I’m so sorry. But at the end of the day, you can not be in a relationship in which you’re not the priority. Or rather, you deserve better than that. Jesse is letting Thomas come between the two of you, whether he will admit it or not. You’re investing in a relationship in which you’re not the primary partner.
You also shouldn’t be in a relationship just to protect Jesse from Thomas’s manipulation and abuse. If Jesse won’t address the problem himself, that is going to have to be his own burden to bear.
Have you spoken with any of Jesse’s other friends about this?
She probably thinks you're her best friend and is trying to make herself available to you. You just need to have a serious sit down conversation with her and a trusted mutual.
If she loses or damages it, she gets money or replacement. It is hers. If they break up, he gets the money or the ring. She buys the insurance. It protects her. Once or if he gets it back, he buys insurance or sells it or keeps it, whatever he wants. Hopefully, all goes well. Pretty straightforward. Silly thing to argue about.
Yes, this does make you an asshole. It takes so little effort to help out your friend. He clearly trusts you, and you want to charge him for that? If you weren’t okay with him using your address you could have said something. Now it’s gonna be difficult for him to change, charging him for him mailing stuff to your house is a major asshole move. Don’t do it.
I don't say if this is fake or not, but the husband and friend are disgusting. Do you think it's better for your kids to grow up in a home of misery and betrayal and bad morals? Stop letting this husband gaslight you.
Thanks for your perspective, it definitely helps to hear it from someone else who has similar social anxiety. I'm looking into the therapy, I think it will help, but also being cognizant of the way she perceives me/my actions is important to reflect on
Maybe unstable was the wrong word – that was meant in terms of what you described and the mention of BPD (they may not be unstable at all in their own lives).
You mention ADHD. I guess another possibility is how neurodivergence can play into connection, if that applies (and who wants to be vanilla anyway).
Wdym because how it started? You mean the fact that i was already bestfriends with the dude for years before even dating him is a bad start for a relationship?? ?
It could be you (sorry dude, i dont know your hygiene habits, your romantic gestures or your habits with helping out around the house/paying bills) or it could be menopause.
Do not buy a house with this man. He is showing you who he really is, not the nice face he showed at first. Make arrangements to move unless you're the (only) one on the lease.
Yes he has our relationship is a lot better now we’ve definitely been communicating a lot better the past few months
Yes, I understand. But just using it as an analogy
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I’m so sorry. But at the end of the day, you can not be in a relationship in which you’re not the priority. Or rather, you deserve better than that. Jesse is letting Thomas come between the two of you, whether he will admit it or not. You’re investing in a relationship in which you’re not the primary partner.
You also shouldn’t be in a relationship just to protect Jesse from Thomas’s manipulation and abuse. If Jesse won’t address the problem himself, that is going to have to be his own burden to bear.
Have you spoken with any of Jesse’s other friends about this?
Good idea
She probably thinks you're her best friend and is trying to make herself available to you. You just need to have a serious sit down conversation with her and a trusted mutual.
Good luck
If she loses or damages it, she gets money or replacement. It is hers. If they break up, he gets the money or the ring. She buys the insurance. It protects her. Once or if he gets it back, he buys insurance or sells it or keeps it, whatever he wants. Hopefully, all goes well. Pretty straightforward. Silly thing to argue about.
Ewww. Tell her to make more money herself. Gold digger.
Yes, this does make you an asshole. It takes so little effort to help out your friend. He clearly trusts you, and you want to charge him for that? If you weren’t okay with him using your address you could have said something. Now it’s gonna be difficult for him to change, charging him for him mailing stuff to your house is a major asshole move. Don’t do it.
I don't say if this is fake or not, but the husband and friend are disgusting. Do you think it's better for your kids to grow up in a home of misery and betrayal and bad morals? Stop letting this husband gaslight you.
Thanks for your perspective, it definitely helps to hear it from someone else who has similar social anxiety. I'm looking into the therapy, I think it will help, but also being cognizant of the way she perceives me/my actions is important to reflect on
Maybe unstable was the wrong word – that was meant in terms of what you described and the mention of BPD (they may not be unstable at all in their own lives).
You mention ADHD. I guess another possibility is how neurodivergence can play into connection, if that applies (and who wants to be vanilla anyway).
Is he going to be OK with you dating other guys while he's in prison Possible-Coconut-107? Some guys would have a problem with that.
Sounds like you picked another narcissist. So sorry.
What is not to like?
We just got married 6 weeks ago
Don't know if it's possible, but get an annulment.
Wdym because how it started? You mean the fact that i was already bestfriends with the dude for years before even dating him is a bad start for a relationship?? ?
It could be you (sorry dude, i dont know your hygiene habits, your romantic gestures or your habits with helping out around the house/paying bills) or it could be menopause.
Do not buy a house with this man. He is showing you who he really is, not the nice face he showed at first. Make arrangements to move unless you're the (only) one on the lease.
Thank you for explaining your theory 🙂
I agree I am obtuse. I took this to be a helpful sub, and asked for advice. Clearly I was a fool.
He said it, it's over. Just move on. If he really wants you back, he will come back, but don't wait for him.