Friend cheated on pregnant wife at my wedding.

TLDR; I (f30) can’t think I’m f*cking writing this particular. My husband (m30) and I are usually literally sitting in bed, a few days after our wedding ceremony night, still dealing with this particular shit. I’m still getting texts from the group wedding chat… long story short, one of my husbands friends, David, cheated on his pregnant wife. I’m looking for advice on whether I have an obligation to tell her.

Background:

Hubby “Santi” and I decided to marry in Mexico for a destination wedding. We had a pretty good turn out, and a lot of our friends made it! Our one buddy, David, came without his wife because (and I actually learned this at the wedding) she is pregnant and has been nervous to travel. Completely respect her choice and we skipped her because she’s amazing.

On the night of our own wedding, most of our bridesmaids and groomsmen were single so there was some interacting. At the resort we visited, there was a night membership and people started to pair off. Santi and I danced the night away, enjoying our wedding ceremony bliss. Little did we can say that our phones were blowing up with the infidelity of our friend David.

Once i was talking to David in the club, he didn’t appear that drunk, so when he wandered off and I didn’t think much of it. Our other friends, Lily and Jack, decided to head back to Jacks room for a good time. Well, Lily and Jack (Jack and Brian were sharing a hotel room simply because they were single occupants and it was cheaper to split) walked in on Brian and Lily’s roommate going to have sex. Lily’s roomie, Marissa, is my friend, who is one.

The next day, David a new super early fight therefore no one saw him leave. I sat down with Marissa and asked her wtf happened. Marissa has been super drunk, apparently everyone was slamming tequila shots. (Later a few of my bridesmaids told me David was handing out shots).

Well she has been devastated and understood the girl f*cked up. She saw his ring, but didn’t even know his name. I asked her about the information and she told me David took her back to the room, and so they started making out. It was consensual, that’s not the issue right here. She felt bad unfortunately he a willing participant (believe me that was my very first concern. ) He informed her “this is a one time thing” and asked her in the event that she had been screened intended for STDs. She said the moment they were about to get smart, Lily and Jack disrupted.

I then individually sat down with Lily plus Jack who gave me basically the same story. I considered everyone, so I discussed with my husband what our following steps should be. I don’t believe David as far as I can toss him, and I don’t believe this was his first rodeo. (No one in the group chat does). It just seems so calculated plus who asks about STDs in the moment if they aren’t individual and have been married for 5ish years.

In any case, we decided to first talk to David about it, ask him what happened. At first he had been trying to deny it, yet we insisted we knew so he relented. He started to choke up (over the phone) and said his wife would never find out if I didn’t say anything to her. I told Brian he had until Friday to tell his wife, or someone was going to as all the ladies in the group chat think it s the right action to take. He agreed and last night he texted “just chatted with the wife, we are awesome. Thanks for encouraging me to accomplish the right thing. ”

Once again, I think David is a liar, I don’t believe he informed his wife. Now I have to decide whether I should. Theoretically, 100% yes I think she needs to know. In practice, she actually is pregnant with their second child and I don’t know how significantly along she is. They vacation around for his work, I’m not sure if this wounderful woman has a support system in place. I believe it’s “my business” because he did this on our wedding night on a trip all of us invited him to. But also I’m not trying to get swept up in other peoples marriage difficulties. I honestly not sure how to proceed. I would love some tips!

I thought of sending the text like:

“I’m so sorry about what happened this past weekend, if I knew what was taking place I would have stopped this. I hope you’re doing ok and I’m here should you ever need to talk. Hope you are doing ok considering. ”

Thanks for reading this. It’s causing me a lot of stress and I have had nightmares every day immediately involving different scenarios.