My bf says I’m fishing for compliments by cooking for people, and therefore using a grieving friend.

TLDR: I enjoy cook and love when people tell me they like the cooking. My bf states it’s weird and he doesn’t like that I’m constantly angling for compliments.

I’m 22F, my bf is certainly 24M, we’ve been together for 2 years and living together for 2 months.

I love to cook. I always wished to be a chef but i used to be dissuaded from that path and now I work in HR. But I love to cook and particularly cooking things for people I love. It’s kinda selfish since I love it when it individuals tell me they like the cooking. Ngl I thrive on that validation so I jump at the chance to prepare for people.

One of our girl friend’s father lately passed away. I offered to cook her some meals so she didn’t have to worry about cooking food and could focus on herself. I made her a lasagna, a Shepard’s pie, stuffed shells, and some chicken noodle soup. I was pretty much food preparation for an entire day, but she has enough food in order to last her at least a week, probably more, and she can just toss it within the oven and not have to stress regarding cooking and cleanup. We packaged it all up and personally delivered it to her doorstep. My bf has been kinda weirded out and finally admitted to me he believes it’s weird that I crave validation so much that I might use my friend’s father’s death to get compliments. I used to be super confused.

Do I love when people compliment the cooking? Yes. But that is also how I show I care. He also pointed out that I always offer to prepare when we have people as well as that I’m constantly angling for compliments by doing so. Again, yes, I LOVE when people like my cooking, but Also i just enjoy cooking for that people I love. Am We the weird one here? How can I change this? Must i stop cooking for people?