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You might feel guilty now but it’s just a feeling – it will fade. He deserves the felony charge, we as a society have those laws in place so people like him don’t hurt us and the people we love without consequences.
You did the right thing even if you feel guilty now, trust me you that it will fade because you will realize you did the right thing. You were abused and hurt for a long time…surviving it and fighting it doesn’t make it not true.
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my son isn’t really a child anymore. And she said it in front of his face he basically lives here full time my oldest son. I talked to him privately because he gave me the “WTF” look.
Just going to say (without reading other comments) that as a man if he’s not ready now after all this time and the journey through IVF then he never will be
Your gf isn't “fiery”, she is emotionally immature and has anger management and codependency issues. She is also emotionally abusive, by your description. Life can be hot, but partners are supposed to be a team! Your gf is an opponent! It sounds like this is such a status quo that you actually thought you should apologize? For working while at work? My guy, it's time to escape this dysfunction
its not that he ended the relationship based on a single instance of feeling mistrust, rather he felt distrust, did some light investigating and caught his girlfriend in a compromising position with her ex boyfriend. Whether or not she was sucking him off, they were in the car together having an intimate conversation when she said she would be at the house to meet OP. When he expressed his concern, she blew up – this seems like clear defensiveness. How could they continue the relationship after that series of events?!
No one is the bad person from my perspective. In other words, there seems to be a tremendous amount of stress circulating in this unicorn house here: both full-time parents (one with over full time), growing child who demands a lot of attention and effort while lacking the profession skill of communication like every child, no friends, no nearby family members that can rely on. Now, these factors are normally not a problem with young couples, but they unfortunately put a toll onto the family day by day.
This is very common. I would like to take a step back. I absolutely acknowledge that his behavior is not an Angel's behavior. With that being said, this should have been addressed at the beginning of the relationship, otherwise, if it is accepted, one either will accept it or ignore it.
This is also not OP's fault. The communication was poorly executed due to his behavior; at the same time, OP also had things to do. Therefore, the communication is obviously not on a healthy level especially since the stress of work does not help. I personally do not want to utter a single word after a 10-hour shift.
With that being said, there is a growing boy in the picture as well. The boy obviously could receive as more time from the parents, both of whom work full-time like an average American working class family. Besides, we are aware that the current world is rapidly changing, so children age differently, and we sometimes need time to grow accustomed to educating them in a way that matches with the current time. Long story short, a challenging task that demands time.
Here are my propositions if you want to work it out:
One of the parents, or luckily, both the parents need to reduce the work hour or not work at all, if possible, both parents. By that doing that, more time will be dedicated into internal affairs instead of external affairs. “It needs a village to raise a child.” Disregarding this will eventually bite you back for the rest of your life Honestly, there are a lot of information about therapies, but how do they help besides listening to the patient? I need more information about how they can help besides just listening to the patient in order to draw an insight.
That was the beginning of the end for my last relationship. She subtly told me not to go “you don’t have to come” “don’t feel obligated to come” then she ignored me all night and told me that I could leave at one point, I offered to stay the entire time with her, and she told me to go home. 6 months later it was over.
He very much is enabling her. If he is triggered by you saying that, it’s because he knows it’s true. You’re in a tough spot OP. Unfortunately it’s up to your boyfriend to stick to those boundaries. But a hot no was a great answer.
He can’t help her with the things she truly needs. Only she and professionals can do that.
He will never change. He might dial back the # of days he golfs for a week or 2 but you will always be a golf widow. There is a reason golf widow is an actual term.
You might feel guilty now but it’s just a feeling – it will fade. He deserves the felony charge, we as a society have those laws in place so people like him don’t hurt us and the people we love without consequences.
You did the right thing even if you feel guilty now, trust me you that it will fade because you will realize you did the right thing. You were abused and hurt for a long time…surviving it and fighting it doesn’t make it not true.
A family member of mine got pulled into this scam. Don’t interact and block the account. Best of luck op
Leave him
God. I’m so upset. I don’t want this to be it.
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my son isn’t really a child anymore. And she said it in front of his face he basically lives here full time my oldest son. I talked to him privately because he gave me the “WTF” look.
Just going to say (without reading other comments) that as a man if he’s not ready now after all this time and the journey through IVF then he never will be
Your gf isn't “fiery”, she is emotionally immature and has anger management and codependency issues. She is also emotionally abusive, by your description. Life can be hot, but partners are supposed to be a team! Your gf is an opponent! It sounds like this is such a status quo that you actually thought you should apologize? For working while at work? My guy, it's time to escape this dysfunction
its not that he ended the relationship based on a single instance of feeling mistrust, rather he felt distrust, did some light investigating and caught his girlfriend in a compromising position with her ex boyfriend. Whether or not she was sucking him off, they were in the car together having an intimate conversation when she said she would be at the house to meet OP. When he expressed his concern, she blew up – this seems like clear defensiveness. How could they continue the relationship after that series of events?!
Just break up
No one is the bad person from my perspective. In other words, there seems to be a tremendous amount of stress circulating in this unicorn house here: both full-time parents (one with over full time), growing child who demands a lot of attention and effort while lacking the profession skill of communication like every child, no friends, no nearby family members that can rely on. Now, these factors are normally not a problem with young couples, but they unfortunately put a toll onto the family day by day.
This is very common. I would like to take a step back. I absolutely acknowledge that his behavior is not an Angel's behavior. With that being said, this should have been addressed at the beginning of the relationship, otherwise, if it is accepted, one either will accept it or ignore it.
This is also not OP's fault. The communication was poorly executed due to his behavior; at the same time, OP also had things to do. Therefore, the communication is obviously not on a healthy level especially since the stress of work does not help. I personally do not want to utter a single word after a 10-hour shift.
With that being said, there is a growing boy in the picture as well. The boy obviously could receive as more time from the parents, both of whom work full-time like an average American working class family. Besides, we are aware that the current world is rapidly changing, so children age differently, and we sometimes need time to grow accustomed to educating them in a way that matches with the current time. Long story short, a challenging task that demands time.
Here are my propositions if you want to work it out:
One of the parents, or luckily, both the parents need to reduce the work hour or not work at all, if possible, both parents. By that doing that, more time will be dedicated into internal affairs instead of external affairs. “It needs a village to raise a child.” Disregarding this will eventually bite you back for the rest of your life Honestly, there are a lot of information about therapies, but how do they help besides listening to the patient? I need more information about how they can help besides just listening to the patient in order to draw an insight.
P/s: Not all Redditors are right
That was the beginning of the end for my last relationship. She subtly told me not to go “you don’t have to come” “don’t feel obligated to come” then she ignored me all night and told me that I could leave at one point, I offered to stay the entire time with her, and she told me to go home. 6 months later it was over.
Thank you
He very much is enabling her. If he is triggered by you saying that, it’s because he knows it’s true. You’re in a tough spot OP. Unfortunately it’s up to your boyfriend to stick to those boundaries. But a hot no was a great answer.
He can’t help her with the things she truly needs. Only she and professionals can do that.
He will never change. He might dial back the # of days he golfs for a week or 2 but you will always be a golf widow. There is a reason golf widow is an actual term.
Is he paying for bills? Which money will allow him to online separately?
Ok great so I’m not crazy. I’ll see what I can do about setting some boundaries. If not, then cutting her off is a must.