We (F32) (M35) married as young, religious virgins – husband was never sexually attracted to me- now what?

As the title says, we got married as very young, religious virgins. I’d never dated anyone else and thought he was a catch, very handsome, and interesting. I assumed he was attracted to me, otherwise why would he have pursued me? I was very flattered and loved being around him. We got married quickly and here we are over a decade later with multiple kids. We are very good friends, rarely argue, enjoy each other’s company, truly love each other, etc. but sex has always been a struggle. We’ve definitely had some good times in the bedroom but since we were mega virgins when we married we had no idea what we liked in regards to sex. We have had a very hot time getting on the same page.

My husband was recently finally able to be honest with himself and me that he was never sexually attracted to me, but was horny and lonely, and I was available, decent looking, and I liked him, so he married me. (This sounds crazy if you weren’t raised in a conservative religion, but getting married young was the prescription for horny young people since marriage is the only way you can have sex, and masturbation is a sin.) Many influences in those circles will even say that sexual attraction is not a primary issue to worry about and that you should marry based on other factors such as shared beliefs and goals, the approval of family, etc. and that sexual attraction would develop over time. We are still religious but no longer agree with a lot of the things we used to believe about sexuality. The problem is that we are married, don’t want to divorce, but aren’t sure where to go from here. I could definitely step up my efforts to become more attractive, but I kind of feel like “what’s the point, if he wasn’t even attracted to me when I was in my ‘prime’ before pregnancy and birth and age?” And I can’t help but feel kind of pathetic, embarrassed, and hurt. And he feels awful about all of this. He is not a bad man at all- we were both just naive, young, and misguided.

Has anyone ever had a similar situation? Can you develop sexual attraction to someone or is it useless?