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The man was given 0 clues as to any feelings of uncomfortability by his gf in the night and weeks leading up to her confronting him, with a second person that isn't part of their relationship, in regards to acquiring consent for kissing. She asks to meet him the next day. Doesn't make him aware she won't be alone and proceeds to allow another person not involved in the relationship to speak to him about what is and isn't OK in HIS relationship.
This is not only manipulative, but unnecessarily adversarial. He was tricked into a meet up and blindsided by another woman lecturing him about consent. I never said his gf didn't have what she might deem to be legitimate reasons at the time for doing so, and why would I? The gf isn't OP. I'm not going to make uniformed guesses as to why she chose to go this route, we can only go on the information OP has provided and I stand by what I said.
OPs gf is not only manipulative, she's incredibly immature and not ready to be in a relationship since apparently she needs a 3rd party to communicate for her. Nothing I said was “implied misogyny”.
FYI, OP, let this be a lesson to you if you've read this far; NEVER listen to a woman when it comes to anything regarding being a man or topics from a male perspective.
No, you’re telling me how *you* think. As I pointed out, the fact that gay men seem to have figured this out indicates that there isn’t anything inherently preventing men from forming friendships with people who are of a gender they are attracted to.
I was in a similar situation. I moved out and refused to move back in until I could see for myself that he could take csre of himself which worked but that's a nuclear option.
Buddy, you know what to do.It might be a little scary, especially after you've been with this person for so long, making such a huge change in your life, the conversation will be rough but at the end of the day, it all boils down to this.
You don't deserve that, nobody should go into an argument, no matter the magnitude, thinking “I better hold back so I don't get spat on” so kick that disgrace to the curb pronto!
Women are in the unique position of being approached by men just about anywhere. Rather than say “no” and risk the guy acting like a dick, she was smart about it. She may have seen him approach other women. Or, has seen him follow women in the parking lot. She was transparent about what happened.
He is not using me for my money, we are both, thank God, very comfortable financially. I come from a very wealthy family and he works in the entertainment industry and makes more than enough money. He pays for most expenses, and very rarely asks for me to contribute.
-We met at a club and we were both wasted, I don't think he asked about my age or was bothered by my appearance (I do look younger because I'm an intersex man).
-He said his ex-wife was a “crazy bitch”, except that, nothing about women his age or woman in general.
-It must have happened, I guess.
-It must have happened also, I guess.
-We compromise about important stuff, but I'm not the confrontational type, rather submissive, so I don't mind him and he doesn't mind me.
he want to take it to the next level as he afraid that me being young would get attracted to other guys and leave him
This is a giant glaring red flag reason to want to marry somebody. You want completely different things right now and if you go along with what he wants you are going to end up miserable.
I mean you got together when you were 22, of course you've changed
So where’s the “abuse” at…?
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The man was given 0 clues as to any feelings of uncomfortability by his gf in the night and weeks leading up to her confronting him, with a second person that isn't part of their relationship, in regards to acquiring consent for kissing. She asks to meet him the next day. Doesn't make him aware she won't be alone and proceeds to allow another person not involved in the relationship to speak to him about what is and isn't OK in HIS relationship.
This is not only manipulative, but unnecessarily adversarial. He was tricked into a meet up and blindsided by another woman lecturing him about consent. I never said his gf didn't have what she might deem to be legitimate reasons at the time for doing so, and why would I? The gf isn't OP. I'm not going to make uniformed guesses as to why she chose to go this route, we can only go on the information OP has provided and I stand by what I said.
OPs gf is not only manipulative, she's incredibly immature and not ready to be in a relationship since apparently she needs a 3rd party to communicate for her. Nothing I said was “implied misogyny”.
FYI, OP, let this be a lesson to you if you've read this far; NEVER listen to a woman when it comes to anything regarding being a man or topics from a male perspective.
No, you’re telling me how *you* think. As I pointed out, the fact that gay men seem to have figured this out indicates that there isn’t anything inherently preventing men from forming friendships with people who are of a gender they are attracted to.
What a username btw, kudos
I was in a similar situation. I moved out and refused to move back in until I could see for myself that he could take csre of himself which worked but that's a nuclear option.
or has any advice
Buddy, you know what to do.It might be a little scary, especially after you've been with this person for so long, making such a huge change in your life, the conversation will be rough but at the end of the day, it all boils down to this.
You don't deserve that, nobody should go into an argument, no matter the magnitude, thinking “I better hold back so I don't get spat on” so kick that disgrace to the curb pronto!
Women are in the unique position of being approached by men just about anywhere. Rather than say “no” and risk the guy acting like a dick, she was smart about it. She may have seen him approach other women. Or, has seen him follow women in the parking lot. She was transparent about what happened.
That’s not realistic. It’s pessimistic.
A terrible world would not even have you considering it.
Don’t taint future innocence with it.
He is not using me for my money, we are both, thank God, very comfortable financially. I come from a very wealthy family and he works in the entertainment industry and makes more than enough money. He pays for most expenses, and very rarely asks for me to contribute.
-We met at a club and we were both wasted, I don't think he asked about my age or was bothered by my appearance (I do look younger because I'm an intersex man).
-He said his ex-wife was a “crazy bitch”, except that, nothing about women his age or woman in general.
-It must have happened, I guess.
-It must have happened also, I guess.
-We compromise about important stuff, but I'm not the confrontational type, rather submissive, so I don't mind him and he doesn't mind me.
Valid.
he want to take it to the next level as he afraid that me being young would get attracted to other guys and leave him
This is a giant glaring red flag reason to want to marry somebody. You want completely different things right now and if you go along with what he wants you are going to end up miserable.