My (F29) husband (M49) doesn’t want anymore kids and I want a baby.

When I married my husband 3 years ago he had a vasectomy done. I knew he didn't want any kids and I was content with having two amazing step kids. I love the kids so much. But as the baby momma drama continues and my 30s are creeping, I've got this nagging pain for a child.

I feel like I made such a huge mistake wasting his time. I know it would be a lot having a child because I own a business that takes so much of my time but I just don't think I can stay married to him.

It doesn't help I'm not happy in our marriage and feel like more of a maid than a wife. I cook, clean, and care for the kids. He's unemployed other than farming a small portion of land and spends a majority of his time getting trashed drunk while I pull 80 hours a week in my business.

I'm to the point I want to end my marriage, pay his bills until he gets a steady job, and get IVF to do it on my own. It's never a good sign when his friends are telling me that they don't know how I put up with him… Would I be a terrible person if I just dipped out?