Like other people said, you need to take control of the situation and put it down now. If anything goes wrong, regardless of whether it’s your fault or not, it’s on you for not preventing it
I've seen people elope or get married with family in another country still have a bachelor party with friends back home. Even a court marriage one had a bachelor party, not 5 days, but if your friends are coming in from out of town, it makes sense to have a group vacation.
If childcare is your only concern, then I think it's reasonable to have once-in-a-lifetime events, like a 5-day trip with friends for a bachelor party. He's offered assistance via babysitter help, do you have any family or friends that could also help for a 5-day vacation?
NAH. but you would be if you just say no without trying to make it work.
Ten years ago I went on a date with a guy and had a blast. It was the best first date I’ve been on and we had a great connection. Second date, he picked me up and before we went anywhere, he said he had to tell me something before we went any further in the dating phase. He had genital herpes, and same as she told you, he was on antiviral and took precautions/was very aware of it. He got it from his exgf who had cheated on him and her ap had it.
We kept dating and in the back of my mind I was a little concerned, but did a lot of research on effects and chances I would get it and he was always open and honest about answering any questions I had.
Ten years, a marriage, and three kids later, the best decision of my life was not letting something as trivial as genital herpes stop me from dating him. And I still to this day test negative due to the precautions we have taken (even with unprotected sex to conceive children).
The things I learned are that genital herpes and herpes in general is WAY more common than I had thought, and with antiviral to minimizes breakouts and protection used, the chances of getting it from someone do drop dramatically lower.
A fight, loitering in the parking lot knbuour wedding dress, stealing the gifts, chasing a groomsman, abandoning the bride…. what in the hillbilly hell?
Cheating isn't just sex or physical. He is intentionally keeping things from you, I think it's just the thrill for him.
Oh I'd confront him. I'd want to watch him break the way he's been breaking me when I tell him I'm done. That I have given him chance after chance and he's done is gaslit me.
And i had mentioned getting a fleshlight before but she said that and porn are close to cheating because it isnt her. But i cant even get to her so idk she really wants me to stare at a blank wall at night when im horny and that kinda hits the pride a bit ya know
Honestly if you can try to move it might help. Definitely get a new therapist – no good therapist would recommend letting them in after all the emotional abuse/blackmail they’ve put you through. If they keep running into you tell them you’ll call the police for them harassing and stalking you. I’m so sorry, keep up the no contact because these people are insane and living in their own world.
Her threatening it means she’s already doing it
Tell him he has 30 days to find gainful employment or he's got to bounce.
Going away for a month doesn't sound overly crazy, going away for FIVE??? When your relationship is rocky, for a hobby? Yikes.
Thank you!
Start asking coworkers for recommendations
If you want kids at some point, consult the internet and your physician about the reversibility of it. Decide based on that.
Why would it ruin your friendship? Why would you be ostracized? Don't over think this. See girl, like girl, ask girl.
Like other people said, you need to take control of the situation and put it down now. If anything goes wrong, regardless of whether it’s your fault or not, it’s on you for not preventing it
I've seen people elope or get married with family in another country still have a bachelor party with friends back home. Even a court marriage one had a bachelor party, not 5 days, but if your friends are coming in from out of town, it makes sense to have a group vacation.
If childcare is your only concern, then I think it's reasonable to have once-in-a-lifetime events, like a 5-day trip with friends for a bachelor party. He's offered assistance via babysitter help, do you have any family or friends that could also help for a 5-day vacation?
NAH. but you would be if you just say no without trying to make it work.
You broke the bro code
Ten years ago I went on a date with a guy and had a blast. It was the best first date I’ve been on and we had a great connection. Second date, he picked me up and before we went anywhere, he said he had to tell me something before we went any further in the dating phase. He had genital herpes, and same as she told you, he was on antiviral and took precautions/was very aware of it. He got it from his exgf who had cheated on him and her ap had it.
We kept dating and in the back of my mind I was a little concerned, but did a lot of research on effects and chances I would get it and he was always open and honest about answering any questions I had.
Ten years, a marriage, and three kids later, the best decision of my life was not letting something as trivial as genital herpes stop me from dating him. And I still to this day test negative due to the precautions we have taken (even with unprotected sex to conceive children).
The things I learned are that genital herpes and herpes in general is WAY more common than I had thought, and with antiviral to minimizes breakouts and protection used, the chances of getting it from someone do drop dramatically lower.
A fight, loitering in the parking lot knbuour wedding dress, stealing the gifts, chasing a groomsman, abandoning the bride…. what in the hillbilly hell?
You’re trolling, right? There’s no chance this is real.
“He told me if I loved him, I'd look past it.”
Yeah, and because of what he did, you don't love him. Duh!
I really despise the type of trust that society pushes on relationships (also perpetrated by this sub)
You do not inherently trust people, you do so because they act trustworthy, those who do not act trustworthy should not be trusted
I genuinely think this sub has gotten so many people cheated on or allowed so many cheaters to get away with it
Cheating isn't just sex or physical. He is intentionally keeping things from you, I think it's just the thrill for him.
Oh I'd confront him. I'd want to watch him break the way he's been breaking me when I tell him I'm done. That I have given him chance after chance and he's done is gaslit me.
And i had mentioned getting a fleshlight before but she said that and porn are close to cheating because it isnt her. But i cant even get to her so idk she really wants me to stare at a blank wall at night when im horny and that kinda hits the pride a bit ya know
Honestly if you can try to move it might help. Definitely get a new therapist – no good therapist would recommend letting them in after all the emotional abuse/blackmail they’ve put you through. If they keep running into you tell them you’ll call the police for them harassing and stalking you. I’m so sorry, keep up the no contact because these people are insane and living in their own world.
Why do you want to stay with someone like this? Sounds like hell.