And it doesn’t matter. I’m not giving you examples because you’ll just keep arguing. The issue is not “why or why not is porn disrespectful” it’s “how can I make my boyfriend think like I do?” AND YOU CAN’T.
Even when he admitted everything and are looking for help, am being honest and thankful of the advice given he gets downvoted into oblivion and told “yeah well you realised it too late”
C'mon, he knows that and has already been berated for it in the previous message from you specifically, he is specifically here to get more advice so he doesn't do it again and to ask what he'd done wrong
Take as it as a win the guy cares and realises what he's done and is trying to move forward
If money is tight, why not accept a free meal? I don’t get that, especially if you’re self aware of your situation. I’m never one to turn down an offer. If somebody wants to pay for something of mine, I’ll let ‘em! I’m not ashamed of that. Next time just let her pay if she wants to, pretty simple.
I fully agree on holding off on something as serious as marriage, I wouldn’t even consider getting into that situation. It hasn’t been happening for very long so I certainly don’t mind waiting longer, I want to give this relationship as much of a chance as I possibly can and I know he feels the same way about me. It’s odd how he talks about how happy he is with me yet we still have this barrier though
Yes it sounds like she’s already got both her feet out the door. Consider starting individual therapy and focus on improving yourself independent of what your wife does or thinks. Maybe after time and sustained improvement, she will see you in a new light. Or maybe you will meet someone else.
the only advice for you here is to actually come out to your parents.
if you don’t, you’re gonna wait until the dinner rolls around and it’ll be a real disaster. at least if you get the hard part out of the way now you give everybody some time to process the situation.
If this is real (reads like a scene from a bad porno)-divorce immediately, no therapy. He spent days sticking it to his step sis, instead of trying to make up for what he did, I’m also guessing it wasn’t the first time they’ve done it and it wasn’t the last.
She stated he’s untouchable in the industry, long term employee and well liked. Likely he would get nothing more than a reprimand. If she pushed it SHE would possibly be separated and the one who got transferred to another location. He apologized, said he wouldn’t contact her again and she deleted him. Is it right, not necessarily. But it happens 99% of the time. Business don’t want him (or other employees) suing later for wrongful termination.
But the boyfriend is taking this like it’s a personal Affront to him and making her think if she doesn’t report him and quit…He can’t Trust HER anymore. He is NOT the VICTIM.
FYI…Snapchat erases the minute you finish reading as I read from other commentors. So zero proof unless she used another phone to record as soon as she looked at the video. Doubtful.
My step mom can’t even respect her husband’s boundaries much less her step-kid who I’m pretty sure she doesn’t really like that much. ? Plus in her mind, she’s not doing anything wrong.
It just would suck if I can’t pursue more studies because of her.
She cheated on you man. Who cares that you’re texting other girls. You’re allowed to have friends of the opposite sex. What she did is cheat, what you did is talk. It’s not comparable.
The fact is that you’re her backup plan. Why are you ok with that? Wouldn’t you rather be someone’s first choice?
You need to work on your confidence and self esteem. Dump this girl, work on yourself then find someone better who will treat you right and commit to you
You're not overreacting! This is one of those life learning moments. Do what is best for you. Call your Mom and eject from the situation!
You are not listening.
And it doesn’t matter. I’m not giving you examples because you’ll just keep arguing. The issue is not “why or why not is porn disrespectful” it’s “how can I make my boyfriend think like I do?” AND YOU CAN’T.
I'd hate to come to Reddit for advice
Even when he admitted everything and are looking for help, am being honest and thankful of the advice given he gets downvoted into oblivion and told “yeah well you realised it too late”
C'mon, he knows that and has already been berated for it in the previous message from you specifically, he is specifically here to get more advice so he doesn't do it again and to ask what he'd done wrong
Take as it as a win the guy cares and realises what he's done and is trying to move forward
If money is tight, why not accept a free meal? I don’t get that, especially if you’re self aware of your situation. I’m never one to turn down an offer. If somebody wants to pay for something of mine, I’ll let ‘em! I’m not ashamed of that. Next time just let her pay if she wants to, pretty simple.
I fully agree on holding off on something as serious as marriage, I wouldn’t even consider getting into that situation. It hasn’t been happening for very long so I certainly don’t mind waiting longer, I want to give this relationship as much of a chance as I possibly can and I know he feels the same way about me. It’s odd how he talks about how happy he is with me yet we still have this barrier though
Yes it sounds like she’s already got both her feet out the door. Consider starting individual therapy and focus on improving yourself independent of what your wife does or thinks. Maybe after time and sustained improvement, she will see you in a new light. Or maybe you will meet someone else.
the only advice for you here is to actually come out to your parents.
if you don’t, you’re gonna wait until the dinner rolls around and it’ll be a real disaster. at least if you get the hard part out of the way now you give everybody some time to process the situation.
If this is real (reads like a scene from a bad porno)-divorce immediately, no therapy. He spent days sticking it to his step sis, instead of trying to make up for what he did, I’m also guessing it wasn’t the first time they’ve done it and it wasn’t the last.
She stated he’s untouchable in the industry, long term employee and well liked. Likely he would get nothing more than a reprimand. If she pushed it SHE would possibly be separated and the one who got transferred to another location. He apologized, said he wouldn’t contact her again and she deleted him. Is it right, not necessarily. But it happens 99% of the time. Business don’t want him (or other employees) suing later for wrongful termination.
But the boyfriend is taking this like it’s a personal Affront to him and making her think if she doesn’t report him and quit…He can’t Trust HER anymore. He is NOT the VICTIM.
FYI…Snapchat erases the minute you finish reading as I read from other commentors. So zero proof unless she used another phone to record as soon as she looked at the video. Doubtful.
Okayy i will do hehe. If this dude decide to mess up again, imma choose a better one?.
My step mom can’t even respect her husband’s boundaries much less her step-kid who I’m pretty sure she doesn’t really like that much. ? Plus in her mind, she’s not doing anything wrong.
It just would suck if I can’t pursue more studies because of her.
He himself refers to her as sis. But shes not blood related or by marriage.
Move on if she doesn't love now she won't later
She cheated on you man. Who cares that you’re texting other girls. You’re allowed to have friends of the opposite sex. What she did is cheat, what you did is talk. It’s not comparable.
The fact is that you’re her backup plan. Why are you ok with that? Wouldn’t you rather be someone’s first choice?
You need to work on your confidence and self esteem. Dump this girl, work on yourself then find someone better who will treat you right and commit to you