You guys are way to critical and suspicious. Handling work situations like this can be tricky, she blew him off the first time hoping he would get the hint.
He asks her in person for whatever reason she panics and says, sure! Her saving grace is she canceled it without knowing her boyfriend was aware of the date. Yeah, she did not tell him but she was probably hoping she had corrected a mistake and no need open a can of worms in case her boyfriend (OP) overthinks things and starts a reddit post!
She canceled the “date”, talk to your girlfriend, explain how you feel, so she can handle these types of situations better in the future.
Can you online with this behavior for years? Decades?
This is who he is. It's not going to change. He enjoys being obnoxious. Love and good sex and affection aren't going to be enough to make this work if you're chronically annoyed with him.
Lube! Lube! Lube! Get the good, expensive kind. And it will work…do some research on the types of lubes available…there's some that enhance the woman's pleasure. Also have a glass of wine to unwind a little bit before…because stress will keep it tight down there.
You’ve tried communication, seducing him and nothing has worked. And on top of everything he’s also cheating by using those silly apps and watching porn.
Why? Why do you think this is ok? If your best friend described this situation to you what would you tell them? I'm glad he's seeking help but this is a long time problem. It's also a problem you cannot fix. Only he can and it doesn't seem to be one he wants to fix. You are young as you put it the bread winner. You can handle being alone. You can handle putting pressure on him to grow the fuck up and do something with himself so he'll feel validated enough not to contact sex workers. And just because you share a bank account doesn't mean he's not spending money on them.
Why are you so hung up on her saying that she has a boyfriend. She made up a perfectly normal and logical excuse and isn't doing anything wrong. It sounds very possessive of you and as if you want to lay stake to her in front of other men. She is not your property, let it go ..
Think of it this way – if your girlfriend was in your shoes and you were in hers, how would you react? Would you need a recording to support your SO? If you think you'd act just like she is acting now, keep dating her. If not, dump her – be with someone who treats you with the same respect and love that you treat them with.
The fact that he views the ex more important than you the person he’s with is a red flag. Him helping her out isn’t the problem him being secretive about it is. Look out for yourself get whatever you need to get in order just in case.
Pack your stuff, go home.
You guys are way to critical and suspicious. Handling work situations like this can be tricky, she blew him off the first time hoping he would get the hint.
He asks her in person for whatever reason she panics and says, sure! Her saving grace is she canceled it without knowing her boyfriend was aware of the date. Yeah, she did not tell him but she was probably hoping she had corrected a mistake and no need open a can of worms in case her boyfriend (OP) overthinks things and starts a reddit post!
She canceled the “date”, talk to your girlfriend, explain how you feel, so she can handle these types of situations better in the future.
Good luck!
Can you online with this behavior for years? Decades?
This is who he is. It's not going to change. He enjoys being obnoxious. Love and good sex and affection aren't going to be enough to make this work if you're chronically annoyed with him.
Lube! Lube! Lube! Get the good, expensive kind. And it will work…do some research on the types of lubes available…there's some that enhance the woman's pleasure. Also have a glass of wine to unwind a little bit before…because stress will keep it tight down there.
How is this relevant to what is going on here? 😀
You’ve tried communication, seducing him and nothing has worked. And on top of everything he’s also cheating by using those silly apps and watching porn.
This might sound cliché but ✨LEAVE HIM✨
Why? Why do you think this is ok? If your best friend described this situation to you what would you tell them? I'm glad he's seeking help but this is a long time problem. It's also a problem you cannot fix. Only he can and it doesn't seem to be one he wants to fix. You are young as you put it the bread winner. You can handle being alone. You can handle putting pressure on him to grow the fuck up and do something with himself so he'll feel validated enough not to contact sex workers. And just because you share a bank account doesn't mean he's not spending money on them.
Dude get a prenump… or just break up bc this is nuts…
Why are you so hung up on her saying that she has a boyfriend. She made up a perfectly normal and logical excuse and isn't doing anything wrong. It sounds very possessive of you and as if you want to lay stake to her in front of other men. She is not your property, let it go ..
Once clothes go into the basket/hamper/”dirty-clothes chair” they should be machine-ready.
It's the wearer's responsibility to check pockets, not the washer.
Going to try to record him.
After that, dump your gf.
OP seriously – have some self respect.
Think of it this way – if your girlfriend was in your shoes and you were in hers, how would you react? Would you need a recording to support your SO? If you think you'd act just like she is acting now, keep dating her. If not, dump her – be with someone who treats you with the same respect and love that you treat them with.
The fact that he views the ex more important than you the person he’s with is a red flag. Him helping her out isn’t the problem him being secretive about it is. Look out for yourself get whatever you need to get in order just in case.
This is where you can be your own enemy. Take care of yourself. Stop hosting. Tell everyone you need a bit of a break and someone else can host.