if you want her to not go with the abortion treaht….fake reconciliation antil is far enought to not be able to abort and then finish it, because your mental health is important…and happines is posible in 2 houses, but not in 1 like that toxic
That'd be bad…in all kinds of ways. The kids are likely about to reach double digit age or just hitting puberty…if she is doing the worst case scenario, it'd be the worst timing for them too.
Dude… She's using you, and you are too blinded to see that. She's been emotionally and financially abusing you.
And I predict that she's dumping her emotional load on you just so you feel bad for her and doesn't have the guts to leave.
That's her job. She's a professional leech.
When your lease is up, send her to a little trip to her bff's house and move out while she's gone and cut all contact. If you don't cut her off, you'll just allow her to get into your head again.
Leave one month paid off in the lease so she has the legal 30 days to figure herself out.
That cuddle and kiss was in the moment and I told him that has to be it and we need to pull back a bit. I think we were both a bit overwhelmed with emotion in the moment because we had a really deep conversation and there were some tears from both of us. They aren’t together anymore. He broke up with her before we started hanging out
I don't know bro. You seem to be spinning out of control for no reason.
My gf is a wonderful, caring and loving woman, we have plans of marriage soon.
I mean, are you sure? Then why are you trying to play detective when she has given you 0 reason not to trust her.
You are snooping through her things without probable cause, while knowing you are too insecure to handle anything you may find. Its a recipe for disaster. Also, keep it up and she is going to begin losing trust in you.
As for the video, you knew about it. She didn't hide anything. It was on an old phone she probably hasn't turned on since she got a new one. You didn't discover her cheating on you with this video. It was before you two were together. Either deal with it or don't. She is not at fault. She literally has done nothing wrong. You whole post, 0 transgressions.
All due respect, you better tighten up before you lose a good woman. Get yourself under control and try to be happy with this nice lady. Best of luck.
But he’s 12. She was 8. Like that’s a big gap in maturity. Something doesn’t really add up here. I’m not saying he should be in prison. Just that no matter how you slice it, it’s not great.
Obviously she should not be lashing out in a jealous rage anytime you go out in public with her, and doing her fair share around the house.
But honestly, the limitation in driving is flagging this story to me as otherwise possibly being a disability thing? I’m in a pretty similar boat, I have driving related PTSD as well as chronic pain and fatigue issues. That does limit how much I can do in a day. A lot of people perceive that as lazy on the outside, but that perception is both false and acutely unfair. Have you talked to her about what her limitations actually are? Maybe you can come to a better place on chores and gym attendance if you know what is imposing barriers for her. Maybe she’s been embarrassed to ask for money for therapy, but she needs to go. Maybe she can switch to doing the dishes daily (low impact) instead of the vacuuming (high impact). Idk, it’s a conversation to have.
Now this part might be me projecting here for a moment, but bear with me. If her driving situation is anything like mine, you need to be prepared that she might never drive, period. If she gets to a point where she CAN do some driving, she may STILL always need support on long distances, or highways, etc. That’s her personal journey to go on and you imposing judgement that she isn’t trying very hot enough doesn’t help. Lord knows the grief I got from my family only made me feel more stressed and traumatized. My now husband was the only person who gave me complete, unconditional support, and that’s one of the many reasons we were stronger together. It took me 5 years post accident to get my driver’s license, and I attribute that mainly to the miracle that a very niche experimental treatment (acoustic reattunement) was available to me. Seriously, have patience on that front.
But not on the jealousy thing there’s no excuses for that
You need to make it clear to him that it doesn't matter if he actually had sex with her… that he crossed the boundary when he rented the hotel room and stayed there with her.
I was seeing someone “non-exclusively” for 3 months. At the beginning she said she had feelings for her ex but she was trying to get over him and wasn't in communication with him. Couple months later we had a serious conversation about our relationship and she said we were basically dating and she wanted to be dating but something was making her hesitate. We agreed we weren't seeing anyone else, we were each other's first options and would keep it that way. Two weeks later she ghosted me for three days and came back pretending everything was normal, turned out she drove an hour to “reconnect” with her ex, she slept with him the whole time.
We never got to the point of being in a committed relationship, but the lying and deceiving was killer. I don't blame you if you break it off. The reason I broke it off was because when we sat down to have a serious talk about it she was in denial, said we never had anything, I didn't mean anything to her and she was just exploring with me. So I guess it depends on what she says when/if you talk to her about it, but I recommend you do because letting it resonate in you will most likely make you resent her over time
Sexual depravation will kill a relationship faster than anything. I lived through it and came out on the other side. Amazing how a lack of guilt will inspire you.
So even when she sleeps, she doesn't get a break
No, I couldn't either, good luck to you.
That’s very disturbing, a red flag & difficult to forget. Reading list is saved material , that he saved .
A marriage isnt a promise not to leave
if you want her to not go with the abortion treaht….fake reconciliation antil is far enought to not be able to abort and then finish it, because your mental health is important…and happines is posible in 2 houses, but not in 1 like that toxic
That'd be bad…in all kinds of ways. The kids are likely about to reach double digit age or just hitting puberty…if she is doing the worst case scenario, it'd be the worst timing for them too.
Nothing like having sex with a guy who really loves and wants to make you happy and is not a hypocrite at all??
/r/nothingeverhappens
Good chance it'll come to this. Going to set some boundaries up first and see if she wants to actually be apart of this relationship first lol
Dude… She's using you, and you are too blinded to see that. She's been emotionally and financially abusing you.
And I predict that she's dumping her emotional load on you just so you feel bad for her and doesn't have the guts to leave.
That's her job. She's a professional leech.
When your lease is up, send her to a little trip to her bff's house and move out while she's gone and cut all contact. If you don't cut her off, you'll just allow her to get into your head again.
Leave one month paid off in the lease so she has the legal 30 days to figure herself out.
That cuddle and kiss was in the moment and I told him that has to be it and we need to pull back a bit. I think we were both a bit overwhelmed with emotion in the moment because we had a really deep conversation and there were some tears from both of us. They aren’t together anymore. He broke up with her before we started hanging out
50/50
I don't know bro. You seem to be spinning out of control for no reason.
My gf is a wonderful, caring and loving woman, we have plans of marriage soon.
I mean, are you sure? Then why are you trying to play detective when she has given you 0 reason not to trust her.
You are snooping through her things without probable cause, while knowing you are too insecure to handle anything you may find. Its a recipe for disaster. Also, keep it up and she is going to begin losing trust in you.
As for the video, you knew about it. She didn't hide anything. It was on an old phone she probably hasn't turned on since she got a new one. You didn't discover her cheating on you with this video. It was before you two were together. Either deal with it or don't. She is not at fault. She literally has done nothing wrong. You whole post, 0 transgressions.
All due respect, you better tighten up before you lose a good woman. Get yourself under control and try to be happy with this nice lady. Best of luck.
She did broke up tho. My friends and family say that if i text to her i will push her. Waiting for her to approach me bad idea?
He probably finds comfort in you. But frankly, is he deserving of that??
Has she actually dumped him tho or is he lying because he wants some side action. Idk verify with her and I would leave him fully out of your life
But he’s 12. She was 8. Like that’s a big gap in maturity. Something doesn’t really add up here. I’m not saying he should be in prison. Just that no matter how you slice it, it’s not great.
That's way too often.
Kids and relationships. Oh brother.
Obviously she should not be lashing out in a jealous rage anytime you go out in public with her, and doing her fair share around the house.
But honestly, the limitation in driving is flagging this story to me as otherwise possibly being a disability thing? I’m in a pretty similar boat, I have driving related PTSD as well as chronic pain and fatigue issues. That does limit how much I can do in a day. A lot of people perceive that as lazy on the outside, but that perception is both false and acutely unfair. Have you talked to her about what her limitations actually are? Maybe you can come to a better place on chores and gym attendance if you know what is imposing barriers for her. Maybe she’s been embarrassed to ask for money for therapy, but she needs to go. Maybe she can switch to doing the dishes daily (low impact) instead of the vacuuming (high impact). Idk, it’s a conversation to have.
Now this part might be me projecting here for a moment, but bear with me. If her driving situation is anything like mine, you need to be prepared that she might never drive, period. If she gets to a point where she CAN do some driving, she may STILL always need support on long distances, or highways, etc. That’s her personal journey to go on and you imposing judgement that she isn’t trying very hot enough doesn’t help. Lord knows the grief I got from my family only made me feel more stressed and traumatized. My now husband was the only person who gave me complete, unconditional support, and that’s one of the many reasons we were stronger together. It took me 5 years post accident to get my driver’s license, and I attribute that mainly to the miracle that a very niche experimental treatment (acoustic reattunement) was available to me. Seriously, have patience on that front.
But not on the jealousy thing there’s no excuses for that
You need to make it clear to him that it doesn't matter if he actually had sex with her… that he crossed the boundary when he rented the hotel room and stayed there with her.
bro I dont believe that breaking up will solve
Had a similar experience recently.
I was seeing someone “non-exclusively” for 3 months. At the beginning she said she had feelings for her ex but she was trying to get over him and wasn't in communication with him. Couple months later we had a serious conversation about our relationship and she said we were basically dating and she wanted to be dating but something was making her hesitate. We agreed we weren't seeing anyone else, we were each other's first options and would keep it that way. Two weeks later she ghosted me for three days and came back pretending everything was normal, turned out she drove an hour to “reconnect” with her ex, she slept with him the whole time.
We never got to the point of being in a committed relationship, but the lying and deceiving was killer. I don't blame you if you break it off. The reason I broke it off was because when we sat down to have a serious talk about it she was in denial, said we never had anything, I didn't mean anything to her and she was just exploring with me. So I guess it depends on what she says when/if you talk to her about it, but I recommend you do because letting it resonate in you will most likely make you resent her over time
That is very fast.
Both are super mature.
Sexual depravation will kill a relationship faster than anything. I lived through it and came out on the other side. Amazing how a lack of guilt will inspire you.