It's currently on average under 40k for a bachelors from a state school, and adjusting for inflation and increasing education costs, one would expect it to be significantly under 100k in 15 years or so even if they get absolutely no scholarships or loans. Stop discouraging people by exaggerating the cost of college.
Get a lawyer, don't tell her. Let her say what she wants and watch what you say.
Your a father you are not torn between anything. It's your son and love. Or son without love. Your ex is going to always make issues until she finds someone else. Guaranteed.
I suppose I had my mind changed for me, didn’t want any, unexpectedly had one, no regrets. I have friends who have never wanted kids and haven’t changed their minds and friends who have. All of it is fine. If you have the means to freeze your eggs maybe do that so that if you do change your mind there are options.
To many people, having sex in a relationship is important, even a defining characteristic of a monogamous romantic relationship. But If you’re ok with never having sex again for the rest of your life, then you should definitely stay with her.
I know! It’s kind of hilarious at this point. She’s called me a man, then gotten mad that I was a woman, then got mad I was happily married, then tried to accuse me of using my sleeping husband for sex (because I had to explain to her you can text from bed beside your partner because she also broke down about that and hadn’t even mentioned sex).
Why would I have any reason I troll about this situation? Why would I lie about anything when I'm coming to other to ask for help. Accusing someone of that isnt fair.
Yes I agree. It really sucks though because we have been having so many talks with full honesty and vulnerability. I really tried to get him to give me AND himself more space and time to process, but he was adamant that he wanted to get back together. He did mention at one point that he has urges of revenge and doing it back, but he thought that it would just mess things up further. In general the way he talked to me it really seemed that he was coming to terms with everything. But I guess maybe he was lying to himself also. I don't know. Thank you though, I am staying at my own place and haven't talked to him since. I see now that a genuine break, breakup, or atleast sufficient time apart, is necessary
he is free to communicate his feelings on whatever he wants. he owes her nothing when it comes to staying silent on things he feels are an issue in the relationship.
she is free to communicate or not communicate her feelings on anything she wants. she owes him nothing when it comes to defending her reasoning to not want sex.
he is free to make his choice from there on if this is a relationship he wants to continue – he owes her nothing when it comes to staying with her if he does not feel the relationship is fulfilling to him.
most of the time when someone consistently doesn't want sex with their partner the answer is they are not attracted to them sexually/physically. we can try and make that not reality all we want, but that's usually the case. once you get to the point where you have had the convo once and nothing organically changed from it, you're now in the territory of pestering and pressuring your partner for sex. you'll be in the same place months and years down the road and look back and realize it was so fucking obvious that they just weren't into you that way anymore and you cannot force someone to want you sexually.
Yeah that’s gross behaviour and it seems like a toxic relationship anyways from the way you guys text each other. It’s not worth it to keep putting up with someone who belittles you and calls you names. He will promise to change, tell you what you want to hear, and continue doing the exact same thing.
Dating only 3 months? She told you she doesnt want the relationship with you. So you have to respect that and move on.
I know its fun to be petty and mean, but thats not the right thing to do. Its always best to just be respectful and go your separate ways. It doesnt matter if what she did was wrong. You are responsible for being a respectful and kind person.
I can promise you she's not doing as well as she's letting on. The reason she's going out with loads of different people might be because of some pathological hole she's trying to fill with external validation. Block her on everything.
Just watched the movie today lol, so accurate
yes i did know that, i’m getting tested soon i always test with each new partner. infertility is my worst fear
Pretty much a deal breaker to me
It's currently on average under 40k for a bachelors from a state school, and adjusting for inflation and increasing education costs, one would expect it to be significantly under 100k in 15 years or so even if they get absolutely no scholarships or loans. Stop discouraging people by exaggerating the cost of college.
I’m just afraid that if I wait it out and don’t say anything, eventually a point will come where she starts talking to me about some other guy she met
That's understandable. I guess I should have mentioned they tend to not know a number of things about me in general.
Then make yourself as nice as a Christmas as you can on your own, and think about ways you can express some appreciation for your life, going forward.
Get a lawyer, don't tell her. Let her say what she wants and watch what you say.
Your a father you are not torn between anything. It's your son and love. Or son without love. Your ex is going to always make issues until she finds someone else. Guaranteed.
Are you sure you’re 26 and not 14?
Oh and his comment about her trying to make out with him? I'm sorry but I call bullshit.
Your spidey senses are tingling for a reason 🙂
As an ADHD person, that's only possible if he's abusing his meds.
I suppose I had my mind changed for me, didn’t want any, unexpectedly had one, no regrets. I have friends who have never wanted kids and haven’t changed their minds and friends who have. All of it is fine. If you have the means to freeze your eggs maybe do that so that if you do change your mind there are options.
What happens if the coworker decides to give you that attention again
Nope! You have roughly a 20% chance.
Then you don’t agree to such marriage. Simple
To many people, having sex in a relationship is important, even a defining characteristic of a monogamous romantic relationship. But If you’re ok with never having sex again for the rest of your life, then you should definitely stay with her.
It sounds like you are trying to force this relationship and manipulate her tbh. I’d reevaluate things
I'd say that he's not your favourite comedian and then suggest something else.
I know! It’s kind of hilarious at this point. She’s called me a man, then gotten mad that I was a woman, then got mad I was happily married, then tried to accuse me of using my sleeping husband for sex (because I had to explain to her you can text from bed beside your partner because she also broke down about that and hadn’t even mentioned sex).
Why would I have any reason I troll about this situation? Why would I lie about anything when I'm coming to other to ask for help. Accusing someone of that isnt fair.
The fact that you believe everything in your relationship is your fault means you need to end it! He’s gaslighting you.
Yes I agree. It really sucks though because we have been having so many talks with full honesty and vulnerability. I really tried to get him to give me AND himself more space and time to process, but he was adamant that he wanted to get back together. He did mention at one point that he has urges of revenge and doing it back, but he thought that it would just mess things up further. In general the way he talked to me it really seemed that he was coming to terms with everything. But I guess maybe he was lying to himself also. I don't know. Thank you though, I am staying at my own place and haven't talked to him since. I see now that a genuine break, breakup, or atleast sufficient time apart, is necessary
This whole post is so pathetic.
here is how it works:
he is free to communicate his feelings on whatever he wants. he owes her nothing when it comes to staying silent on things he feels are an issue in the relationship.
she is free to communicate or not communicate her feelings on anything she wants. she owes him nothing when it comes to defending her reasoning to not want sex.
he is free to make his choice from there on if this is a relationship he wants to continue – he owes her nothing when it comes to staying with her if he does not feel the relationship is fulfilling to him.
most of the time when someone consistently doesn't want sex with their partner the answer is they are not attracted to them sexually/physically. we can try and make that not reality all we want, but that's usually the case. once you get to the point where you have had the convo once and nothing organically changed from it, you're now in the territory of pestering and pressuring your partner for sex. you'll be in the same place months and years down the road and look back and realize it was so fucking obvious that they just weren't into you that way anymore and you cannot force someone to want you sexually.
yes that makes sense. thank you
Yeah that’s gross behaviour and it seems like a toxic relationship anyways from the way you guys text each other. It’s not worth it to keep putting up with someone who belittles you and calls you names. He will promise to change, tell you what you want to hear, and continue doing the exact same thing.
Dating only 3 months? She told you she doesnt want the relationship with you. So you have to respect that and move on.
I know its fun to be petty and mean, but thats not the right thing to do. Its always best to just be respectful and go your separate ways. It doesnt matter if what she did was wrong. You are responsible for being a respectful and kind person.
I can promise you she's not doing as well as she's letting on. The reason she's going out with loads of different people might be because of some pathological hole she's trying to fill with external validation. Block her on everything.