oh my god you're one of the few logical people that have commented on my post. i also have my own way to believe in “god” (i don't believe that there's a man up there that watches our every move and does good things for us, but i do believe in energies, good and bad).
i also believe that telling me that my relationship will not last is a stretch. there's something we have different thoughts about? okay, we'll try to talk it out and try to meet in the middle, or find a solution that sits well with both of us. i really don't think that a disagreement like this has breaking up as the only solution.
i also disagree with people telling me that i should get him out of that religion, cult, sect or whatever they want to call it. i can give him my opinions, i can tell him the things i've read about jws but i have no right to tell him to “just quit”. the only reason i would do something like that is if i think that he's in danger, and fron what i've seen there's nothing wrong, for now at least
My friend who lost his wife to cancer is 77. He posted on an on-line dating app for older people, and his dance card is now full. The f/m ratio is in your favor, my friend, and I am confident you will find the companion you’re looking for! Good luck. ?
OP also says she considers their relationship as it is a marriage, and clarifies in her post edit she thought “settling down” meant getting married, not being in a committed relationship
No, she is manipulating you. If she were going to be that sincerely distraught over the end of your relationship, she wouldn't be sleeping around.
If you're still concerned, draft a message and address it to everyone in her support system (family/friends/etc). State in it “My relationship has ended with [person] due to irreconcilable differences regarding my requirement for monogamy. I am worried for their safety if left alone. Please be there for them.” Send that right before you break up with her. Like, hit send as the conversation starts.
If you don't think that's enough, call the police as soon as the convo ends. “I've just broken up with my partner, I'm genuinely concerned they are a danger to themselves.”
They are real, and also they are as common as dirt & not exceptional at all? It's just lust & urge for a new experience. Not that these feelings can't be really strong, but you have to put them in their place. Also, telling yourself that you don't love your gf that much? I think it's a mistake, a young one, to think that lust disappears just because you fall in love with somone and have a good relationship with them. You have to learn to manage it. (Also consider that someone who is willing to be so flirtatious with you even knowing you have a gf is a person who could actually do you harm, and let that shrivel your dck a bit. Good luck!)
IMO no this isn’t sexual harassment, this was him trying to make a move, because you guys have been flirting. Ultimately it backfired and he accepted your response, and now he knows better about your boundaries. But how else are physical relationships meant to progress? Some people find it profoundly unsexy to talk about every little thing before it happens, and would prefer their partner to just go with the flow and see what happens in the moment. I think it’s very reasonable to believe that someone you’ve been flirting with will be ok with you touching their knee. Now he knows you want verbal consent for every part of something physical, fine, that’s a-okay. But sexual harassment is unwanted sexual advances, and it sounds like you did want this but would have been more comfortable if it had been discussed before. He knows that now.
Yes, you are incompatible and he is treating you like an afterthought which is going nowhere here or at its best isn't guaranteed to go anywhere. As also a Muslim who dated a Christian before, it's time to break up.
You're being abused, and you deserve so much better. Think of all that she did over the course of your trip and throughout your entire relationship. Then, picture if the genders were reversed and it was your sister or mother or cousin telling you her partner did all of those things. You'd advise her to leave the abusive prick, wouldn't you? Think about that, please.
Don't give in easily. For once try to take a naked stance and see what he has to say and do first before jumping the gun to give him another chance. You may be a softie but there comes a time you have to let it go and be a hardass for a change.
I’m sorry, no, that’s the convenient lie that people tell themselves to avoid admitting that the issue is their partner. The vast majority of judges do not want to weigh in on divorce proceedings if the parties can resolve things. It’s literally not worth the judges time.
If you are at the point of blaming the courts, you are admitting that you cannot resolve the conflict with your partner in the event of the divorce … and if you are anticipating a conflict based on greed, as in this scenario, the at fault party is one’s soon to be former spouse.
There are exceptions, endless examples of devotion by both sexes … but the reality is that men are less likely to adhere to an ill mate than women are. As I said … there are endless examples of men that are exceptions to the trend. All are deserving of respect and admiration which I have for them. The same respect and admiration is due anyone that cares for the health and well being of another.
her answers are so different in every comment I wanted to ask directly, in one comment she says he saved $10 and blows all of it and the next he has $150k-300k. In the original post she doesn’t even say she has x amount of money saved, just that she’d been saving for 5 years. the whole post is wild.
In my opinion if I’m married and I want to snoop…I’ll snoop all day everyday if I feel the need to. Typically there’s a reason or something just feels off. I don’t snoop just for the hell of it. If I find something or have a question I will absolutely bring it up. There is no crime in wanting transparency and honesty in a relationship.
I actually thought about it being a BPD rage thing but I don’t know too much about BPD
Did he threaten to leave when you were fighting? Is really none of his stuff gone? Is it possible he's had a huge night and is sleeping it off?
My husband cheated and we worked things out but if cheated on me like that, no way.
Your options are.
Break up with him and find a better person to spend your life with.
Resign yourself to a life with no pets and / or children.
oh my god you're one of the few logical people that have commented on my post. i also have my own way to believe in “god” (i don't believe that there's a man up there that watches our every move and does good things for us, but i do believe in energies, good and bad).
i also believe that telling me that my relationship will not last is a stretch. there's something we have different thoughts about? okay, we'll try to talk it out and try to meet in the middle, or find a solution that sits well with both of us. i really don't think that a disagreement like this has breaking up as the only solution.
i also disagree with people telling me that i should get him out of that religion, cult, sect or whatever they want to call it. i can give him my opinions, i can tell him the things i've read about jws but i have no right to tell him to “just quit”. the only reason i would do something like that is if i think that he's in danger, and fron what i've seen there's nothing wrong, for now at least
How often do you get together as a group?
Is this really about Tom Brady for them or just an excuse to get together?
Wanky but he’s saying he had a fear of intimacy until the relationship with a woman he loved balanced his masculinity.
My friend who lost his wife to cancer is 77. He posted on an on-line dating app for older people, and his dance card is now full. The f/m ratio is in your favor, my friend, and I am confident you will find the companion you’re looking for! Good luck. ?
OP also says she considers their relationship as it is a marriage, and clarifies in her post edit she thought “settling down” meant getting married, not being in a committed relationship
The thing is fairytales aren’t real. And her marriage isn’t either.
I don’t really believe this story. If it is true, she is clearly cheating.
No, she is manipulating you. If she were going to be that sincerely distraught over the end of your relationship, she wouldn't be sleeping around.
If you're still concerned, draft a message and address it to everyone in her support system (family/friends/etc). State in it “My relationship has ended with [person] due to irreconcilable differences regarding my requirement for monogamy. I am worried for their safety if left alone. Please be there for them.” Send that right before you break up with her. Like, hit send as the conversation starts.
If you don't think that's enough, call the police as soon as the convo ends. “I've just broken up with my partner, I'm genuinely concerned they are a danger to themselves.”
They are real, and also they are as common as dirt & not exceptional at all? It's just lust & urge for a new experience. Not that these feelings can't be really strong, but you have to put them in their place. Also, telling yourself that you don't love your gf that much? I think it's a mistake, a young one, to think that lust disappears just because you fall in love with somone and have a good relationship with them. You have to learn to manage it. (Also consider that someone who is willing to be so flirtatious with you even knowing you have a gf is a person who could actually do you harm, and let that shrivel your dck a bit. Good luck!)
Nope. Stop staying up late talking to him. He’s not your knight in shining armour. You don’t need one.
I refuse to believe this is a real post.
You are a predator. So it was a great decision from your daughter to stay away from you; stay away from her you creep.
IMO no this isn’t sexual harassment, this was him trying to make a move, because you guys have been flirting. Ultimately it backfired and he accepted your response, and now he knows better about your boundaries. But how else are physical relationships meant to progress? Some people find it profoundly unsexy to talk about every little thing before it happens, and would prefer their partner to just go with the flow and see what happens in the moment. I think it’s very reasonable to believe that someone you’ve been flirting with will be ok with you touching their knee. Now he knows you want verbal consent for every part of something physical, fine, that’s a-okay. But sexual harassment is unwanted sexual advances, and it sounds like you did want this but would have been more comfortable if it had been discussed before. He knows that now.
Yes, you are incompatible and he is treating you like an afterthought which is going nowhere here or at its best isn't guaranteed to go anywhere. As also a Muslim who dated a Christian before, it's time to break up.
You're being abused, and you deserve so much better. Think of all that she did over the course of your trip and throughout your entire relationship. Then, picture if the genders were reversed and it was your sister or mother or cousin telling you her partner did all of those things. You'd advise her to leave the abusive prick, wouldn't you? Think about that, please.
Don't give in easily. For once try to take a naked stance and see what he has to say and do first before jumping the gun to give him another chance. You may be a softie but there comes a time you have to let it go and be a hardass for a change.
I’m sorry, no, that’s the convenient lie that people tell themselves to avoid admitting that the issue is their partner. The vast majority of judges do not want to weigh in on divorce proceedings if the parties can resolve things. It’s literally not worth the judges time.
If you are at the point of blaming the courts, you are admitting that you cannot resolve the conflict with your partner in the event of the divorce … and if you are anticipating a conflict based on greed, as in this scenario, the at fault party is one’s soon to be former spouse.
He's right though.
There are exceptions, endless examples of devotion by both sexes … but the reality is that men are less likely to adhere to an ill mate than women are. As I said … there are endless examples of men that are exceptions to the trend. All are deserving of respect and admiration which I have for them. The same respect and admiration is due anyone that cares for the health and well being of another.
her answers are so different in every comment I wanted to ask directly, in one comment she says he saved $10 and blows all of it and the next he has $150k-300k. In the original post she doesn’t even say she has x amount of money saved, just that she’d been saving for 5 years. the whole post is wild.
In my opinion if I’m married and I want to snoop…I’ll snoop all day everyday if I feel the need to. Typically there’s a reason or something just feels off. I don’t snoop just for the hell of it. If I find something or have a question I will absolutely bring it up. There is no crime in wanting transparency and honesty in a relationship.
Where did i say that?
Better option, dump him then work there.
And update us with pictures. Of the working conditions. For scientific purposes. Jk.
On a more serious note, making threats and ultimatum about ending the relationship is serious and should not be treated lightly.
When you break up, make sure to delete all your content and check for backups. Cloud, naked drive, etc.