So you have unprotected sex since the beginning…dumb idea. Syphilis has become very common again. You need to protect yourself from STDs. If both you and her are that easy with unprotected sex then you both obviously are easy with that in general. You're having sex with her and her previous partners and their partners and vice versa. Next time get tested before you start having unprotected sex and then you would've known if this was recent or not.
You've already become attached to her kids…you shouldn't have even met her kids yet to be honest. Unrelated to your current issue but kids shouldn't need every person their parent sleeps with.
It irks me how few people seem to be realizing that, like you said, this whole arrangement is clearly NOT about just trying to get pregnant.
I think since the brothers can no longer pass for each other, this is just OP's husband manipulating her into thinking this is about trying to figure out a way to get pregnant. But in reality, there has to be some sort of weird kink/fetish/whatever the hell you want to call it. Because clearly he gets off on swapping places with unsuspecting girls.
Please, grow up, grow out, and date outside of your social circle.
Unless you online in a tiny town of hundreds of people with no options, if you only date in your social circle, you are going to be sleeping with the same people everyone else is sleeping with.
I guess I’m going to be one of those people that disregard the “just leave him” comments…. I get it. I do, and I’ve thought about it. I want to put as much effort as I can before I get to that point.
He was ass. Yes.
My question is how to I deal with those moments? You can’t just leave people that are clearly going thru it. That’s why we are together. To see it thru.
How can I help him de-escalate when I have already apologized many times?
Doesn’t really seem to be a reason to just leave him…
I mean personally I think she should just break up with him. You’re suggesting they play games and she do things to make him jealous when in reality it sounds like their relationship has run it’s course.
That doesn’t make your behavior any less ridiculous.
So you have unprotected sex since the beginning…dumb idea. Syphilis has become very common again. You need to protect yourself from STDs. If both you and her are that easy with unprotected sex then you both obviously are easy with that in general. You're having sex with her and her previous partners and their partners and vice versa. Next time get tested before you start having unprotected sex and then you would've known if this was recent or not.
You've already become attached to her kids…you shouldn't have even met her kids yet to be honest. Unrelated to your current issue but kids shouldn't need every person their parent sleeps with.
Lol, play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Your update definitely made me realize I'll be wasting my time giving you any advice. Goodluck
Have you considered therapy? Individual and couples?
Are you gonna wait another 5 years of your precious fertility? I wouldn’t
You’re not an idiot. He is for throwing away something great for someone fleeting. Him cheating says more about his character than anything about you.
You going to need to prepare yourself for the fact that you're in this alone.
It sounds like she’s cheating, I’m sorry to say 🙁
I don't believe that for a second
Possible porn addiction
If he is telling the truth, fella needs to go to the doctor
It irks me how few people seem to be realizing that, like you said, this whole arrangement is clearly NOT about just trying to get pregnant.
I think since the brothers can no longer pass for each other, this is just OP's husband manipulating her into thinking this is about trying to figure out a way to get pregnant. But in reality, there has to be some sort of weird kink/fetish/whatever the hell you want to call it. Because clearly he gets off on swapping places with unsuspecting girls.
Please, grow up, grow out, and date outside of your social circle.
Unless you online in a tiny town of hundreds of people with no options, if you only date in your social circle, you are going to be sleeping with the same people everyone else is sleeping with.
I guess I’m going to be one of those people that disregard the “just leave him” comments…. I get it. I do, and I’ve thought about it. I want to put as much effort as I can before I get to that point.
He was ass. Yes.
My question is how to I deal with those moments? You can’t just leave people that are clearly going thru it. That’s why we are together. To see it thru.
How can I help him de-escalate when I have already apologized many times?
Doesn’t really seem to be a reason to just leave him…
But again, maybe I’m blinded.
Just trying to do the right thing here
I mean personally I think she should just break up with him. You’re suggesting they play games and she do things to make him jealous when in reality it sounds like their relationship has run it’s course.
Confront him, leave him, and focus on your mom. The healing begins now…