Re-Post: My girlfriend didn’t tell me she was trans.

For some reason my previous write-up got deleted. Who knows?‍♂️?‍♂️. Anyway I still need advice so here it really is AGAIN.

Well, you most of read the title. My gf (21) did not let me know the lady was trans until i was about to sleep together.

I am 20M, a few months back again I met my right now gf, we' ll call her Ella on tinder. She' s beautiful, and connected immediately. This many happened about 5 months ago. We both agreed that people wanted to take it slow and also get to know each other before all of us did anything sexual. We have been out on several dates as well as spent the night together, although I always slept on the couch out of respect for her.

Now, I am straight and always have been. Never once has the thought even crossed my mind to sleep with another guy, plus honestly it turns our stomach to think about. (Not which i have ANYTHING against the LGBTQ+ community, just not my cup of tea. )

Anyway, I' ll extra you the details, but the point is I REALLY fell deeply in love with her. She' s wise, funny, kind and honestly one of the prettiest girls Ive ever met. Recently we started discussing sleeping collectively for the first time in a phone call. Made plans and everything. However the whole call I can inform she' s distraught regarding something, so I try to reassure her that if she isn' t ready we don' t have to do this today (although I didn' to see why she would be sensation this way, being that she' s the one who mentioned it)

She just started to break down in tears plus said that if she told me, I would hate her. We ofc insisted that wasn' t true, and when We finally got her in order to calm down. She told me that will she is MTF transgender. She said she started using estrogen at 15, plus thats probably why she looked so feminine. The lady told me how her mothers and fathers were supportive of it. She begged me not to leave her.

I informed her that I didn' t wish to break up right now, but which i need time to process this particular. I don' t know what to do. I mean I love her very much, I just don' to know. I' m at a loss for words.

What do I actually do? I mean she kept this particular from me sure, yet she was afraid to reduce me. I know her, and this secret must' ve already been killing her.

Dear God, help me Reddit