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Well I mean she’s scared after a home invasion and her fiancé isn’t there. If all the guy is doing is basically house sitting, he should try to be a little understanding. A home invasion is pretty traumatic. Your house is typically your safe space. And when someone invaded like that, it’s very very scary and ruins the idea of it being your safe space.
Thank you. I am trying harder to take notice after we had an argument. I think this is a great idea once we get our daughter on a feeding schedule or can get ahead of pumping. There’s a pump she wants on Amazon right now and I am going to see what I can do about getting it tomorrow.
It's time to break up . You're at an impasse where there cannot be a compromise. It's either 100% embrace children or 100% not have any. Don't waste any more of his time hoping to run out the clock and don't put it on him to break up. It really sounds like you want him to be the bad guy. He isn't, He isn't the one who pulled the bait and switch.. That would be you. How nude is it to find a guy that doesn't want children? I have no idea but before you get into another relationship be 100% transparent about it. PS don't go and have a child in five years with someone else either so often when women say they don't want children they really mean I don't want children with you.
Not a guy, but my husband uses condoms during masturbation. Not often. Most of the time for less mess and it sometimes feels better with the lubed condoms. On certain toys, I use condoms on them for easier cleanup. Or any toy my husband uses on himself also gets a condom. I'm not saying hes cheating, but has their been changing behavior that makes you think he's cheating?
I feel like there's a lot missing here and everyone is just jumping to divorce as always. Why don't they like you? How do you treat them? Throwing money at a child doesn't mean anything if you don't fully love and respect them as people. What happened to their dad? Did he die? Maybe they don't want to get close to you because they feel they would be replacing their bio dad in their minds. Perhaps you should do family counseling before you jump straight to divorce to get to the bottom of things. Then you've actually tried everything before throwing in the towel.
Yep, that's the tough part alright. Convincing her that what's for your benefit is ultimately for hers as well. I suggest that you suggest that you try it out and be prepared to reassure and reassure and reassure her.
If you're already randomly doing little things to show that you love her, double them. If you're not, start. It'll be a rough transition, but your job is to show her beyond a shadow of a doubt that it isn't taking anything away from your relationship.
Ever have a weird thought like “I wonder what would happen if I pulled the emergency break on the car at 55 mph”? And then you think “why the hell did I think that??”
Last thing you want to do is “confess” that to loved ones. Find yourself on lithium weaving baskets in your bathrobe.
I know you are getting lots of downvotes. You are truly a lovely person. I wish you the best. And perhaps you are the miracle this child needs. Don’t forget about an attorney.
I'm with everyone else. End it. You feel disrespected and you were. Even if he didn't hear your help request, that doesn't explain everything else. He choose to slight you for whatever reason. You're better than that so find someone better than him.
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Well I mean she’s scared after a home invasion and her fiancé isn’t there. If all the guy is doing is basically house sitting, he should try to be a little understanding. A home invasion is pretty traumatic. Your house is typically your safe space. And when someone invaded like that, it’s very very scary and ruins the idea of it being your safe space.
Leave his ass
Thank you. I am trying harder to take notice after we had an argument. I think this is a great idea once we get our daughter on a feeding schedule or can get ahead of pumping. There’s a pump she wants on Amazon right now and I am going to see what I can do about getting it tomorrow.
Uh, that isn't what he said at all.
It's time to break up . You're at an impasse where there cannot be a compromise. It's either 100% embrace children or 100% not have any. Don't waste any more of his time hoping to run out the clock and don't put it on him to break up. It really sounds like you want him to be the bad guy. He isn't, He isn't the one who pulled the bait and switch.. That would be you. How nude is it to find a guy that doesn't want children? I have no idea but before you get into another relationship be 100% transparent about it. PS don't go and have a child in five years with someone else either so often when women say they don't want children they really mean I don't want children with you.
Not a guy, but my husband uses condoms during masturbation. Not often. Most of the time for less mess and it sometimes feels better with the lubed condoms. On certain toys, I use condoms on them for easier cleanup. Or any toy my husband uses on himself also gets a condom. I'm not saying hes cheating, but has their been changing behavior that makes you think he's cheating?
I feel like there's a lot missing here and everyone is just jumping to divorce as always. Why don't they like you? How do you treat them? Throwing money at a child doesn't mean anything if you don't fully love and respect them as people. What happened to their dad? Did he die? Maybe they don't want to get close to you because they feel they would be replacing their bio dad in their minds. Perhaps you should do family counseling before you jump straight to divorce to get to the bottom of things. Then you've actually tried everything before throwing in the towel.
Does he seems like he’s irritated or pretty much saying “ I have no time to see you”
What does his last message mean?
Having children together doesn’t mean anything. This woman is disgusting and definitely questionable at best for being with him
Yep, that's the tough part alright. Convincing her that what's for your benefit is ultimately for hers as well. I suggest that you suggest that you try it out and be prepared to reassure and reassure and reassure her.
If you're already randomly doing little things to show that you love her, double them. If you're not, start. It'll be a rough transition, but your job is to show her beyond a shadow of a doubt that it isn't taking anything away from your relationship.
And as always, consider couple's counseling.
Ever have a weird thought like “I wonder what would happen if I pulled the emergency break on the car at 55 mph”? And then you think “why the hell did I think that??”
Last thing you want to do is “confess” that to loved ones. Find yourself on lithium weaving baskets in your bathrobe.
I know you are getting lots of downvotes. You are truly a lovely person. I wish you the best. And perhaps you are the miracle this child needs. Don’t forget about an attorney.
BSing you into not throwing her out.
I'm with everyone else. End it. You feel disrespected and you were. Even if he didn't hear your help request, that doesn't explain everything else. He choose to slight you for whatever reason. You're better than that so find someone better than him.