her about me anymore. I requested her how she knew that, if she had heard something from somebody and she said no, that will she could just inform by the way she looked at me personally and interacted with me.

Now I find out through our sister that my wife is bashing Gabbie to other mom and dad in the area, lying about how the lady treats kids and trying to prevent her from getting jobs. She’s created fake social media accounts to keep negative reviews on her babysitting/tutoring page.

I keep hoping that there’s some thing I’m missing. That there was an event that happened which i didn’t hear about that is justifying my wife to act this way. Yet all she says is that Gabbie deserves it. And shouldn’t be around peoples families.

I told her even if Gabbie did possess a “crush” on me (which I seriously doubt) what did it matter? She never ever acted on it, she never ever acted inappropriately. She was a fantastic babysitter to our kids. My wife said it was unprofessional and disrespectful, and then obtained mad at me once i disagreed that something could not be unprofessional and disrespectful if someone didn’t act unprofessional and disrespectful.

Now she’s giving myself the cold shoulder plus quite frankly I don’t care. I’m reaching the end of my rope and I’m not sure if I want to remain along with someone who is acting because blindly vindictive as she is.

I’m looking for a few outside perspective on this. I’ve been frustrated with this scenario for so long I don’t understand if I’m looking at it clearly or not anymore.