She still pressured him into something he didn't want to do and he's put off by it. He's allowed to have a lower sex drive and not be in the mood. The fact that people are saying she's done nothing wrong is bullshit. They're saying that because she's a woman. So he's not ok with her behavior but because he's a man it's supposedly abnormal and irrelevant. I still stand by my statement. It doesn't make it okay for her to treat him like that just because she's a woman. If it was him saying that to her, the responses would be very different. I swear, Reddit has turned into feminists land.
Sounds like your cousin is toxic and considers your relationship a source of personal entertainment, or something to satisfy her boredom and curiosity at the least.
This are not your problem. You can introduce your bf to your family on your own time, when you feel comfortable, and you owe no one an explanation.
Lots of family members don't meet the SO until the wedding. Or some other family event.
I suggest you ignore her. And if she pressures you further say honestly that her obsession with your romantic life is making you uncomfortable and you may need to distance yourself from her if she can't respect your boundaries.
Yeah your daughter might indeed resent you later this is very true. Your ex was very young and by the time your daughter is about that age she will likely reconsider the whole scenario from the perspective of a very young mother with PPD. It is a risk, though you don't owe the woman anything, I think you're right to consider that possibility. Hopefully she can find some other way to stay in the country
Ah… victim blaming. The old ‘she was asking for it…’ trope. By your code, noone should ever have a drink with their boss (and please note the power dynamic here), because it would make them responsible for their own assault.
She saw it on Instagram and wouldn’t leave me alone until I did it. And it was literally in no order I only have FOURA family members my father is dead and I’m an only child. So I just put it down
I’m going to die anyway, rot, be forgotten. the When is irrelevant because its all the same. I am a very small, insignificant cluster of atoms that just happens to be animated in a endlessly vast universe of shit that also doesn’t even matter because its all unreachable and unobservable in real time.
“… and then after all that she confessed that she had been having sex with Bigfoot and Elvis over the past 2 years. And she refused to get the King's autograph for me for my birthday. I was heartbroken!”
I am a woman and have a strong sex drive in relationships. This doesn’t mean you are a problem in your relationship, but sex is very important to a lot of people. I have been on the other side where it was less important for the guy than it was for me too.
The point is, you don’t have to force yourself to have sex, you may be asexual or have a low sex drive. That is okay. And frankly a great thing to know about yourself. Try to be upfront about it and communicate with your partner. Also look for dating apps with an asexual filter or option. If you date people with stronger drives just have that conversation about needs, wants, etc.
Sex is important, and compared to nothing, his sex drive isn't even necessarily high. Ultimately, he did the right thing, and I think there is probably someone out there for you too who will be more compatible.
He can be a great father from his house and you can be a great mother at your house. Many people do it.
This man will use cruelty as a weapon to you. He will use it on his child if they don't meet his standards. Don't fool yourself.
There are also many studies on men that leave their wives/partners after an illness, apparently so often that nurses now warn the women. This guy is absolutely superficial and you've seen it now. Don't let him gaslight you on this point.
“Time served” is a better way to look at it, or google 'Sunken Cost Fallacy'. If it's happened more than once, it will continue until one of you breaks the pattern. It won't be him… just sayin'…
It has not to be a confrontation. There shouldn't be angry words or an actual discussion. Just tell him that you are sad because you heard him call you that, and that you were down all the day because of it. If he loves you, I presume that he will listen to you and explain himself, and probably he will promise not doing again anymore.
I’m just chiming in as a woman here, women’s bodies can absolutely work that way. There are times when I am not in the mood to have sex with someone, I just want to have a moment of orgasm & move on with my day. I don’t even view sex and masturbation in the same wheelhouse, they’re different activities with different levels of emotional & physical engagement. Whether or not I feel like masturbating occasionally has nothing to do with my partner’s ability to satisfy me.
Well you should have phrased it differently…you weren't truthful when you said the party would be almost over by the time her got there…he probably sensed that
Some people share accounts and others don't. But mandating that you share only one account is not okay.
Forcing him to live! your parents' marriage isn't gonna work.
You can each keep your own and contribute proportional to income amounts to shared expenses and a little extra to a third account in both of your names, but if you require him to only have one account with both your names, that's unacceptable.
Update us when she replys.
What does “a princess” even mean?
She still pressured him into something he didn't want to do and he's put off by it. He's allowed to have a lower sex drive and not be in the mood. The fact that people are saying she's done nothing wrong is bullshit. They're saying that because she's a woman. So he's not ok with her behavior but because he's a man it's supposedly abnormal and irrelevant. I still stand by my statement. It doesn't make it okay for her to treat him like that just because she's a woman. If it was him saying that to her, the responses would be very different. I swear, Reddit has turned into feminists land.
Sounds like your cousin is toxic and considers your relationship a source of personal entertainment, or something to satisfy her boredom and curiosity at the least.
This are not your problem. You can introduce your bf to your family on your own time, when you feel comfortable, and you owe no one an explanation.
Lots of family members don't meet the SO until the wedding. Or some other family event.
I suggest you ignore her. And if she pressures you further say honestly that her obsession with your romantic life is making you uncomfortable and you may need to distance yourself from her if she can't respect your boundaries.
He’d send a pic of his check
Yeah your daughter might indeed resent you later this is very true. Your ex was very young and by the time your daughter is about that age she will likely reconsider the whole scenario from the perspective of a very young mother with PPD. It is a risk, though you don't owe the woman anything, I think you're right to consider that possibility. Hopefully she can find some other way to stay in the country
This just made me cry, thank you so much
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Ah… victim blaming. The old ‘she was asking for it…’ trope. By your code, noone should ever have a drink with their boss (and please note the power dynamic here), because it would make them responsible for their own assault.
Wow.
She saw it on Instagram and wouldn’t leave me alone until I did it. And it was literally in no order I only have FOURA family members my father is dead and I’m an only child. So I just put it down
He ignores u for weeks on end, u don’t stand anywhere
I’m going to die anyway, rot, be forgotten. the When is irrelevant because its all the same. I am a very small, insignificant cluster of atoms that just happens to be animated in a endlessly vast universe of shit that also doesn’t even matter because its all unreachable and unobservable in real time.
When Reddit meets fan fiction.
“… and then after all that she confessed that she had been having sex with Bigfoot and Elvis over the past 2 years. And she refused to get the King's autograph for me for my birthday. I was heartbroken!”
You're only seeing what he wants you to see.
I am a woman and have a strong sex drive in relationships. This doesn’t mean you are a problem in your relationship, but sex is very important to a lot of people. I have been on the other side where it was less important for the guy than it was for me too.
The point is, you don’t have to force yourself to have sex, you may be asexual or have a low sex drive. That is okay. And frankly a great thing to know about yourself. Try to be upfront about it and communicate with your partner. Also look for dating apps with an asexual filter or option. If you date people with stronger drives just have that conversation about needs, wants, etc.
You got this.
Sex is important, and compared to nothing, his sex drive isn't even necessarily high. Ultimately, he did the right thing, and I think there is probably someone out there for you too who will be more compatible.
He can be a great father from his house and you can be a great mother at your house. Many people do it.
This man will use cruelty as a weapon to you. He will use it on his child if they don't meet his standards. Don't fool yourself.
There are also many studies on men that leave their wives/partners after an illness, apparently so often that nurses now warn the women. This guy is absolutely superficial and you've seen it now. Don't let him gaslight you on this point.
“Time served” is a better way to look at it, or google 'Sunken Cost Fallacy'. If it's happened more than once, it will continue until one of you breaks the pattern. It won't be him… just sayin'…
This HAS to be fake. No way you didn’t know she has a penis for SIX MONTHS.
I wouldn’t tell him, he doesn’t need to know.
It has not to be a confrontation. There shouldn't be angry words or an actual discussion. Just tell him that you are sad because you heard him call you that, and that you were down all the day because of it. If he loves you, I presume that he will listen to you and explain himself, and probably he will promise not doing again anymore.
I’m just chiming in as a woman here, women’s bodies can absolutely work that way. There are times when I am not in the mood to have sex with someone, I just want to have a moment of orgasm & move on with my day. I don’t even view sex and masturbation in the same wheelhouse, they’re different activities with different levels of emotional & physical engagement. Whether or not I feel like masturbating occasionally has nothing to do with my partner’s ability to satisfy me.
She just seems stupid after a certain point. I get it, the guy is an asshole. But she's had so many chances to walk away?
Well you should have phrased it differently…you weren't truthful when you said the party would be almost over by the time her got there…he probably sensed that
Some people share accounts and others don't. But mandating that you share only one account is not okay.
Forcing him to live! your parents' marriage isn't gonna work.
You can each keep your own and contribute proportional to income amounts to shared expenses and a little extra to a third account in both of your names, but if you require him to only have one account with both your names, that's unacceptable.