Update: My wife (27F) doesn’t approve of my brother’s new SO. Do I (27M) have a say in my brother’s love life?

Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/xOaXLweEBi

This is a short update and probably a frustrating one since it won't have a satisfying closure.

My wife took back the demand the next morning. She apologized to me and said it was probably an extreme reaction to seeing her bully. We talked about what happened in HS and the next steps.

Earlier in the week, we talked to my brother. We were frank and to the point: New SO was a bully to my wife when they were in high school. My wife forgives her, but does not forget. If my brother and her are pursuing a serious relationship, that is fine by us and we won't get in the way, but also won't be around if she's there at a social event. We will see how it goes for big family events like Thanksgiving and/or Christmas. If New SO is truly remorseful and wants to apologize, she's open to that.

My brother was mildly shocked, but seemed to empathize with my wife. So far she's been great to him and was seemingly a good person. He said he needed some time to know what to do with this info. Likely he wants to find out if New SO is remorseful, because he definitely does not want to be in a relationship who is secretly a bully or is duplicitous about it.

The talk ended in good terms, so we'll see what happens going forward, but I'm at peace knowing we did the mature thing.

Thanks everyone for the advice!!

P.S.: Some people were asking what did the bully do to my wife. I am not gonna go into detail about it. The purpose of the original post was to ask if we could interfere in my brother's love life which was a resounding no.