You've already shown him that he can cheat on you as much as he wants and face no ramifications for it. So you can expect that to just be how your relationship is until you decide to end it.
2) him asking questions in an attempt to initiate physical contact
3) the wrestling
4) sharing his bed instead of using a chair or sitting on the floor.
Then again you already know this. These things are common sense. Yes the guy was in the wrong for assaulting her, but there were red flags all over the situation from beginning to end. The boyfriend also has some culpability for agreeing to it, if he did in fact agree to it. I doubt that, but who knows. This whole story could just as easily be completely fabricated.
Your kid is going to be more messed up if you stay in a relationship where you’re not respected. You’re going to teach them that that’s what love is and that it’s okay to be spoken to like that because mommy stayed with daddy when grandpa said those things so it must be fine.
It took you 10 months to make things official and she was the one who had to initiate it. Her sleeping with someone else during that period is a complete non-issue; you didn't even know what you wanted so why should she have been exclusively devoted to you?
The words you used to describe her are patronising and superior: childish, goofy, etc. Are you looking for somebody that you can patronise, or you're looking for an equal partner. It certainly looks like you're looking for somebody who is younger whom you can control and who you can feel superior to.
i did ask her if we could call before but she said no, i really wanna call, i want to tell her with my voice everything.
M,38 here.
If this guy….who is 30, hasn’t learnt to look after himself by now, and now is ok with fights with his SO now being part of that, he probably won’t.
Like I never get this. The boy doesn’t wanna clean, but now has an argument and still doesn’t wanna clean. Grow up bro.
*Should I invite him?*
How old are you two and how long have you two been girlfriend and boyfriend, please?
To be totally frank, if my friend had invited me to a NYE party, I would have said, Let me talk to my boyfriend. I don't know what we're doing.
Maybe it's just me, IDK. But I sorta would assume (yes, yes, I know) we would have plans to be together NYE.
*Should I invite him?*
I guess you can invite him, Op. AFTER you have made plans with a person he doesn't get along with, sure! Invite him.
You've already shown him that he can cheat on you as much as he wants and face no ramifications for it. So you can expect that to just be how your relationship is until you decide to end it.
Who has the musical tickets?
1) movie and drink, alone = Netflix and chill
2) him asking questions in an attempt to initiate physical contact
3) the wrestling
4) sharing his bed instead of using a chair or sitting on the floor.
Then again you already know this. These things are common sense. Yes the guy was in the wrong for assaulting her, but there were red flags all over the situation from beginning to end. The boyfriend also has some culpability for agreeing to it, if he did in fact agree to it. I doubt that, but who knows. This whole story could just as easily be completely fabricated.
Telling OP he’s in fear for his life is fucking comedy though.
Your kid is going to be more messed up if you stay in a relationship where you’re not respected. You’re going to teach them that that’s what love is and that it’s okay to be spoken to like that because mommy stayed with daddy when grandpa said those things so it must be fine.
It took you 10 months to make things official and she was the one who had to initiate it. Her sleeping with someone else during that period is a complete non-issue; you didn't even know what you wanted so why should she have been exclusively devoted to you?
Let it go.
The words you used to describe her are patronising and superior: childish, goofy, etc. Are you looking for somebody that you can patronise, or you're looking for an equal partner. It certainly looks like you're looking for somebody who is younger whom you can control and who you can feel superior to.