yeah, but also it's really nude, because he's my main support system, and we always have the best time together, and attend all kinds of events and stuff, and have plans made for things months from now. it's also become a habit, i usually write all sorts of random thoughts i have during the day, and we'll have all kinds of philosophical discussions that really mentally recharge me. and it's hard knowing i'll have to give up the most fun part of my life…
he also helped me stay out of drugs and addictive patterns, which were my usual method of coping with the lack of warmth and positive social interaction with people and i have no idea what i'm gonna have to replace that with now… and i know it sounds like i'm making excuses, but it's a very complex intertwining of things and if it wasn't for my brain being this way, this would just be the best friendship i could ask for.
i wanna talk to him about this too, and we kinda started but it was interrupted so no conclusions were reached, but his initial response when i said i feel like i should stop communication was that it seems like a bad idea to cut off contact instead of just resolving the thought pattern. and idk, i see a point in that also…
If she wanted to, she would. Making someone feel loved is not a bad thing and investing in improving a relationship is not a bad thing. You’ve let her know what makes you feel loved and she refuses to do it. It will be best to move on. You will find someone who will make you feel loved.
Look. Some people just want to be parents. I don't understand it myself, but I recognize it as being a thing. Baby Fever is real, and some people feel it more than others.
Just don't get pregnant by someone you barely know. 4 months is not nearly long enough to know someone well enough to be having babies with them.
If you're really wanting to work with kids, beyond the pregnancy aspect, look into your local day care facilities or Head Start programs(depends on the state).
Or register with your state to be a foster parent. You'll have to have a home evaluation and you may end up being that weekend home for a kid who's between families, but working with foster kids is by far the best way to test the parental waters. Figuratively.
I dated guys that were 30 when I was 22 as well when I was in college. To be honest it was fine. I have no complaints on their end. They ultimately ended up not working out because I wasn’t emotionally mature enough to be serious but they were both great guys and I still have them on social media to this day. Being skeptical about the age gap is healthy. However I wouldn’t just assume the worst based off that alone. To be safe, if you choose to continue to date, move very slow like slower than you usually would and make sure you’re using protection if your active. Just proceed with caution and see how it goes.
This was all pretty helpful until the last line. I was reluctant to post ages due to the gap, and it having a negative impact on people's opinions.
The only thought or opinion that I would be interested in, regarding the age gap, is if people around the same age, who are actually out of college, are of similar mindsets that they want to remain friends with the people they've dated. Maybe this is just something that's more common now than it was 10 years ago?
Lots of misogyny really on all possible sides here. Kinda wild to read. Hey hon your worth is not tied to your feminine meekness, just because he lives in a way that glorifies submission doesn’t mean that is how you need to on-line. LOL get ready for the disgusting non virgin talk with all your “good christian men” because their religion literally tells them to care. He cares and that upsets you. I actually don’t think in that culture of systematic abuse it’s wrong to lie, so keep meeting him on his level if that’s where your comfortable…
It wasn't his “professional behavior” earlier. As he had no assistant and worked on his own. Which may be why it had never occurred to her that this might happen. vior” earlier. As he had no assistant and worked on his own. Which may be why it had never occurred to her that this might happen.
It wasn't his “professional behavior” earlier. As he had no assistant and worked on his own. Which may be why it had never occurred to her that this might happen. vior” earlier. As he had no assistant and worked on his own. Which may be why it had never occurred to her that this might happen. It wasn't his “professional behavior” earlier. As he had no assistant and worked on his own. Which may be why it had never occurred to her that this might happen. vior” earlier. As he had no assistant and worked on his own. Which may be why it had never occurred to her that this might happen.
Dude you need to call three police and report him for possession of child porn. He is actively hurting children by consuming these image. He is the market for which these children are abused and exploited. He will absolutely harm a child given the opportunity and his porn addiction will become most severe as his need for more extreme images increases.
Trusting you in what? What risk is he worried will happen?
Damaging his car? An accident? Worry or replacing his car. (Which is a real issue currently in this economy).
What would need to happen for him to feel more comfortable?
this sounds very obligatory contractual. but if it works. good for you
the problem is he’s acting more upset at her than at his brother
ROFL, you really dont see the issue here? Really? You dont think his brother woo'ing you is wrong? You accepting those shoes isn't wrong?
Yes this is between your bf and his brother but you need to realize you are in the middle of it by accepting those shoes.
Once you get beyond the people who always blame the men, you might find some useful information in some of the responses.
yeah, but also it's really nude, because he's my main support system, and we always have the best time together, and attend all kinds of events and stuff, and have plans made for things months from now. it's also become a habit, i usually write all sorts of random thoughts i have during the day, and we'll have all kinds of philosophical discussions that really mentally recharge me. and it's hard knowing i'll have to give up the most fun part of my life…
he also helped me stay out of drugs and addictive patterns, which were my usual method of coping with the lack of warmth and positive social interaction with people and i have no idea what i'm gonna have to replace that with now… and i know it sounds like i'm making excuses, but it's a very complex intertwining of things and if it wasn't for my brain being this way, this would just be the best friendship i could ask for.
i wanna talk to him about this too, and we kinda started but it was interrupted so no conclusions were reached, but his initial response when i said i feel like i should stop communication was that it seems like a bad idea to cut off contact instead of just resolving the thought pattern. and idk, i see a point in that also…
If she wanted to, she would. Making someone feel loved is not a bad thing and investing in improving a relationship is not a bad thing. You’ve let her know what makes you feel loved and she refuses to do it. It will be best to move on. You will find someone who will make you feel loved.
Well I will give her the wish she wants and leaves and don’t look back. If she really doesn’t need you why are you still around
That's what he says to you.
Look. Some people just want to be parents. I don't understand it myself, but I recognize it as being a thing. Baby Fever is real, and some people feel it more than others.
Just don't get pregnant by someone you barely know. 4 months is not nearly long enough to know someone well enough to be having babies with them.
If you're really wanting to work with kids, beyond the pregnancy aspect, look into your local day care facilities or Head Start programs(depends on the state).
Or register with your state to be a foster parent. You'll have to have a home evaluation and you may end up being that weekend home for a kid who's between families, but working with foster kids is by far the best way to test the parental waters. Figuratively.
I dated guys that were 30 when I was 22 as well when I was in college. To be honest it was fine. I have no complaints on their end. They ultimately ended up not working out because I wasn’t emotionally mature enough to be serious but they were both great guys and I still have them on social media to this day. Being skeptical about the age gap is healthy. However I wouldn’t just assume the worst based off that alone. To be safe, if you choose to continue to date, move very slow like slower than you usually would and make sure you’re using protection if your active. Just proceed with caution and see how it goes.
This was all pretty helpful until the last line. I was reluctant to post ages due to the gap, and it having a negative impact on people's opinions.
The only thought or opinion that I would be interested in, regarding the age gap, is if people around the same age, who are actually out of college, are of similar mindsets that they want to remain friends with the people they've dated. Maybe this is just something that's more common now than it was 10 years ago?
Agreed
I know it wouldn't be reciprocated but I'll give it a go. Thanks
Lots of misogyny really on all possible sides here. Kinda wild to read. Hey hon your worth is not tied to your feminine meekness, just because he lives in a way that glorifies submission doesn’t mean that is how you need to on-line. LOL get ready for the disgusting non virgin talk with all your “good christian men” because their religion literally tells them to care. He cares and that upsets you. I actually don’t think in that culture of systematic abuse it’s wrong to lie, so keep meeting him on his level if that’s where your comfortable…
It wasn't his “professional behavior” earlier. As he had no assistant and worked on his own. Which may be why it had never occurred to her that this might happen. vior” earlier. As he had no assistant and worked on his own. Which may be why it had never occurred to her that this might happen.
It wasn't his “professional behavior” earlier. As he had no assistant and worked on his own. Which may be why it had never occurred to her that this might happen. vior” earlier. As he had no assistant and worked on his own. Which may be why it had never occurred to her that this might happen. It wasn't his “professional behavior” earlier. As he had no assistant and worked on his own. Which may be why it had never occurred to her that this might happen. vior” earlier. As he had no assistant and worked on his own. Which may be why it had never occurred to her that this might happen.
Until she ran straight into it.
Have you spoken to her about it?
Dude you need to call three police and report him for possession of child porn. He is actively hurting children by consuming these image. He is the market for which these children are abused and exploited. He will absolutely harm a child given the opportunity and his porn addiction will become most severe as his need for more extreme images increases.
Police, divorce, therapy