Yeh the relationship is over no one should put up with that childish bollocks – what is it with ppl thinking they are entitled to having a free/cheap ride based on someone else’s success these days
You can’t un-put a baby in her. Plan to be in this child’s life and support it for the next 18+ years. Plan a co-parenting strategy with your ex. Maybe paternity test let’s you off the hook but the time to worry about your future was a month ago. Hope the new girl sticks around till the drama is sorted out, but that’s asking a lot of a brand new relationship. Good luck to you.
At the very least, the roommate has become overly emotionally reliant and has developed an entitlement to your time and energy without your direct consent.
So you’ll have to draw a sharp boundary, and not care if it hurts feelings.
“I’m sorry you in pain the other night, but it’s not acceptable for you to wake me up without asking and emotionally vent like I’m a human empathy machine. I do care, and I’ve been happy to listen and be supportive, but this is far from the first time you’ve crossed a line. I’d still like to be friends [if that’s what you want OP], but I think I’ll take some distance and we can reset.”
There’s no way to do this without upsetting him, but you should talk to your boyfriend beforehand so he’s not blindsided by a skewed story from his friend.
You did the right thing. Don't second guess yourself. Stay true to yourself. There is someone for everyone in this world. Not just one.
Yeh the relationship is over no one should put up with that childish bollocks – what is it with ppl thinking they are entitled to having a free/cheap ride based on someone else’s success these days
There are jobs you can do at home?
Most men are in relationships where there is no doubt. But, sure, there are men who don't have that certainty, and tests are available.
If you’re ok and he’s ok then it’s ok
Don’t tell her, stop looking, easy fixed ?
You can’t un-put a baby in her. Plan to be in this child’s life and support it for the next 18+ years. Plan a co-parenting strategy with your ex. Maybe paternity test let’s you off the hook but the time to worry about your future was a month ago. Hope the new girl sticks around till the drama is sorted out, but that’s asking a lot of a brand new relationship. Good luck to you.
youre experiencing the consequences of your actions, too bad so sad
At the very least, the roommate has become overly emotionally reliant and has developed an entitlement to your time and energy without your direct consent.
So you’ll have to draw a sharp boundary, and not care if it hurts feelings.
“I’m sorry you in pain the other night, but it’s not acceptable for you to wake me up without asking and emotionally vent like I’m a human empathy machine. I do care, and I’ve been happy to listen and be supportive, but this is far from the first time you’ve crossed a line. I’d still like to be friends [if that’s what you want OP], but I think I’ll take some distance and we can reset.”
There’s no way to do this without upsetting him, but you should talk to your boyfriend beforehand so he’s not blindsided by a skewed story from his friend.