You do need to nag him and set very hot boundaries. If theyare violated you're done.
Personally, I'd end this relationship. You just need to go read some of the stuff on r/personalfinance. Something is going on with their money and you need to be far away from that family.
I have said things about people I 100% did not mean at all when intoxicated. I don't think it's true that drunk words are sober thoughts. What I think is you have had enough of supporting your partner during active addiction.
Honestly being with someone during active addiction is very hot. The relationship ends up being one sided. You turn into a care giver. You miss out on life.
Has he ever attempted sobriety? Are you financially able to move out? Has he acknowledged his addiction? Have you had break ups before? What do you want in a partner? What would living apart look like?
You are shockingly self referenced. Instead of finding it interesting and curious that the man you on-line views the world differently than you, you instead are upset that he doesn’t see it exactly as you do.
I guess you need to find someone who lines up more with your values?
The other side of that, then, is that she would be responsible for all the cooking, cleaning, raising children, dinner on the table when you get home from work, lunches packed, clean clothes laid out every morning, etc because “that's what women do, and if she can't do that, then she isn't invested in you.”
If she doesn't want an actual equal partnership, you need to decide if you are truly compatible.
If she ain't cheating then this shouldn't be a problem but if she is then clearly she won't get anything?
You do need to nag him and set very hot boundaries. If theyare violated you're done.
Personally, I'd end this relationship. You just need to go read some of the stuff on r/personalfinance. Something is going on with their money and you need to be far away from that family.
I have said things about people I 100% did not mean at all when intoxicated. I don't think it's true that drunk words are sober thoughts. What I think is you have had enough of supporting your partner during active addiction.
Honestly being with someone during active addiction is very hot. The relationship ends up being one sided. You turn into a care giver. You miss out on life.
Has he ever attempted sobriety? Are you financially able to move out? Has he acknowledged his addiction? Have you had break ups before? What do you want in a partner? What would living apart look like?
I’ve seen people on Reddit say it’s best not to do couples counseling with an abuser or narcissist. Guess this is the result.
Thing is he’s not even putting effort to do this for her. He told her if she planned it leaving all of the workload on her and that is not ok
So she shouldn’t be giving more energy than he’s giving her and rather leave him
call cps
Fr uwu
You are shockingly self referenced. Instead of finding it interesting and curious that the man you on-line views the world differently than you, you instead are upset that he doesn’t see it exactly as you do.
I guess you need to find someone who lines up more with your values?
When was the last time you saw inappropriate texts? When did he say it would be taken care of?
shes not even on the pill
shes dumb as fuck thinking this will hold up long term
I don’t care how many drinks I’ve had. I would never do this. That’s insane.
I don’t think he deserves a chance to explain but ig that’s really up to you ??♀️
Op? Are you divorcing him?
The other side of that, then, is that she would be responsible for all the cooking, cleaning, raising children, dinner on the table when you get home from work, lunches packed, clean clothes laid out every morning, etc because “that's what women do, and if she can't do that, then she isn't invested in you.”
If she doesn't want an actual equal partnership, you need to decide if you are truly compatible.