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Move on. Even if he does improve this won't be an immediate change for him. You don't deserve to battle through someone's else's problems when they've already caused you such pain.
It’s not that it’s too much work for me. I think this whole incident actually made me feel like I might not love her the way I thought I did. Should I try to rekindle and try to fall back in love with her out of guilt? Or do I just forget about everything and move on?
I may be assuming too much, but perhaps your hesitation is that you don’t know these people and you don’t know if they have morals around a girl who is intoxicated/unresponsive/deeply asleep? Like it doesn’t sound to me like you’re worried that she cheated, so I’m just wondering if it’s more concern for her safety?
If that’s the case a conversation about that concern could be helpful. You could even say “if you’re too intoxicated to make it home, the idea of you sleeping in a house with others makes me nervous and I’d feel reassured if we could figure out a plan to get you home next time.” Although there of course is always the chance she might find it condescending or unnecessary for you to “protect” her, but I can understand your hesitation about her being really drunk and passed out on a couch in home with two different crowds of friends.
Your wife goes out and cheats on you and has the nastiest, dirtiest, most fun sex she’s ever had with another couple that she never wants to have with you, doing things with them that she’s denied you for years, lying to you so she can just cheat on you, and do all that while not fucking you for that duration and let you sit at home being a parent to your child while she gets her brains fucked out in ways you could only dream of being a part of…
And you’re not considering throwing her out on her ass!?!?! What the actual fuck??????
You actually still believe that she’d been blackmailed?!?
She was out having sex with another couple in ways you’d be wanting for your entire marriage, cheating on you right under your nose while you were taking care of your kid like a good, and your first conclusion isn’t to immediately end the marriage?!? Where’s your self respect?!?!?
Are you for real, or is this just a rage bait troll post?
Also, having kids. That is a surefire way to make sure that you will always have the other parent in your life till one of you dies.
Tbh I would never have kids with someone without marriage. Too much risk for a man who is willing to commit to lifelong co-parenting and scared of divorce.
The longer you stay, the more you’re enabling him. Like other users have said, he won’t get better, he’ll only get worse and you will end up destroying your self worth wondering why you’re not enough.
I know how very hot it is when you love someone more than yourself, but please get out now. Not ten years from now.
Urgh. Yes please put this poor girl out of her misery and provide proof where necessary. You've got three years worth so, it shouldn't be difficult for you.
If she doesn't have anything going on and and no reason to be ignoring you, then I would break up with her. I would also call her or text her and break up. She doesn't care.
It got my anxious ass insane, tbh. But they had been really consistent and good at reassuring me all this time so I really don’t want ending things to be an option. 🙁
I think OK_construction has the answer, you guys are way too comfortable, you need to break the routine, and you also need to either do your fucking outside for total freedom and try different kinks, I recommend bdsm but that's a preference.
If it's outside pick some isolated areas with nice views at night, or have an awkward conversation with his mother for more privacy. If there are rooms on opposite sides of the house use those.
Thanks for your thoughtful input. He was an old friend that I interacted with on social media occasionally since last year but we recently met up a few times to get to know each other better. He's the one who suggested we should go on a vacation at a place he chose and told me that I am a good planner. I have been the one deciding where to go and he just agrees with it and says it's good.
I cuddle with my homies and none of my girlfriends have ever cared they think it’s cute af. Sometimes you just need to hold the bros to fall asleep man & same for her with girls
This is not my philosophy, it falls under the realm of evolutionary psychology/biology as a Personality Model.
The other models are
The big five
The light triad
…etc etc
As psychology is a soft science it should be taken with a big of scrutiny and open mindedness. Also I'm not saying all men have strong ties to the dark triad, that would be insanity.
i relate to where you’re coming from because i have a tendency to take the piss out of people too, i tend to treat everyone like we’re already friends and i have a dry sense of humor. like the deli guy accidentally weighed more than i ordered and asked if it was alright, and i go “haha that’s fine.. i mean how dare you! the audacity!!” we both laughed and that was that ?♀️
because of the alcohol, it’s possible your tone was harsher than intended but it seems like the girl understood that y’all were just joking around and you apologized regardless. some don’t find that funny, not every person enjoys bantering like that which is completely fine and it seems like you understand that.
being respectful and reading the room is important, but you also shouldn’t feel like you can’t be who you are, y’know? so idk unless there’s more context i don’t know what your friends expect of you at this point, personally
If he brings it up during sex, stop and tell him he has ruined the mood. Do not entertain his questions. You don’t want to end up in a situation where he “accidentally” puts it in one day…
She won't even touch him. It sounds like she is not mature enough for a sexual relationship, or highly traumatized, or something else. In any case, pursuing anything is not worth it. If it's trauma, he can try being a supportive friend, but that is not the read I'm getting.
That's how the love-bombing scam works on younger people. They convince you you're different than the others your age and better than the older ones. You are a special “old soul”. Until the fresher one comes into the picture.
I have made it known early on that it makes me uncomfortable and that I don’t want them in my life.
Not everything that makes you uncomfortable needs to be fixed. If your comfort becomes the norm of what has to be done in a relationship it's called 'controlling'.
In regards to your question: For some people it is normal and for others not. If you can't cope with it than you should consider leaving the relationship. It's definitely nothing your partner needs to fix. It's a you-problem, not a her-problem.
Those are useless placebo “herbal” test boosters. So he’s just being an ass and maybe acting out what he thinks someone with high T acts like. It’s next to impossible to increase your T in any significant way without some sort of anabolic chemical. Tell him to get a grip and stop being a dickhead, also stop wasting money on useless shit as well.
Move on. Even if he does improve this won't be an immediate change for him. You don't deserve to battle through someone's else's problems when they've already caused you such pain.
It’s not that it’s too much work for me. I think this whole incident actually made me feel like I might not love her the way I thought I did. Should I try to rekindle and try to fall back in love with her out of guilt? Or do I just forget about everything and move on?
I may be assuming too much, but perhaps your hesitation is that you don’t know these people and you don’t know if they have morals around a girl who is intoxicated/unresponsive/deeply asleep? Like it doesn’t sound to me like you’re worried that she cheated, so I’m just wondering if it’s more concern for her safety?
If that’s the case a conversation about that concern could be helpful. You could even say “if you’re too intoxicated to make it home, the idea of you sleeping in a house with others makes me nervous and I’d feel reassured if we could figure out a plan to get you home next time.” Although there of course is always the chance she might find it condescending or unnecessary for you to “protect” her, but I can understand your hesitation about her being really drunk and passed out on a couch in home with two different crowds of friends.
Incontinent older dogs need diapers. Or to be put down for quality of life.
Hahaha, dude, you’re a fucking coward!!!!
Your wife goes out and cheats on you and has the nastiest, dirtiest, most fun sex she’s ever had with another couple that she never wants to have with you, doing things with them that she’s denied you for years, lying to you so she can just cheat on you, and do all that while not fucking you for that duration and let you sit at home being a parent to your child while she gets her brains fucked out in ways you could only dream of being a part of…
And you’re not considering throwing her out on her ass!?!?! What the actual fuck??????
You actually still believe that she’d been blackmailed?!?
She was out having sex with another couple in ways you’d be wanting for your entire marriage, cheating on you right under your nose while you were taking care of your kid like a good, and your first conclusion isn’t to immediately end the marriage?!? Where’s your self respect?!?!?
Are you for real, or is this just a rage bait troll post?
Don't ever visit r/wallstreetbets
Talk to your therapist about your obsession with public hair, I'm sure they'd love that
Also, having kids. That is a surefire way to make sure that you will always have the other parent in your life till one of you dies.
Tbh I would never have kids with someone without marriage. Too much risk for a man who is willing to commit to lifelong co-parenting and scared of divorce.
Breakup or divorce it will be rough either way.
Manipulators and abusers do. And some women happen to be of that breed.
Feels like a tactic to slowly erode his confidence, since a partner without self esteem is easier to control.
You are screaming out insecurity lol
Stop doing drugs op and maybe you won’t have these issues to post on Reddit. Hope you get some rehab and your boyfriend moves on :/
The longer you stay, the more you’re enabling him. Like other users have said, he won’t get better, he’ll only get worse and you will end up destroying your self worth wondering why you’re not enough.
I know how very hot it is when you love someone more than yourself, but please get out now. Not ten years from now.
So gift him something extra. A long slow sexy Lapdance in your sexiest lingerie followed by a BJ would probably rock his world.
She jumped at you and tried to kiss you without your consent? That is assault if not sexual assault.
Urgh. Yes please put this poor girl out of her misery and provide proof where necessary. You've got three years worth so, it shouldn't be difficult for you.
Wishing her all the best.
You could take this as an opportunity to have some fun.
You could take this as an opportunity to have some fun.
If she doesn't have anything going on and and no reason to be ignoring you, then I would break up with her. I would also call her or text her and break up. She doesn't care.
It got my anxious ass insane, tbh. But they had been really consistent and good at reassuring me all this time so I really don’t want ending things to be an option. 🙁
I think OK_construction has the answer, you guys are way too comfortable, you need to break the routine, and you also need to either do your fucking outside for total freedom and try different kinks, I recommend bdsm but that's a preference.
If it's outside pick some isolated areas with nice views at night, or have an awkward conversation with his mother for more privacy. If there are rooms on opposite sides of the house use those.
Fortunately OP's not the dumb one here
So? She can't steal someone who doesn't want to be stolen.
Thanks for your thoughtful input. He was an old friend that I interacted with on social media occasionally since last year but we recently met up a few times to get to know each other better. He's the one who suggested we should go on a vacation at a place he chose and told me that I am a good planner. I have been the one deciding where to go and he just agrees with it and says it's good.
I cuddle with my homies and none of my girlfriends have ever cared they think it’s cute af. Sometimes you just need to hold the bros to fall asleep man & same for her with girls
This is not my philosophy, it falls under the realm of evolutionary psychology/biology as a Personality Model.
The other models are
The big five
The light triad
…etc etc
As psychology is a soft science it should be taken with a big of scrutiny and open mindedness. Also I'm not saying all men have strong ties to the dark triad, that would be insanity.
He doesn’t want the fake “support” of someone who doesn’t accept his marriage. Leave him and his husband alone.
i relate to where you’re coming from because i have a tendency to take the piss out of people too, i tend to treat everyone like we’re already friends and i have a dry sense of humor. like the deli guy accidentally weighed more than i ordered and asked if it was alright, and i go “haha that’s fine.. i mean how dare you! the audacity!!” we both laughed and that was that ?♀️
because of the alcohol, it’s possible your tone was harsher than intended but it seems like the girl understood that y’all were just joking around and you apologized regardless. some don’t find that funny, not every person enjoys bantering like that which is completely fine and it seems like you understand that.
being respectful and reading the room is important, but you also shouldn’t feel like you can’t be who you are, y’know? so idk unless there’s more context i don’t know what your friends expect of you at this point, personally
He is trying to WEAR YOU DOWN.
If he brings it up during sex, stop and tell him he has ruined the mood. Do not entertain his questions. You don’t want to end up in a situation where he “accidentally” puts it in one day…
What are some examples of what bothers you?
What did he say exactly If you don’t mind me asking?
She won't even touch him. It sounds like she is not mature enough for a sexual relationship, or highly traumatized, or something else. In any case, pursuing anything is not worth it. If it's trauma, he can try being a supportive friend, but that is not the read I'm getting.
That's how the love-bombing scam works on younger people. They convince you you're different than the others your age and better than the older ones. You are a special “old soul”. Until the fresher one comes into the picture.
Thank you this was really well put together, especially the first paragraph
Idk this sounds suspiciously like r/menwritingwomen.
If not, leave the poor kid alone.
Ego boost.
Sorry he used you for that
I have made it known early on that it makes me uncomfortable and that I don’t want them in my life.
Not everything that makes you uncomfortable needs to be fixed. If your comfort becomes the norm of what has to be done in a relationship it's called 'controlling'.
In regards to your question: For some people it is normal and for others not. If you can't cope with it than you should consider leaving the relationship. It's definitely nothing your partner needs to fix. It's a you-problem, not a her-problem.
Did he give you a reason why he wants to end it? I'm still not clear on that.
Those are useless placebo “herbal” test boosters. So he’s just being an ass and maybe acting out what he thinks someone with high T acts like. It’s next to impossible to increase your T in any significant way without some sort of anabolic chemical. Tell him to get a grip and stop being a dickhead, also stop wasting money on useless shit as well.