If they think you’re a leftover then you dodged a bullet there not dating them. As long as you do something to get yourself out there there’s nothing you can really do but make sure to choose the right person
I wouldn’t say that joke would land well with me but I certainly wouldn’t break up with someone over it. Weird. Hate to say it but it sounds like she was ready for things to end anyway and just used this as the time to walk out. I’m sorry.
you’re not interested in women, he’s not interested in men, it’s not going to do anything for you.
i’m gay & at one point had a threesome with two women because it’s a “male fantasy” (i was bi at the time). and guess what? it was really dull. i didn’t care for it. i found it really boring. now several years later, my boyfriend and I have had yhreesomes with other men & i really enjoy it! i like threesomes, its fun to interact & watch.
but threesomes really arent fun if you’re not attracted to all parties.
More blanket statements that are based/substantiated by nothing. What you’re saying makes no sense. If I’m at a sporting event and I’m loud/aggressively yelling in support of my team, you’re telling me that I’m verbally abusing them? If I’m at a concert and I’m loud/yelling at the performer, you’re saying that I’m abusing them? If I’m at a graduation and I’m loud/cheering for the person I’m there to support, by your logic I’m actually abusing them. You’re trying to make a generalization that is just not accurate. Hence the dangers of blanket generalizations based on no research, facts, or data
I may get downvoted for this, but hooking up with someone casually is fine, so long as you don't know anything about them? And hooking up for x period of time, still not knowing much about them? And then be surprised when something you find out about the person is a deal breaker?
Sure, he shouldn't be cheating. But maybe not judge him for telling you a bit about his life? Or have a strict policy of no conversation beyond sex?
Thank you so much, I really thought that I actually had to grow out of being “lovey dovey”. I mean I know he loves and cares for me, but he is really lacking the cuddles part of the relationship. I’m I asking to much, am I the problem? I always do my best to give him the space he needs and still I feel like I need to beg for this kind of affection, and when I beg, he says that I am not giving him his space. All I want is for him to be a little more romantic that’s all. But he know that…..
Please don't beat yourself up. None of this was your fault. You were drunk enough to be refused entry to a club, I think your judgment was probably more impaired than you realise.
Yes ask for confidentiality before you disclose, when dealing with university staff. Also, while that night seems to be what triggered his bullying to get worse, it doesn't mean it's the cause. The cause is HIM, him choosing to bully you and his anger and aggression towards you.
When people are targeted by bullies its quite common to feel shame, as if being bullied means there is something wrong with you. But there is NOTHING wrong with you. This guy you online with is a creep.
He’s setting a good example for his son by buying his ex wife gifts. Is the goal so his sons will know how to treat women? So what’s his excuse for his treatment of you? Is the message treat your ex wife better than your girlfriend? The extravagant gifts would be a deal breaker for me. Add to that, he ignored your birthday. Take a page from your boyfriend’s book and set the example for your son how you should be treated. End it.
this ain't right. would she have felt funny , if you had said , if it weren't for your kids you would have divorced her ? . I think not. I would let her knkw how you feel and ask her , why she thought it was funny.
Do not let him come over again. He sounds dangerous. Don’t give him anything back! You are asking for trouble if you don’t go to the police NOW. If you really want to give him back the ring you should have the cops deliver it with the restraining order!! Trust and believe I’ve absolutely been there!!! I was stabbed in the face by my abusive ex’s neighbor who was his sounding board for all the stuff he alleged I did to him. SERIOUSLY!!! I came close to dying!! I can’t warn you strongly enough.
Based on everything you said, why would you even think about this guy? He took lessons from you, but then used them on someone else. Told you out of spite. Definitely not at your level.
Based your post, you can do much, much, better. You are a keeper.
So break up, shitposter
If they think you’re a leftover then you dodged a bullet there not dating them. As long as you do something to get yourself out there there’s nothing you can really do but make sure to choose the right person
Funny enough, you’re the one dating the child, even though you’re half his age.
You’re the mistress, there’s no future with this man, find someone better, ideally within a few years of you.
I wouldn’t say that joke would land well with me but I certainly wouldn’t break up with someone over it. Weird. Hate to say it but it sounds like she was ready for things to end anyway and just used this as the time to walk out. I’m sorry.
you’re not interested in women, he’s not interested in men, it’s not going to do anything for you.
i’m gay & at one point had a threesome with two women because it’s a “male fantasy” (i was bi at the time). and guess what? it was really dull. i didn’t care for it. i found it really boring. now several years later, my boyfriend and I have had yhreesomes with other men & i really enjoy it! i like threesomes, its fun to interact & watch.
but threesomes really arent fun if you’re not attracted to all parties.
Why is this even a question? Have some respect for yourself and move on.
You should talk to a therapist, dude. This is heavy stuff.
More blanket statements that are based/substantiated by nothing. What you’re saying makes no sense. If I’m at a sporting event and I’m loud/aggressively yelling in support of my team, you’re telling me that I’m verbally abusing them? If I’m at a concert and I’m loud/yelling at the performer, you’re saying that I’m abusing them? If I’m at a graduation and I’m loud/cheering for the person I’m there to support, by your logic I’m actually abusing them. You’re trying to make a generalization that is just not accurate. Hence the dangers of blanket generalizations based on no research, facts, or data
I didn't have a choice..
You ruined the evening. You're doing the exact opposite of 'your part'.
I may get downvoted for this, but hooking up with someone casually is fine, so long as you don't know anything about them? And hooking up for x period of time, still not knowing much about them? And then be surprised when something you find out about the person is a deal breaker?
Sure, he shouldn't be cheating. But maybe not judge him for telling you a bit about his life? Or have a strict policy of no conversation beyond sex?
I don't get it.
How is a 6month friend, his best friend, that he wants do everything but kiss, and sex appreciate? It's not not at all.
Thank you so much, I really thought that I actually had to grow out of being “lovey dovey”. I mean I know he loves and cares for me, but he is really lacking the cuddles part of the relationship. I’m I asking to much, am I the problem? I always do my best to give him the space he needs and still I feel like I need to beg for this kind of affection, and when I beg, he says that I am not giving him his space. All I want is for him to be a little more romantic that’s all. But he know that…..
Please don't beat yourself up. None of this was your fault. You were drunk enough to be refused entry to a club, I think your judgment was probably more impaired than you realise.
Yes ask for confidentiality before you disclose, when dealing with university staff. Also, while that night seems to be what triggered his bullying to get worse, it doesn't mean it's the cause. The cause is HIM, him choosing to bully you and his anger and aggression towards you.
When people are targeted by bullies its quite common to feel shame, as if being bullied means there is something wrong with you. But there is NOTHING wrong with you. This guy you online with is a creep.
Guy’s better off too, doesn’t have to stay with someone who doesn’t give a rat’s about him. Win-win!
Dude, alcohol is a depressant, it is not your friend right now.
Focus on yourself, what you want to do & where you want to go in life.
Yes. Celebrate yourself! You have achieved something huge and brilliant. Walk tall, proud and strong. Invite a close friend and be proud of yourself.
If you give in on this you will be putting yourself in second place for the rest of your life.
Congratulations Dr. Redditor. Go you. Also go to your graduation. Maybe you can join the wedding later.
He’s setting a good example for his son by buying his ex wife gifts. Is the goal so his sons will know how to treat women? So what’s his excuse for his treatment of you? Is the message treat your ex wife better than your girlfriend? The extravagant gifts would be a deal breaker for me. Add to that, he ignored your birthday. Take a page from your boyfriend’s book and set the example for your son how you should be treated. End it.
Starting therapy might be a good option too. Really uncover the root of the anexity and take steps to improve
What did the official diagnosis do to benefit you? Was it medication?
I don't think it is really your business
It's perfectly normal. You are still getting over it.
this ain't right. would she have felt funny , if you had said , if it weren't for your kids you would have divorced her ? . I think not. I would let her knkw how you feel and ask her , why she thought it was funny.
Sure, there's the door Good bye is what you say….
I’ve been to his place before this is just because we can’t have sex at his place.
Do not let him come over again. He sounds dangerous. Don’t give him anything back! You are asking for trouble if you don’t go to the police NOW. If you really want to give him back the ring you should have the cops deliver it with the restraining order!! Trust and believe I’ve absolutely been there!!! I was stabbed in the face by my abusive ex’s neighbor who was his sounding board for all the stuff he alleged I did to him. SERIOUSLY!!! I came close to dying!! I can’t warn you strongly enough.
Based on everything you said, why would you even think about this guy? He took lessons from you, but then used them on someone else. Told you out of spite. Definitely not at your level.
Based your post, you can do much, much, better. You are a keeper.
Good luck!