My (23F) sister-in-law to be (32F) is sabotaging my wedding.
So coincidentally, my sister-in-law to be is also an event planner, which only adds steroids to this situation.
So we’ve been engaged for almost a year. We’ve only really been planning the wedding for about six months, but we’ve talked and discussed what we wanted.
First she hijacked the entertainment. We wanted a DJ, but she went ahead and booked a band. It’s a local band that’s apparently nude to book. This wasn’t a horrible gesture or anything, but it was over the line not considering asking us first.
We wanted the food served to be southern food, as is our location, and she ordered catering from a fancier upscale place. I’m not trying to sound unappreciative or anything, but it isn’t what WE wanted.
My fiancé got his groomsmen each a hunting jacket as a gift. I got my bridesmaids novelty rapier swords. Yeah, I’m that kind of girl. She, who is a bridesmaid, told me that the gift was stupid. My maid of honor, bless her heart, took the sword from her and said if she didn’t appreciate it, then she couldn’t have it.
The final straw for me was when she told her boyfriend that he could serve in our wedding. Her excuse being that they were practically married, and she wanted him to be a part of the experience. This is probably the eightieth guy she’s dated since I’ve known her, so I know he’s going to be gone soon. I very politely informed her that if she didn’t leave my house, there would be slapping involved.
On the previous note, she recommended to me that I take my own brother out of the ceremony to accommodate for her boyfriend. It seems like a personal vendetta against me now.
My fiancé ended up getting into an argument with his family over this, and they defended his sister. He told them if they didn’t respect our wishes, then they could stay home.
The threat worked, but not for so long. When we were discussing at my engagement party where we were going for our honeymoon, we said we were going to Scotland. She said that sounded dumb, and that we should go somewhere nicer.
LITTLE GIRL I have a prehistoric lake monster to find, and I’m not letting you get in the way of that.
I very sweetly told her “we made sure to get a nice king sized bed so the three of us can all have fun together. After all it’s ALL of our wedding.”
I had a sit down with her later and told her that she was getting under my skin with everything. She told me it wasn’t personal, and I assured her that it seemed that way. I told her that we were going to be family soon, and I wanted her at my wedding (a half truth), but she needed to mellow out.
She left without saying much, but she made a group chat today with everybody in the wedding party in it, assigning everybody specific tasks based off of their strengths and weaknesses.
What should I do about her? She’s taking the fun out of my wedding, and common sense won’t stick with her for more than a few hours. How should I handle this?
