Did he save them or were they just never deleted I had to delete a bunch of photos from different ex girlfriends years after we stop dating simply because I forgot and was reminded I had them when I finally got a new phone and had to back everything up it’s really not that malicious
Imo both an argument and a fight is just a disagreement where things get heated (aka emotional). I manage just fine not to argue/fight, as long as I can take breaks from a conversation when I need them, to emotionally regulate.
If you have disagreements but manage to resolve all of them peacefully, that's amazing. But I do also think any couple should be ready to weather the storm that could result from someone feeling misunderstood in something that's really important to them, or feeling disrespected, the list goes on.
7mo is not that long; the both of you could easily still feel that new relationship energy, making it easier to not strongly disagree on things.
Dude here – Thank you for calling it out. No need to feel “dirty” at all. You have no clue how much we appreciate seeing comments calling this behavior out. It says a lot about the immaturity of others going out of their way to down-vote you just because you “broke ranks” by their perspective. Hypocrisy is hypocrisy no matter what organs a person has. Love equal opportunity call-outs.
I did recently ask if I’m fulfilling him sexually snd he said yes. I told him I’d always want to try anything and love being with him. I will try positive reinforcement thank you
Thank you so much!! I think he may feel more inclined to ask because I’ve been with women before, but that doesnt mean i want to be with him and another woman or even that i would want to sleep with anyone else while being committed to him. If it’s a fantasy, i understand, but that’s all it will be as long as he’s with me!
That’s good. I wish that’d translate into agreeing that the guy isn’t welcome back to their place (unless he returns with a honest heartfelt apology and explanation that can be considered).
His feelings are his responsibility. As long as you’re inviting him to hang with you, have introduced him to your male friends and aren’t giving him a reason to be suspicious you can on-line your life however you choose. I saw that you’re from Iran, I’m from the US- culturally, things may be very different there. But ultimately, he needs to choose to trust you, spend time with you and your friends and deal with his jealously or sadness or whatever on his own. Be well. ?
In your replies, you are presenting this as a complicated situation. It's not complicated, it's just difficult.
You can marry her, and continue your studies, or you can refuse to marry her. Those are your choices. They are simple. They are just not easy.
The answer is also simple, and is also not easy: you can't marry her. You will spend your life miserable if you marry her.
So you really only have one choice. You should tell your father that, and then let the chips fall where they may. If he stops paying for your schooling, you have to find another way in life.
But I suspect that the shame of having his son drop out of medical school out of defiance will be an incentive for him to reconsider.
If most women actually told their partners things like this it would overall have a desired outcome. He may be open to the idea. Or he may be opposed and can be part of marriage therapy.
You didn’t waste a year of both of your lives, he did.
Cut your losses. If you are serious about someone that you love and care for and want to build a future with; you absolutely will always make these types of decisions together. Dude is acting like the 20yo in this situation. Tell him good riddance. (I know it’s not that simple – but it might feel good to stick it to him a bit before you start healing and find someone less selfish)
Hm. Seems I’ve struck a nerve
The moment right after sex is not the appropriate time to say essentially “well that could have been better”. Read the room dude.
Did he save them or were they just never deleted I had to delete a bunch of photos from different ex girlfriends years after we stop dating simply because I forgot and was reminded I had them when I finally got a new phone and had to back everything up it’s really not that malicious
Imo both an argument and a fight is just a disagreement where things get heated (aka emotional). I manage just fine not to argue/fight, as long as I can take breaks from a conversation when I need them, to emotionally regulate.
If you have disagreements but manage to resolve all of them peacefully, that's amazing. But I do also think any couple should be ready to weather the storm that could result from someone feeling misunderstood in something that's really important to them, or feeling disrespected, the list goes on.
7mo is not that long; the both of you could easily still feel that new relationship energy, making it easier to not strongly disagree on things.
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Communicate that it make you uncomfortable and makes you wonder if she is ready to move on with you.
Dude here – Thank you for calling it out. No need to feel “dirty” at all. You have no clue how much we appreciate seeing comments calling this behavior out. It says a lot about the immaturity of others going out of their way to down-vote you just because you “broke ranks” by their perspective. Hypocrisy is hypocrisy no matter what organs a person has. Love equal opportunity call-outs.
Tell her of course she can and you're coming with her.
I'm sorry that happened to you…cut all ties with them…they are terrible people
I did recently ask if I’m fulfilling him sexually snd he said yes. I told him I’d always want to try anything and love being with him. I will try positive reinforcement thank you
Thank you so much!! I think he may feel more inclined to ask because I’ve been with women before, but that doesnt mean i want to be with him and another woman or even that i would want to sleep with anyone else while being committed to him. If it’s a fantasy, i understand, but that’s all it will be as long as he’s with me!
That’s good. I wish that’d translate into agreeing that the guy isn’t welcome back to their place (unless he returns with a honest heartfelt apology and explanation that can be considered).
His feelings are his responsibility. As long as you’re inviting him to hang with you, have introduced him to your male friends and aren’t giving him a reason to be suspicious you can on-line your life however you choose. I saw that you’re from Iran, I’m from the US- culturally, things may be very different there. But ultimately, he needs to choose to trust you, spend time with you and your friends and deal with his jealously or sadness or whatever on his own. Be well. ?
Because they can tell, from looking at her
This isn't a real relationship. Just move on.
“I’m sorry, I just don’t feel a connection here and would like to stop talking. Good luck in the future.” You can’t help how it’s received.
She's said no, so drop it and leave her alone forever.
In your replies, you are presenting this as a complicated situation. It's not complicated, it's just difficult.
You can marry her, and continue your studies, or you can refuse to marry her. Those are your choices. They are simple. They are just not easy.
The answer is also simple, and is also not easy: you can't marry her. You will spend your life miserable if you marry her.
So you really only have one choice. You should tell your father that, and then let the chips fall where they may. If he stops paying for your schooling, you have to find another way in life.
But I suspect that the shame of having his son drop out of medical school out of defiance will be an incentive for him to reconsider.
Why didn’t you handle the problem when it stopped?
What do you think caused the change?
What does he think the problem is?
Thank you
Communication.
If most women actually told their partners things like this it would overall have a desired outcome. He may be open to the idea. Or he may be opposed and can be part of marriage therapy.
You didn’t waste a year of both of your lives, he did.
Cut your losses. If you are serious about someone that you love and care for and want to build a future with; you absolutely will always make these types of decisions together. Dude is acting like the 20yo in this situation. Tell him good riddance. (I know it’s not that simple – but it might feel good to stick it to him a bit before you start healing and find someone less selfish)
Wait you mean you didn't have a flash mob with all his favorite celebrities set up? So you obviously don't love him /s
See the good there is in him – he’s obviously charming or whatever.
But also see the bad – he’s a conman and a user and he is putting your freedom and even possibly your life in danger just because he loves MONEY.
Weigh the good and the bad against each other. See the full picture. Include the good of course, but look at the full picture and include the bad.
Look up narcissistic abuse. That's called love-bombing and that's part of the abuse.
Have you ever had a FWB? I mean, it's literally in the word. I've never seen actual FWBs that didn't happen organically.
Maybe hook ups can turn into it, but yes. You have to be friends.
?? good, stay in therapy, dump him. you deserve to be treated infinitely better
His mentality is disgusting, open a new bank account and be out when you can, this won’t get better