#@@#@!![43M][25f] The daughter says I am prioritizing my “new family” over her

I have a 25 yo daughter that I had when I was in my teenagers. Her mom and I never ever married.

My wife and I also have an 6 yo son and a 4 yo daughter

My daughter did not manage her siblings coming along very well and she has contact us she has some resentment for them.

When my youngest was born, she decided the lady no longer wanted to online around and the small kids, and I agreed to help her with rent and bills for a bit.

You will find slowly been cutting back on that will financial help for a bit now, as my daughter is becoming more independent.

2 weeks ago my daughters car started having trouble and the restoration was around $1200.

The daughter called and questioned me to cover the cost, because she couldn' t pay for to pay for it.

I told her we didn' t have the money for it, as we had planned to take the younger kids to Disneyland the following week. (Mind you they both have identified about this trip since Christmas, and my wife and I have been carrying out a whole Disney countdown with them, its a huge deal in our homes at this point. )

My daughter became very upset beside me, telling me that she needed her car to access work and that this journey shouldn' t trump that will.

She also raised that I never took the girl to Disney and things like that as a child (which is true, her mom and I were teen parents and battled a lot with finances. Factors didn' t get better for me until she was older and I was able to get a better job. Once that occurred did do things like a new(er) car for her 18th birthday, paying for her school, paying for trips she took with friends).

So we carry on our trip and when all of us get back my oldest will be irate with me. She states because she couldn' to afford to get her vehicle fixed and wasn' t able to get to work, the lady lost her job(mind the bus was an option here. )

She also said that I am prioritizing my " new family" over her, but I feel like we now have helped her with a lot over the years and as an adult ot was unfair for her to expect us to take something aside for the younger(dependant) kids

I am trying to find a center ground here, and I don' t want to make her think that she isn' t important, but I also kind of feel as if the " new family" comment was her wanting to be manipulative.